The Smoky Mirror
This is a concept that most people at first feel a strong repulsion with because they do not quite understand the concept. I discussed it briefly in my book ‘Divine You’ but, for those of you who have not read it, I will recap:
Our Actions Reflected — The Good, The Bad and The Ugly!
When we find ourselves annoyed or upset with someone it is usually because we are mirroring the same behaviour in some way. It doesn’t have to be wrapped identically in the same package but it is something we have to look out for and go into when it is necessary or you could be fudging or avoiding a certain issue within you that needs to be addressed.
Deep Cleaning or Surface Cleaning?
Just remember, when you sweep your rising issues under the rug, you are not solving the problem merely postponing it.
” When you own up and take the responsibility to steer your life in the right direction, you will find that life becomes a grand adventure.”
The choice is yours whether you would like to finally look it in the face or save it for another day. But be aware, when you put it away for another time, it tends to grow and start manifesting as dis-ease in your body.
We all came to earth for personal growth and to walk through our karma. You chose this. When you own up and take the responsibility to steer your life in the right direction, you will find that life becomes a grand adventure.
When we continuously do a ‘patch-up’ job or play games of dodge-cars — we are side stepping our problems or issues and this will never solve them.
This is why, in our present-society especially, there is so much avoidance going on.
What’s on the Telly? Who Turned the Radio Off!?! Where’s my iPod?…No! Not Silence, Please…
We have so much to distract us.
“You must face the consequence that you may be left behind in an evolving world.”
When we don’t want to face the silence, which usually gives rise to inner questioning, we turn on the TV, surf the internet or put on the radio.
This has to be curbed in order for us to evolve to the next level of human design. If you choose to stay in the current paradigm of white picket fencing and two and a half children, then that is your decision to make. You must face the consequence that you may be left behind in an evolving world.
Time For Reflection…
So, with the mirror, we gain reflective insight. Notice how you feel when someone gets your back up. Is there something in them that you may not be addressing in yourself?
Be honest with yourself.
For example: there is a certain someone who seems to trigger anger in you because they always assume who you are and what you are about.
- Are you assuming something about them or others?
- Are you judgment free?
- Do you seldom see things from a different perspective or point of view?
When we can be honest with ourselves, this is everything!
When we can look at our own behaviour, without judgment — just assessment — we are on the path of least resistance.
Be Honest, Keep Assessing
Then the next time you feel this emotion rise within you, you can step out of yourself and assess why it is that you are still feeling this:
- Is there still room for improvement,?
- How can you better stop yourself from taking the same action with another?
With this knowledge in tow, you have the ability to notice when you are stepping off course with your better judgment.
Close That Book and Study Yourself
When you are aware of your own flaws you are better equipped to notice it when it rears within you.
Even if you have already done the deed but noticed it afterwards, this is a step in the right direction. You cannot change something if you are still not accepting or acknowledging that there is a problem.
Every person that engages in this dance of life with you, has a teaching for you.
Remember this and accept the teaching next time it is presented to you — no matter what package it comes in.
When you practice this it will enhance your life with the addition of peace in any circumstance. You are in control at all times. Reaffirm this daily.
- Is there someone in your life who pushes all your buttons but you can’t seem to see the same in yourself?
- What has been your most surprising moment of realization with seeing yourself in others?
- Are you able to freely assess yourself when you feel annoyance arising within you when you are in the company of another?
SUBSCRIBE NOW TO RECEIVE YOUR FREE GIFTS
‘Divine You — Redefining Love in the New Earth’ is now out at all leading bookstores worldwide — don’t forget to order your copy:
Download your FREE copy of ‘New Life Resolutions’ — 10 Steps to a New You! by clicking on the picture below:
You can follow me on Twitter and Facebook for daily inspiration and articles:
Pingback: 12 Things Conscious Successful People Do To Excel – Openhearted Rebellion
Cherie, Thank you so much for that intresting article, so much to learn! ..
So glad you enjoyed it 🙂 xxx
Pingback: How Suppressing Your Shadow Self Can Destroy You - The Tom Hitchens Community
Pingback: Truth Of Your Shadow | My Blog
Pingback: How Suppressing Your Shadow Self Can Destroy You : Conscious Life News
Pingback: How Suppressing Your Shadow Self Can Destroy You | Cherie Roe Dirksen
Pingback: 4 Simple Tips on How to Stay Calm at Family Reunions | Cherie Roe Dirksen
Very on point, especially for these times! Thank you for your time…
Glad you enjoyed it, Melody. Thanks for your feedback. 🙂
Pingback: 12 Things Successful People Do To Excel | Cherie Roe Dirksen
I was pretty pleased to discover this page. I wanted to thank you for your time for this fantastic read!
It’s my pleasure, Grace.
Thanks for sharing xxx
No prob 🙂
Great article, thanks.
Glad you liked it.
Well written Cherie, thank you for sharing this article with us!
Thanks for reading 😉
Pingback: 3 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself When Dealing With Aggravation | Cherie Roe Dirksen
Pingback: 4 Things Travel Can Teach Us About Avoidance | Cherie Roe Dirksen