How to Add Spectacular Drama to Your Life!

Got your attention, right?  Surely it should be illegal, if not banned, for a self-help writer to promote drama in one’s life?

The thinking tree by Cherie Roe Dirksen

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Yes, under other circumstances — as in ‘karma drama’ and negative or destructive repetitive behaviour) but I’m referring to a good type of drama.  Huh?  Yes, there is a good kind of drama.

“Every man can transform the world from one of monotony and drabness to one of excitement and adventure.”
Irving Wallace 

Here’s one of the dictionary definitions for the type of drama I’m referring to:

(def.) an exciting, emotional, or unexpected series of events or set of circumstances.

Ground Hog Day Revisited

Ever feel like you are on a life-loop — repeating the same thing day in and day out?

Well done if you answered ‘no’ to this — you’re doing great.  However, most of us have our moments when we feel the  monotony of our daily schedule creep up and douse us with the cold, watery pangs of tedium.

Thing is, what do we do to add some spice?  Come on…think!  What can one do to inject some adventure into life?

Well, I suppose I should offer up some advice, so here it goes:

  • Get Creative — start looking at your schedule and see if there is any way you can add a sparkle to your routine.  Even if this means dressing up like Ziggy Stardust or Cyndi Lauper whilst vacuuming (after all, girls just want to have fun and boys keep swinging).  Anything out of the ordinary can add zest to your life.  Or perhaps it may come in the form of you and your children listening to an old classic audiobook, that you have been threatening to read to them, whilst commuting to school or extra-mural activities.  You’ll be surprised how everyone starts to enjoy being stuck in traffic!

    Balloon Therapy by Cherie Roe Dirksen

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  • Do Something Unexpected — this depends on your personality type, of course.  Try doing something out of character.  Show the world you’re unpredictable (in a good way).  This doesn’t mean sticking pencils up your nose at the office but it could entail wearing your AC/DC shirt to the PTA meeting or treating yourself to a night on the town with your BFF’s.  Give yourself a shake-up, prove to yourself you’ve still got a pulse.  Boring is as boring does (thanks for that one, Forrest!)
  • Tourist Hangouts — here’s something different that’s usually a hoot!  Go hang out where there’s a lot of tourists about.  I tell you, it’s great stuff!  You get to see and experience different cultures on your own doorstep.  I like to loiter at Boulders in Cape Point (a penguin colony near where I live) because I see all types there and it’s great fun to watch all the different reactions to our little black and white flightless seabirds (especially with the foreign children who have never seen one before).  I know this may seem like a strange suggestion but it really bolsters that sense of unity with the rest of the world and sometimes gives you an unexpected appreciation for your own roots.
  • Read — I know some of you reading this are already bookworms but for those who haven’t set foot in a library since the dawn of reality TV, dust off that library card and go scouting for some good books.  Just reading about other people’s adventures can kick-start your own ideas for merry pursuit and wild exploits.
  • Commit — lastly, just commit to trying to seek out adventure.  Catch yourself when you slip into complacency.  Go for a walk when you feel bored or give yourself that extra little nudge out the door when it comes to socializing and networking.  There is a whole world out there.  I won’t lie to you, it’s full of crazed weirdo’s but there are also some incredibly fantastic people just waiting for the opportunity to thrill you within an inch of your life (when you meet them, please inbox me their contact details).

Know thyself but try to get to know others too.  People have the strangest way of providing irrevocably bedazzling information and star-studded ideas that gets our saliva flowing and all we need to do is make the effort to mingle or strike up that conversation.

I hope this list has given you some fresh new ideas to start cooking up a few new recipes that will let the flavor of life carry you to tastier grounds.

“When all is said and done, monotony may after all be the best condition for creation.”
Margaret Sackville 

Right, in saying that, where did I leave my gorilla costume?  I need to go out and get some bread, eggs, milk and frighten a few prospective Chinese tourists.

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The Naked Truth about You and Your Body Image

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Let’s Get Physical

“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” 
― Amy Bloom

As I was walking along the beach one morning, taking in the warm comforting sunshine of another lustrous day in Cape Town, I had my eyes severely pried open.

I had already walked the length of the beach and back and as I was approaching the designated ‘swimming’ section of the beach (shark nets just fitted and all!), I heard the glorious tones of laughter, splashing, shrieking and general guffawing.

Carpe Diem!

fh beach 1When I looked over at the watery shallows I saw the melodious sounds were coming from a group of well-endowed, young African ladies.  Some of them had shorts and t-shirts on, some were fully clad in dresses — it didn’t matter — the only thing that seemed to matter was having a copious amount of fun.

