4 Cures for Negative Thinking

Posted on November 2, 2022 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come. ~Robert H. Schuller

My friend and I were out walking this morning around the neighborhood when we noticed some magnificent landscaping and flower beds to die for! We were also, funnily enough, talking about having foggy, congested heads (physically and mentally) because of the amount of time we are spending on our computers. We both happen to be writers.

I found that looking at these spectacular gardens really opened up my heart space and led me to think about this concept of the mind/garden metaphor.

If we can just give ourselves time in our own gardens (minds) to prune back, weed and cut off any dead branches and scrape up old leaves off the grass, we would be able to temper that stuffy headedness.

Back to my morning stroll…we then went on to discuss how meditation, exercise, getting out into nature and yoga work to unclog this tightness and tiredness in the head.

So, some good practices to follow when you feel your thoughts aren’t being honorable paying guests in your head are to:

1. Gift yourself some time for space and clarity

This doesn’t have to be for very long stretches (however long you want) but make sure it is at least 10-15 minutes of down-time. You can sit in your garden, park or in a comfortable quiet space and reflect on your thoughts. Realign them to what you feel comfortable with. Then simply let all your thoughts dissolve and sit in stillness. Observe what comes up and then put it aside. Enjoy the space of just being. We are human BEINGS not human DOINGS. Don’t forget that.

More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity. ~Francois Gautier

2. Assess yourself and think gratitude

If you are having a lot of negative, worrisome thoughts, ask yourself if they are really necessary? Is worrying about it going to change anything? How can you steer them onto a different more nurturing path? Can you list a few things you are grateful for? Better still, get yourself a gratitude journal and make it a daily practice.

There is a basic law that like attracts like. Negative thinking definitely attracts negative results. Conversely, if a person habitually thinks optimistically and hopefully, his positive thinking sets in motion creative forces — and success instead of eluding him flows toward him ~ Norman Vincent Peale

3. Go for a walk or do some yoga

Any kind of exercise can actually give you a huge boost. I know a lot of people who are tired and worn out from a hard day’s work don’t particularly care for physical movement. Perhaps you think it is the last thing that can help but it really can. Just 20-30 minutes can really get you to shift stagnant energy and get your system up and firing.

Walking is a man’s best medicine. ~Hippocrates

If you are seeking creative ideas, go out walking. Angels whisper to a man when he goes for a walk. ~Raymond Inmon

4. Breathe properly

Take a few good and hearty breathes. This is a wonderful grounding tool and can get you into balance very quickly. Most of us breathe very shallowly, not allowing for the body to become fully oxygenated. Try to take in enough breath as to fill your lungs and spill over into your stomach (you should look like your pregnant — that is an indicator that you have got in enough air). Breathe in to the count of 5, hold it to the count of 5 and then consciously breathe out to the count of 5. This enlivens and awakens your mind — try it, you’ll see.

Focusing on the act of breathing clears the mind of all daily distractions and clears our energy enabling us to better connect with the Spirit within. ~Author Unknown

Kick out fear, worry and drama to finally start renting your headspace out to positive, nurturing and creative thinking — the paying guest.

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Is Assumption Destroying Your Relationship?

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Posted on November 18, 2019 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

One of the Most Poignant Taboos

I would like to delve into the ‘spiritual taboos‘ – maybe you’ve heard of them, maybe you haven’t. Either way, they are significant enough to address (or re-address as the case may be).

These are concepts put across through the masterful words and teachings, derived from Toltec wisdom, of Don Miguel Ruiz.

He sweetened them up by calling them the ‘4 Agreements’ whereas I have used the word ‘taboo’ as a mere marketing ploy to attract your attention. As shameful as that is, I did it with the noblest of intentions. We need to hear this – over and over if that be the case.

“To ‘sin’ is to go against your self or to ‘miss the mark’.”

