How to Become More Balanced (and Happy!)

How to Hold Your Equilibrium“Fill your bowl to the brim and it will spill. Keep sharpening your knife and it will blunt.” ― Lao Tzu, Te Tao Ching

How Doth Your Pendulum Swingeth?

The dictionary definition of the word ‘equilibrium‘ is a state of physical balance and/or a calm state of mind.

It’s when opposing forces are in balance.

It’s great when we find ourselves on a high — experiencing supreme joy, love, happiness and elation. It’s really shitty when we hit rock bottom — experiencing doubt, anger, pain and fear.

The key to true happiness is somewhere in the middle.


An Uncomplicated Truth

Both states of joy or anguish are temporary. As Eckhart Tolle pointed out, ‘this too shall pass‘ — that phrase goes for anything you are experiencing the good along with the bad.

As much as we want something good to last or something horrible to pass, it’s soothing to know that the ‘normal’ or most frequent state of our being is always found in the middle — balance.

Happiness — that sometimes elusive emotion — is yours in that balanced state. You’ll also find peace, clarity and calmness hanging out there.

Read related article: Why a 10 Minute Meditation Could Mean Everything

Equilibrium Quote by Cherie Roe Dirksen

A quote for your to pin 🙂

Last week I wrote about patience (you can read that here: Why You Should Always Try Your Patience) — balance and patience go hand in hand. You can even enjoy patience because it’s the place you hang out when you are expecting your miracle to manifest. Being in equilibrium is much the same — it’s the space to be when you are just soaking up being an eternal spirit having a corporeal experience 😉

Learn to love and be comfortable in balance and you will master the art of true contentment — nothing will be able to sway your pendulum but you.



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How to Cope With the Knowledge of Pure Evil

The Truth About Being All Stirred Up

Escapism - Rock Art Painted to Radiohead by Cherie Roe DirksenAbout the Artwork

The art used in this article is taken from my painting ‘Escapism’ — you can get the original and prints HERE or you can get all sorts of products, clothing and prints HERE.

You can read about the inspiration behind this piece here:

What Radiohead Looks Like Through The End of my Brush



Why You Should Always Try Your Patience

Her Comfort Zone by Cherie Roe Dirksen

The Ultimate Test of Patience

“Trying to understand is like straining through muddy water. Have the patience to wait! Be still and allow the mud to settle.” 
― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

I love that last bit — ‘allow the mud to settle‘. How many of us allow our challenges to abate before we act?

Ever got a stinking e-mail from someone and you reacted to it immediately only to smack yourself on the forehead the next day, wondering why you didn’t just sleep on it?

“I see patience as a little breather in between manifestations”

It’s always a good idea to give yourself time, space and patience to see things with greater clarity and to react out of a calm and clear frame of mind. Read related article: Why a 10 Minute Meditation Could Mean Everything

I’ve got to admit that I was one of the most impatient people I know. It took me all of about 8 years of self discovery to find out what an important little gem patience really is. I see patience as a little breather in between manifestations.

Let’s Look at the Word Re-Solution

SUBSCRIBE icon 1When we get whipped up in a world full of chaos and madness, it’s very hard to remain calm. However, it is essential to be the calm in the storm if you are going to be the purveyor of change. Try daily doses of meditation (you only need about 10-20 minutes).

We all have our moments when life throws that curve ball and it is our responsibility to alchemize anything that is tossed our way.

This simply means to stop, take a knee  and ask yourself, ‘how do I want this to resolve or play out?’. When you can see the resolution (look at that word ‘re’ ‘solution’ — you are literally making a new solution to the challenge laid out before you), you begin to change the timeline.

Your job is to hold the vision of how you want the outcome to look. Oh…and to have patience. Sometimes things happen quickly and other times we need that awesome little alchemizer called patience.

Your solution doesn’t come a moment too soon or too late — remember that!

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Go Slow to Speed Things Up

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How to Cope With the Knowledge of Pure Evil

The Truth About Being All Stirred Up


Why Patience Truly is a Virtue

Why Patience is a Virtue

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?”
Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

  • Have you ever been so swept up in the heat of the moment that your emotional outburst made things worse?
  • Have you ever wished you had just waited a bit or ‘slept on it’ before you reacted?

We’ve all had these moments, I’m sure.

It’s that hostile e-mail from a client,  that disruptive request from a friend or relative that caught you off-guard or the ‘pop-up’ abrasive guest at a dinner party that set your fireworks off.

Stirring Up the Mud

When you’ve got your knickers in a knot over something, the best thing you can do (because, obviously, your buttons are being pushed for a reason) is to take a time out to reflect on it.

  • Why are you being emotionally triggered?
  • Is it something you can alchemize (read more about that here: 3 Ways to Alchemize Chaos) — which simply means transmute (can you dowse the flame)?
  • Is burning that flame necessary or is it something you can let go of?
  • Is this a battle worthy of your energy or can you let this one go (i.e. choose the battles your fight)?
  • Do you have to be right or can you simply be the still presence without reacting?
  • Can you say what you need to say, be impeccable with your word and then let it go — whatever the outcome?
  • If you can sense a situation heating up, can you send out calming energy? Give it a try — it can really work.

If you’re in a situation where you can’t simply say, ‘let me get back to you‘ — or where you can leave replying to a text message or e-mail until the morning, when you have had time to calm down and reflect — simply say or do nothing. Try and sneak a ‘time-out’ by excusing yourself to go powder the old noggin, so you can take a few deep breaths and regroup.

The moment your levers are being pulled and temperature is rising, this is your indicator that you are out of balance. Sometimes they are even old, outworn emotional reactions that no longer serve any purpose. Always question why you are reacting and ask HQ (your higher self) for some guidance and clarity if you are at a loss. Read related article: How to Communicate Instantly with Your Higher Self for Speedy Manifesting

Letting the Water Clear

Never react to something when you are in a heightened emotional state. Even if you think your wording is sound and diplomatic, your energy will come through and it will be perceived in the emotional state you’re in.

I’ve had countless experiences where I have written a perfectly straight-forward e-mail but have been in a raging temper and the recipient has picked up on the hostility even though the words were PC. I now know never to write in any kind of altered emotional state — I only respond when I am in a place of balance and calm.

SUBSCRIBE icon 1The situations I have dealt with in a calm state of balance have turned out well. It also helps exponentially when you can visualize the outcome you desire. Practice holding that vision every time you slip into worry about something (always clearly see the desired outcome).

Patience, in these matters, can truly temper a volatile situation.

When ‘the water clears’ you will be able to see the situation from more than your emotional reactive state. You can glean different perspectives which will give you a more transparent picture of how to handle the situation. Always speak from your place of truth and integrity.

It is perfectly fine for you to take your time over giving an answer or reacting to a situation. Don’t let others pressurize your cooker into exploding.

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CRDCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She has an official art Facebookpage (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates). You can also check out her Facebook band page at Templeton Universe.

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (Why Patience Truly is a Virtue) was originally written for and published byConscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen