How to Heal and Unite Your Inner Feminine and Masculine

The Pride by Cherie Roe DirksenTo recap on this blog series with transformational coach, Tracy Russell, please first read:

Ever Wanted to Fly? (Blog 1)

Do You Know the Difference Between Your Superconscious and Subconscious Mind? (Blog 2)

Cherie: What are we going to be delving into this time?

Tracy: This week we’ll be exploring the feminine attributes represented below by the egg – the receptive, ‘being’ energy, and the masculine represented by the caterpillar – the active, ‘doing’ energy. EmergentImaginal Model-4 The feminine receives the ideas, insights, intuition and guidance and the masculine aspect offers support and structure to action them. Both are needed to birth new life and to bring dreams into fruition.

There are masculine and feminine attributes in all of life. Nature teaches us the beautiful dance between these wild feminine and masculine aspects.

Both are needed to bring balance and wholeness, and yet our patriarchal society has largely suppressed, controlled and dominated the feminine. She who is mother nature and our very own nature… our creative, intuitive, receptive, empathic, heart-centred selves.

It’s time for her to be reborn through each one of us, so that we may stop the suffering and destruction within ourselves and on this planet.

Cherie: That was beautifully articulated, thank you. What, in your opinion, is the key attribute to actively bringing our divine feminine and masculine into balance?

Tracy: I see this yin and yang balance representing communication, which is the process whereby we bring about communion (unity, intimacy wholeness).

The balance of the feminine and masculine is likened to the in breath and the out breath.  It is the receiving and the giving, the listening and the speaking, the content and the delivery — within ourselves and with each other.

When this is off balance we struggle to connect to our truth and intuition and express and action it and thus we struggle to connect and communicate with each other.

Cherie:  Can you share with us any personal experiences with regards to shifting these two aspects into equilibrium?

Tracy: Part of my journey has been to heal the suppression and wounding of my inner feminine, as well as my wounded masculine aspect so that I can trust that he is able to support and direct my feminine energy, birthing my full potential.

My feminine hasn’t trusted the masculine. She’s been hurt, betrayed and violated for centuries so she didn’t trust that inner or outer masculine to support her, that he will act on her behalf and in her best interests. It’s safer not to take action and speak and express her truth , that way she won’t be rejected or made to feel wrong.

“When the pure essence of the masculine energy is distorted, it turns into aggression. When the true essence of the feminine is distorted, it becomes resentful and withdraws love and connectedness. The feminine energy is all about relationship, connecting with love and support and nurturance, sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. The masculine, in its true essence, gets the job done in a way that is reliable, trustworthy, protective. When the masculine is balanced, it responds and communicates in such a way that others feel safe, physically as well as emotionally .“

– Ayal Hurst

This wounding can put us in victim mode where we feel that everything is happening to us and that we’re at the effect of life, bouncing off everything like an aimless pinball.

Cherie:  What advice can you give the readers to identify, within themselves, the wounded or out of alignment facets of our yin/yang nature?

Tracy: In order to heal these aspects, it’s important to be honest with ourselves.

  • Where do you see these distorted patterns playing out?
  • Where are you withholding or playing victim?
  • Where are you in avoidance or trying to control?
  • What are you attracting in your life?

This will show those areas that are out of balance. If you’re trying to control everything in your life, you’re probably not trusting yourself and the process of life. If you’re in avoidance, you’re likely not wanting to feel your truth and step into your full power.

Once you shine a torch on a shadow aspect, it has nowhere to hide and is now part of the light. When you love and accept that part, it can no longer hold that negative charge and have power over you. FeminineAndMasculine Cherie:  Very powerful stuff! What benefits will we be able to see, feel or notice when we step into balance?

Tracy: The more you step into the natural qualities of the masculine and feminine, the more of your power you reclaim, becoming less triggered and reactive because you’re no longer avoiding and afraid of acknowledging that part of you.

You‘ll allow the Natural feminine within you to fully flower and set clear boundaries that honour all that you are and want for your life.

We need to allow the intuition, power and creativity of the feminine to flow, but we also need the framework and boundaries of the masculine to action and execute those ideas and dreams, otherwise there’s no container and your ideas and insights leak out without being fully harnessed.

Female energy without masculine energy is not whole; it’s unsupported, unfocused and scattered. It has no purpose and as a result can’t reach its full potential. For our creative spirit within our being to truly express itself, there must be a marriage at the deepest levels of our being.

The purpose of this inner marriage is to create a new life and a new world at the core of our being which manifests externally. This is the change we’re called to become.

Cherie:  I couldn’t agree more! That was very illuminating and inspiring.  Thank you, Tracy.

