My first published article in the fabulous holistic mag, Odyssey (Issue 3 2016), has just come out. For a taste of what you can find in there (and it’s all FREE), here is an excerpt from my article:
It’s one of the biggest pet hates in the world. it’s something most of us have come up against at some point in our lives or even deal with on a regular basis. it’s something that most flesh and blood human beings just cannot handle: being ignored!
Written by Cherie Roe Dirksen
I was astounded, back in 2006, when I watched that metaphysically mind-blasting documentary, ‘What the Bleep Do We Know!?’ Do you remember it? Its abstract concepts about reality and beyond begged me to stop and rethink my whole life — something I’m sure most viewers had to undertake to some degree.
What really struck a chord were the experiments on water by the now late Masaru Emoto — I was especially awed by the three bottles of rice trial.
In this particular test one bottle was marked ‘I love you’, one marked ‘I hate you’ and the third bottle was just ignored. In the experiment the one marked ‘I love you’ endured whilst the bottle labeled ‘I hate you’ decayed but not to the effect of the bottle that was disregarded completely — which was the most ill-affected jar as it started to rot first.
This test reiterated the widespread belief that even being hated is better than being unnoticed.
“Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.”– J.K.Rowling
You often find this with children – particularly in the case of the middle child (but not isolated to) who lacks the attention of the first born or ‘baby’ of the family. This child tends to strike out in a negative manner because even this type of behaviour is receiving a response from the parental figure albeit an undesirable reaction.
Why? — Because we humans tend to recoil at the thought of alienation more than anything. Loneliness or the fear of being alone is one of the top causes of depression.
Origins of the Effects of Aloofness
Some say the fear of indifference dates back to prehistoric man for the reason that when a member of the clan was shunned, it meant certain death to the individual. Ergo we all have a strong innate sense to stay alive.
However, barring our primitive instincts to survive, it’s just darn-right annoying to deal with people who display the traits of indifference — which is also disguised as apathy, disregard, insensitivity, disinterest, negligence, nonchalance, coldness or detachment. This is especially irksome when you’re trying your best to be in your integrity and treat others with the antithesis of indifference — such as attention, kindness, compassion, concern and interest.
I’m sure most of you know at least one person who never seems to have the common courtesy to reply to a message or e-mail, or lets you down frequently and/or doesn’t even bother to take the time out to let you know they’re going to be late or cancel an appointment — that friend or family member who only calls you when they need something. Does this behaviour sound familiar?
I say ‘behaviour’ because that’s what it is – don’t confuse a person’s actions for who they truly are. The cause for me outlining this is because someone very close to you may be doing this — someone you may love dearly. It could be a childhood friend, family member or, God forbid, your boss/colleague (someone you may have to see on a daily basis)! You may feel you can’t reciprocate and ignore these people indefinitely because at some point you still have to deal with them on a regular basis.
Surviving the Cold
To find out what these 3 vital tips are read more by clicking the link below and going to page 91 (and you can read the rest of this exciting, invigorating and holistically informative mag too! Recommended: the regular column by Paulo Coehlo)…
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