The Secret Game That Brought My Soul Mate to Me

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The Sleeping Warrior by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Let’s Get the Mushy Stuff Over Quick

My hubby and I just celebrated being married for 21 years on the 8th August. We live and work together from home,  we’re also in a band together (if you’re curious George, you can check out our original music HERE, we call ourselves Templeton Universe) — so we’re literally together 24/7.

People ask us if we ever get sick of each other or fight a lot — absolutely not. We just ‘work’ — two little peas in a satisfied pod.

Before you reach for your vomit bag, let me get to the point…

I’m not trying to rub your nose in our love affair, I just wanted to point out something I recently discovered about why I managed to bag my soul mate so early on in life. I was 15 when we met at school and I was married to him by age 20 (I know I may have seemed young but when you know you just know).

But how did I manage to find love so quickly? Yeah, maybe it’s karma, kismet (read related article: Why Being Weird is Unusually Cool!) or something like that but it also had a hell of a lot to do with the Law of Attraction and being a little girl with her head in the clouds…let me explain:

Fake it to Make it

I was quite an intense child. I had a vivid imagination and a strong will. Every day I would come home from school and usually hop in the pool for about 5 hours (got to love living in Cape Town!) or play with my Barbie and Ken collection.

When I was in the pool I was always with my Cassanova (I was usually a mermaid and he was a heroic sailor or renegade pirate…Aaargh).

My imaginary knight in shining armour was always close by — any decision I made, it was with him at my side. I was a hopeless romantic even at the sprouting age of about 6/7 years old.

My Ken and Barbie play dates were always lovey-dovey encounters and romantic adventures, not surprising as I had my nose forever stuck in fairytales and Disney movies. I just couldn’t wait to be swept off my glass-slippered feet!

Point is, I imagined the jiggery-pokery out of this fictional divine man. I couldn’t wait to grow up and get married. This could have gone terribly wrong, of course, if I just married anyone who was willing but as luck (and the LOA) would have it, I met this Prince Charming and we were a match made in heaven (phew!).

Read related article: 5 Key Factors to a Lasting Relationship

Make Believe Like Never Before!

However, is my young romance so difficult to believe seeing that I spent most of my wee life injecting real feeling and emotion into this invisible Romeo? Does the Law of Attraction not state that in order to manifest our desire we have to pretend like we already have it?

Most of my childhood was spent pretending and soon Pinnochio became a real boy!

We were obviously excellent little fakers when we were tots and now that we’re all grown up and think we know everything we’ve lost our most important gift — make believe. You’ve got to be off your rocker if you think make believe is just a child’s game — it is very much a REAL game and it’s where all the magic happens.

You don’t have to agree with me, you can believe what you want…but what if?

Belief is just an agreement you’ve made about something so why not invite your inner child out to play some make believe. It could be fun 🙂 — oh, go on!

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CRDCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She also has just recently launched her official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (The Secret Game That Brought My Soul Mate to Me) was originally written for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement.

 

You May Be Doing Serious Damage to Your Success By Doing This One Thing

Swimming to Success

Getting to That Artichoke Heart

I’ve been actively using the Law of Attraction since I read The Secret (and many other books consequentially) around a decade ago. I’ve had great success with it.

Conquering my limiting beliefs has been a difficult task but a worthwhile one (and I’m still working on them). Scraping away beliefs that don’t serve you is vital on your path to realizing your fullest potential.

If you don’t think you have limiting beliefs, you’re kidding yourself. Even when you think you’ve completely alchemized all your limitations you still find them lurking in the corners disguised as a helpful lampshade or a harmless googly-eyed spider.

A belief is just a flexible agreement at any given time — beliefs can be changed at will and they do not constitute absolute truth. When you can fully get that, you will be well on your way to creating new beliefs that serve you. It will be easier to toss those beliefs that are worn out and don’t make much sense anymore.

The Dirty, Little ‘C’ Word

Now, let me tell you about one of my major realizations — the one thing that prolonged a lot of my success. The belief that I had to control everything. I was an absolute, unequivocal control freak. I needed to be in the drivers seat with every minute detail of everything! I knew it was my greatest downfall but it was so hard to stop.

I know I’m not the only one facing control issues.

Thing is, control is the very thing that can lead you further and further away from your success. It’s a hard pill to swallow because we think that being in control leads to success but nothing could be farther from the truth.