In the final article we’ll bring the superconscious, subconscious, masculine and feminine principles together and learn how to create and live into our full potential.

More about Tracy:

Tracy Russell Profile PicTracy Russell is transformational coach, facilitator, writer and speaker guiding adults and young adults to their hearts, inner nature, authentic power and potential so that they may share their unique expression with the world and be the rEVOLUTION that’s needed. She’s a truth-detective, edge-walker, nature-lover, fear-slayer, heart-activist and Wild Hearted Woman in training. She lives in Cape Town, South Africa where you’ll find her either up a rock face, somewhere in nature, dancing or hanging out with her beloved, spirited daughter… when she’s not doing the work she loves of course.

Find her on Facebook HERE

Visit her Site HERE (Tracy’s website will be emerging over the next few weeks, as she’s in the process of birthing it to life)

Do You Know the Difference Between Your Superconscious and Subconscious Mind?

In a previous blog Tracy Russell led us through the teachings of the butterfly metamorphosis — how we each have the blueprint of potential within us to work through the layers of conditioning that disconnect us from our truth.  You can recap on that blog HERE.

In this blog Tracy will take us through connecting to our highest vision or version of self, as well as the shadow aspects that will consequently arise.

“Our heart glows, and secret unrest gnaws at the root of our being. Dealing with the unconscious has become a question of life for us.” ~ Carl Jung

Cherie:  You have developed a diagram that helps us to visually understand the concept represented by the butterfly’s transitional states as a metaphor to our lives — can you expand on what the cross symbolizes?

Tracy:  In the diagram below I’ve used the cross to represent the unconscious and the conscious.

There is only ONE MIND – which, for the sake of convenience and understanding, we’ll divide, according to its functions, into the conscious and unconscious minds, which is further divided into superconscious and subconscious.

One ancient definition of the cross is ‘the cross of matter’, the vertical bar representing spirit, which interpenetrates the horizontal bar representing matter or the earth plane (horizon line). This is symbolic of bringing heaven to earth.

EmergentImaginal Model-3The world of the caterpillar is black and white, his sight is limited and he knows what to do based on what he’s been taught.

He’s conditioned to consume and stay on his isolated tree, not knowing that there’s a whole world of colour beyond his limited perception.

Similarly we go about our life only connecting to the 5% of information that is filtered via our senses and self talk forming our conscious reality and often fail to tap into the 95% that is our unconscious mind.

Cherie:  Can you expand on what roles our superconscious state of mind plays in our lives?

Tracy:  It functions best when the conscious mind is not mulling over problems, but rather focused on solving them and looking for solutions (energy flows where focus goes.). Then when the conscious mind is focused elsewhere, ideas will often flash into the mind.

When you get an intuitive flash/idea act on it immediately, the more rapidly you act on these insights the more insights you receive.

The unconscious mind communicates in pictures , metaphors and synchronicities. Visualization and imagining are powerful ways to engage in two-way communication.

Any thought, plan, goal or idea held continuously in the conscious mind will get brought into our reality by the superconscious mind, whether positive or negative. Therefore it’s important to be conscious of what you’re focused on.

Think of it as a mainframe computer that you can tap into in each NOW moment (your point of power).

SuperconsciousCall it universal mind, cosmic consciousness, infinite intelligence — it’s where we source our ideas and receive inspiration and life force energy from.

It’s not something outside of ourselves, it is at the core of our being. It’s the source of all creativity. It’s the genius mind that Einstein Mozart, Beethoven, Thomas Edison and countless others knew how to access.

Cherie:  Well, that really helps to clarify the role of superconscious. It’s definitely where I get most of my inspiration from — especially whilst in a meditative state. So how do we actively engage the superconscious to better our lives?

Tracy: Whether you’re wanting to create a new project, a new life or live more into your truth, the first step is to connect to that vision, the butterfly… the end result.

  • Imagine what it would be like to live your most juiciest, fulfilled, passionate life.
  • What would you be doing? What can you see? What can you feel? (engage all your senses)
  • If you had no limitations whatsoever, what would your life look like?
  • If you had no self-doubt what kind of person would you be?

The thing about growth is that it’s not linear, there is no A to B where you get to a grand finish line, throw your hands up in the air and shout “I’ve arrived!”

Growth is infinite and happens in a spiral of contraction and expansion.

Just remember that when you shine a light on the inner butterfly (that free, expansive liberated self) you will also be illuminating, to the same degree, the shadow self (fears, beliefs and limitations).

You’ll feel the contraction of all that’s not in alignment with your vision.

I’m sure you’ve experienced an epiphany or grand idea which lights you up completely (often at night when your unconscious is more active) and then you wake up in the morning to “What was I thinking, I can’t do that!” Then all the excuses and doubts appear and you’re left feeling deflated.