They were seizing the day and living in the moment — squeezing the joy out of the sparkling waves as they crashed down on them.

They didn’t care that their clothes were completely see-through or that they weren’t sporting the latest Speedo bikini.

Upside Down Pear-Shapes and Wake Up Calls

I was swiftly jolted back into my own headspace.  I had walked most of this beautiful beach preoccupied by how I was going to look when, at the end of my walk, I took my swim.

Let me explain:

I bought this really expensive swimsuit but it was too big at the bottom end (making my bum look big) and very snug at the top end (causing a serious melon-spillage).  I’ve kind of got this reverse pear-shape thing going on where what fits the top is too big for the bottom and what fits the bottom is too small for the top.  Aaargh!

This was making me feel very self-conscious.

So, I’d been fussing about this in my thoughts until the point when the playful posse had interrupted my rather irksome inner dialogue.

Western Culture Sucks

vHere were these beautiful bountiful lasses all flaunting their fabulousness and there I was fretting about a stupid little thing like a baggy-bottomed bather (which probably wasn’t that bad to begin with — the mind can create havoc, you know!).

Besides the fact that I am a typical Virgo, always fussing with the smallest of things and wanting everything in its right place — the ‘western’ culture is just so damned critical.

We always have some magazine, TV show or fashion trend telling us what perfect looks like and how we should be.

What a bunch of bullshit.  I mean really?

Cottage Cheese and Crackers

Actually, I know a few people who — either due to the delusion that their thighs resemble cottage cheese or they wouldn’t be seen dead in a bather (really?  Not even if you were dead?) — wouldn’t even attempt a swim because of the fear of being seen!

It’s completely crackers!

I wish these people would regress themselves to their childhood and ask their tiny counterparts what they would think of themselves if they knew that, in time to come, they wouldn’t enjoy a swim because of how they perceived themselves?

The sad thing is that I have even heard 4  year old girls now walking around asking if their ‘bum looks big in this?‘.

Being Unique is the Best Trend Ever!

After this episode of learning, I whipped off my clothes and sauntered into the ocean — releasing the inner child and just having a thoroughly, bloody good time.

It felt so freeing.

I can’t say that I didn’t adjust my costume a few times — old habits die hard — but I did feel a sense of relief and balls to what people think.

The Naked Truth

I hope you come away from this blog with a sense of how ridiculous it is to:

  1. Not have fun or be spontaneous because of what other people think —  When you do this, you are letting other people dictate your experience.  Now how foolish does that sound now that you’re reading it in black and white?
  2. Worry about how you might appear to others, period —  If you’re OK with who you are, it doesn’t matter what other people think.  You’ve got to get over it.  You’re never going to have universal appeal anyway.  The people whose opinions count, will be the ones who love your uniqueness.

If you’re having the time of your life, go on and enjoy it!  Don’t give a hoot about the skew looks you might procure if you truly let go — the ones who may pass judgment are the ones who cannot release their inner child or inner joy.

Who knows, your bravado might entice their daring to come out and play.

Love the Skin You’re In

“I’ve gone through stages where I hate my body so much that I won’t even wear shorts and a bra in my house because if I pass a mirror, that’s the end of my day.” 
― Fiona Apple

macroHow many of us can relate to Fiona Apple?

Call to action time.  I want you, next time you face yourself in the mirror, to truly look into your own eyes.  Tell yourself that you are a beautiful and unique creature — a human expression of the soul you truly are.

Let your eyes run over every nuance of your being, even the parts you may not like.  When you do this, praise yourself for the bits and bobs you love about yourself — put your full attention on those parts and really give yourself genuine admiration.  Be kind and complementative — just as if you were uplifting a friend who was having body image problems.

This is not an act of narcissism — this is a way to get you to accept and love the skin you’re in.

Most of all, be grateful for the body you have.  It doesn’t take a genius to work out that even if you do have lumps and bumps in certain places, you probably still have a lot to be thankful for.

“Let me ask you something, in all the years that you have…undressed in front of a gentleman has he ever asked you to leave?

Has he ever walked out and left? No? It’s because he doesn’t care!

He’s in a room with a naked girl, he just won the lottery. I am so tired of saying no, waking up in the morning and recalling every single thing I ate the day before, counting every calorie I consumed so I know just how much self loathing to take into the shower. I’m going for it.

I have no interest in being obese, I’m just through with the guilt. So this is what I’m going to do, I’m going to finish this pizza, and then we are going to go watch the soccer game, and tomorrow we are going to go on a little date and buy ourselves some bigger jeans.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert

Do you have a tip to share?  How do you embrace your body, ‘faults’ and all?  I’d love to hear from you.

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