Having control is not a bad thing (as in having discipline) but having to control every little nuance can leave you not only worn out but frustratingly no closer to your desires.

How to Replace Control with the ‘T’ Word

What I’ve learnt on my LOA journey is that you’ve got to have that initial ‘thought’ or ‘desire’, then you’ve got to inject that desire with feeling (i.e. make as if it’s yours NOW), lastly you must take the required action. The latter is where I think I got seriously stuck in control.

Taking action does not mean you must control every aspect of your desire.

Taking effective action means that you do what needs to be done (for example: if your desire is to open an online craft store, you need to physically do what is necessary to get it up and running) and then you’re going to follow those little synchronicities that will bring you the right opportunities and people with the least effort. Read related article: Why Synchronicity Can Change Your Life

If you believe that your business is going to thrive and you can walk around with a heart full of joy because you Trust that the Universe is doing its utmost to bring you more business, you’re going to thrive. You don’t even need to advertise.

I promise you, I’ve spent hundreds on advertising and have got little results. I have also tried the law of least effort and have spent time in nature enjoying myself and doing other things that bring me joy all while telling myself that my online business is getting more and more clients and — voila — that has worked better for me than throwing money at Facebook Ads!

The trouble (or rather the solution) is you really have to mine those limiting beliefs and banish control to bring in more Trust.

Trust that God/the Universe/the Force (or whatever else you want to call it) has your back and you are working with that energy to bring you into a state of joy, abundance and balance. You are perfectly aligned with Source and you are manifesting like a pro!

Flick the switch and give yourself permission to allow that etheric help to flow into your life. Believe that it’s working (just remember if you don’t believe it will work then it won’t — belief is your permission slip to get to where you want).

Let it Go

Trying to control everything is exhausting — do what you can to get yourself ‘out there’ and then relinquish that control. Give it over. Then your only job is to be in joy. Do things that make you uber happy. It’s as simple as that and it’s loads of fun!

When your vibration is high and you are laughing and having fun, you will be in the frequency where magic happens!

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CRDCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She also has just recently launched her official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (You May Be Doing Serious Damage to Your Success By Doing This One Thing) was originally written for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement.

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Positive Thoughts Work

Positive Thoughts Work

Twin Peaks, Mary Poppins and Eyes Wide Shut

I’ve recently been ill, I’ve been in bed for almost 2 weeks. When I was going through my bouts of fevers and chills, hacking coughing spells and razor-blade throat issues, I was pretty delirious most of the time. In that David Lynch state of mind, I was having some pretty wicked hallucinations (not of the cool variety). I was terrified of the impending night when all these ghouls and goblins of my psyche would come out to play.

It’s really hard to transform into Julie Andrews and let that spoonful of sugar melt away the blues when you feel like you’re seeing the other side of your face.

However, (and, yes, there is a point to all of this) I managed to draw on some of my sense one night when I was having a particularly bad time being stuck in a twilight zone hallucination that saw me playing out all of Stanley Kubrick’s movies at once (terrifying, I know!). I managed to think to myself, ‘surely, I can stop this and redirect it to something more pleasant?’.

Take Back Control

I was thinking: if we’re stuck (especially in these darkest, sickest, most painful moments which, unfortunately, tend to steer us to focus on misery and not mercy) in a place that seems like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel and we can use our power of positivity rather than above-mentioned misery to dictate — then why not give it a go? Read related article: Proof Positive: Our Thoughts, Emotions Affect our Physiological Health

Okay, back to my long-winded point: I tried it out. It worked! I was wet with a fever but I still managed to switch the Kubrick movie-thon to a really cool place where I became more calm, peaceful and it was awesome even though I was stupidly sick.

How did I do it?

  • I put on some music I found on YouTube (nice soothing, calming delta waves with night-time creepy crawly sounds – frogs, crickets, owls, etc). It was on very softly but it almost immediately grounded me and I felt more relaxed.
  • The music soothed me so much that even my pain seemed to lessen and I could focus, if not briefly, on a more positive thought stream. In this case, I just focused on the relaxation and peace I was feeling. I actually managed to get some sleep that night after being up for 5 nights!
  • I kept on saying out loud or to myself during the course of the day, ‘All is well’. ‘This too shall pass’ can also come in handy.
  • My frame of mind went from a ‘poor panicked me’ (thinking I was about to die) to a more optimistic package of phlegm that knew this was going to be alright.