Remember your imaginal discs (potential) are a higher frequency and those fears and doubts that live on a lower vibration will fight for survival. And yet they hold great gifts and power for us if we learn how to transmute and alchemise them.

Just as any hero in a story has to slay some dragons in order to come through the other side victorious, so do we need to use our challenges and perceived limitations as tools for growth so that we can eventually bridge the gap between our current reality and desired reality.

These beliefs and fears lurk in the shadow of our subconscious mind and it’s a necessary part of growth and transformation to be able to face, feel and heal these aspects so we can return to wholeness.

This is what happens within the chrysalis — the butterfly who’s wanting to emerge and the caterpillar needing to die so that this new vision/ higher aspect of self can be re-birthed.

Yet the old dies hard and doesn’t give up without a fight!

Dictionary: (from the Latin revolutio, “a turn around”) is a fundamental change in power or organizational structures that takes place in a relatively short period of time.

This is the revolution within, where there’s a shift in power from your head to your heart — from fear to empowerment, restriction to freedom.

Cherie:  Thank you. I’m sure we can all relate to what you have outlined there about the superconscious and how we can tap into it and trust our heart guidance more. Now for the subconscious — how can we better understand ourselves through this aspect of mind?

Tracy:  The term Subconscious mind is an individual accumulation of knowledge through personal experience and ideas that have been fixed through education, repetition or impact which form your conditioning and it controls ±97% of our behavior!  Here are some characteristics of the subconscious:

  • subconsciousIt can’t tell real from imagined – whatever picture or image you send it, it believes it to be absolutely true.
  • It stores memories, beliefs, habits and generates your instincts.
  • The conditioned mind doesn’t’ know the difference between a truth and a lie, it can’t process negatives.
  • It takes everything personally… there is no one else but you.
  • It represses memories with unresolved emotions and presents them for resolution when ready.
  • Runs the body. Has a blueprint of the body now and of perfect health.
  • Generates, stores, distributes and transmits energy.
  • Functions best as a whole integrated unit, not as parts.

Cherie:  So it’s like our ‘auto-pilot’ but we’ve got to switch to manual. How do we do this?

Tracy:  Your subconscious mind contains all the mental and emotional imprints from the past, your beliefs about yourself and the world around you.  You’ve got to ask yourself:

  • What beliefs are you holding that are not serving your highest good and potential?
  • Are they absolutely true?
  • How could the opposite belief be just as true?

Some beliefs could be “I don’t have the time” I need more money” “How can I do that?” I’m not good enough” I’m not experienced enough”.

Remember every problem has a solution and it’s to keep focused on the solution.

One of the greatest obstacles is not knowing HOW to create our vision and so we find excuses and keep waiting for the right time or conditions, or a treasure map with the coordinates to land in our lap!

Yet you don’t have to know the how of creating your vision. In fact if you know the how, you’re not moving beyond your comfort zone into your greater potential.

If you know the how it means you’ve done it before.

Growing into your potential involves moving beyond the known, into the unknown. You’re blazing a new trail one step at a time using courage to slay your dragons and passion and purpose to fuel and direct your journey.

Remember this is about bringing heaven to earth… activating the vibration of what you’re wanting to create into your reality RIGHT NOW.

Start your day in the vibration of who you truly are at the core of your being (LOVE) and do those things that add joy and sparkle to your every day whilst following your bliss… this is how you pave your way.

For more info on the unconscious mind and the natural laws download the pdf HERE. 

And if you’re wanting some help to unpack your vision, download this document with some questions to help get you started… Download HERE

Cherie: Awesome stuff, Tracy! Thank you so much for sharing your take on the superconscious and subconscious mind. I’m sure we all feel a lot more elucidated now.

In the next installment, Tracy will be discussing the integration of your inner feminine and masculine aspects and their role in the manifestation of your vision.

UPDATE:  You can read the 3rd blog here: How to Heal and Unite Your Inner Feminine and Masculine

More about Tracy:

Tracy Russell Profile PicTracy Russell is transformational coach, facilitator, writer and speaker guiding adults and young adults to their hearts, inner nature, authentic power and potential so that they may share their unique expression with the
world and be the rEVOLUTION that’s needed.
She’s a truth-detective, edge-walker, nature-lover, fear-slayer, heart-activist and Wild Hearted Woman in training. She lives in Cape Town, South Africa where you’ll find her either up a rock face, somewhere in nature, dancing or hanging out with her beloved, spirited daughter… when she’s not doing the work she loves of course.

Find her on Facebook HERE

Visit her Site HERE (Tracy’s website will be emerging over the next few weeks, as she’s in the process of birthing it to life)

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