It’s hard to dig yourself out of a pit when you’re in one, trust me I know, but just one good feeling thought can help you to cope. I’m not saying that for the next week of my illness I was singing ‘Kumbaya’ but my state of mind was much better.

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Just give yourself a chance — one positive thought seed is all it takes.

CRDCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She also has just recently launched her official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (Positive Thoughts Work) was originally written for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement.

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Radiate the Love you Are

“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” 
― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

The Bittersweet Dischord

How cool are we as a species? We have such resilience — we are like elastic bands trying to conform, contort and snap ourselves to fit the mold (whatever that mold may be).

We have the ability to take on a million different things in order to chase perfection, love, money, respect, happiness and a gazillion other things we think we need and don’t have. Most of these things boil down to the giving and receiving of love. We all want to be loved and accepted.

We can do this until we find ourselves six feet under.

The simple fact is that we’ve lost the plot.

We’ve totally lost the plot.

Hell, I don’t even think we ever really knew what the storyboard was in the first place. We just know we are characters with a job to do. We’re born and immediately we start conforming to the standards society sets.

Do you ever stop to ask yourself why you continue a tradition that was never yours?

So many of us are taught from an early age to hate certain religions, cultures and generally people who don’t conform to our version of ‘right’.

Simply put: We’re living in a pre-constructed world set up to someone else’s ideals. Strange, isn’t it? But most of us never seem to question it.

Love’s the Greatest Thing That We Have

If love is the end result to most of our strenuous efforts then I have good news for you. You ARE love.

The other great thing is, there is no need to give or receive it — you just ARE it. You are pure love incarnation.

Think of the sun. It shines all the time. It doesn’t give it’s light away — it just IS light. You don’t have to receive the light or stand in line to get at it (unless you’re in an airport trying to escape to Spain for a hotter climate)…you just decide to either stand in its brilliance and absorb the light or hide in a cave and not accept the warmth.

Love is the same.

Love is all around us all the time. Love is in us. We are love itself. Pure vessels of unconditional love who are experiencing a bit of temporary amnesia.

If we just accepted the love source that we are and stand in that power — radiate that shit all day — we would be emulating the Tao Te Ching quote from the top of this article.

The other amazing benefit of realizing that you are just pure love itself is that It feels good to just stand for love. To just love love love with a dash more love. Even when people are being assholes — just love the crap out of them (oh pun definitely intended!).

You don’t have to do it in an airy-fairy, pooping candy floss kind of way — you’re totally in control of how you choose to give the love. It may just be in the form of non-retaliation  — as in, if a person is truly hitting all your buttons try to remain calm and present and send them love without them even knowing (although they are bound to feel it or at least the lack of your retaliation energy).

The love energy just naturally draws out the love energy of another. Most of the time, the other person won’t know what’s hit them. They may not quite understand what’s going on but they will feel an energetic shift. It may even aggravate them (as they resist the unfamiliar reaction) but you just stand in your truth and eventually there will be no resistance.

I’m not saying they’re going to pull a Mother Theresa on you instantly — most likely not, but you will have made an energetic shift in the relationship/encounter.

Unicorns, Fluffy Bunnies and Cotton Candy…A Final Say in the Matter

Simply be yourself. Allow yourself to shine love out like the sun — to be that pure love source and just see how your life changes (and those you interact with).

Love the amazing being that you are (read related article Do You Feel Worthless? 2 Reasons Why You Need to Love YOU) — an amazing creation of the Divine. You are Divine love itself, how cool is that? All that other stuff is just a complete ball-faced lie — an illusion that’s had us hoodwinked for centuries.

Have a good laugh at all the things you thought were real but just aren’t a part of the real plot. The real plot is accepting your delicious God-self and standing in perfect alignment with love — the only thing that is true and worthy of any good plot.

No trying to love, no giving love, no receiving love — just BEING love itself. Shine on you crazy diamond!

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‘How Can Nothing Mean So Much?’ — Featured in Odyssey Magazine’s 40th Anniversary Special Edition (FREE)!

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CRDCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She also has just recently launched her official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (How to Find the Perfectly Balanced YOU Right Now) was originally written for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement.

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