Before we start with these tantalizing taboos, I want to address what it means to sin. To ‘sin’ is to go against your self or to ‘miss the mark’. So, go easy on yourself if you see that you have been performing or have been lured into the web of some of these sticky concepts.

Guidelines Along Your Path

You are on a path to enlightenment (consciously or unconsciously — preferably the former) and when you embark on such a journey you need a basis of comparison.

We have chosen this particular journey into the realms of the soul, so acknowledge your choices and correct them if it suits you. These guidelines are merely a way to steer you to counter balance your integrity if you do ‘miss the mark’.

The key is to be aware at all times and to realign when you need to. Oh and did I forget to say FORGIVE yourself if you slip? These taboos are difficult to master but they can be mastered. When the seed has been planted as to what they are, it will be up to you – consciously or, sometimes, unconsciously – to water them into fruition.

Assumption — A Deal Breaker!

In this article we are going to address the one spiritual taboo called ‘assumption’. It is a much overlooked and yet one of the most predominantly adopted characteristic of modern-day society.

“A more lighthearted look at this word sees the word ‘ass’ ‘u’ and ‘me’…”

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To assume is to not be in full command of truth or fact. When we assume something we try to interpret, through sometimes limited knowledge or resources, what the truth might be. We then run with this perceived outcome, sometimes even starting to believe it to be factual without proof. It sounds ridiculous doesn’t it? It is.

A more lighthearted look at this word sees the word ‘ass’ ‘u’ and ‘me’. How succinct, seeing as assuming does normally make an ass out of one or both parties.

Alas, all humour aside, it is something we do too frequently without much thought of the consequences of our minds presumptuous actions. This is not only dangerous but it is a detrimental factor in limiting us in relationships and with life in general.

Our minds are powerful, this is something most of us know and are starting to quantumly comprehend, so when you mentally construct a truth and play it out over and over in your mind you can either

(a) entirely convince yourself of it’s truth or

(b) bring that scenario into play in reality – in other words, give form to your thought (Law of Attraction).

“When we assume we are potentially shutting a door to further knowledge or clarification.”

Assumptions cloud our discernment and play on our fears. When we assume we are potentially shutting a door to further knowledge or clarification.

Assumption at Work

Let’s say you assume your husband is having an affair because he has lipstick on his collar. You do not confront him, fearing the truth to be what you imagine. You start to treat him differently, as if you are positive that his activities are dubious. He has no idea why you are acting this way.

Cold shoulders and snide remarks rule the roost. This could go on for days, weeks or even, God forbid, turn into years of total distrust if it goes unconfronted. There could be so many reasons and outcomes to this situation but let’s take a look at just three potentials:

He was having an affair
A lady bumped into him whilst he was travelling in a lift leaving a trace of her lipstick on the side of his collar
If the latter was the case – you could have irreparably alienated your husband and driven him into the arms of another through your assumptions and unfounded suspicions. So in this case, you have actually given form or materialized the original fear based on an assumption that was not the truth. You have forced the undesired outcome.

“Any situation can be resolved. You never choose any experience in this life without there being a solution. The only thing standing in your way is your perception of what you want the outcome to look like. “

Don’t assume. You will undoubtedly pay the consequences.

Always ask. Communication is one of the keys to living in your integrity. Always steer yourself towards the light of truth, no matter how hard the truth may be. Burying the truth will always lead to more pain eventually.

Any situation can be resolved.

You never choose any experience in this life without there being a solution. The only thing standing in your way is your perception of what you want the outcome to look like. Sometimes only time can tell whether something serves us or not.

Assumption can lead to a lot of unwarranted unhappiness. Ever heard of ‘stewing in your own juices’? Don’t do it! Rather get to the core of the situation – the source, the truth.

What’s the Alternative then?

An exercise to try out would be to identify and stop yourself when you are assuming something (big or small). See if there are any alternatives to your assumptions. In other words, we often tend to gravitate towards being more negative with our assumptions.

An example would be:

Your friend hasn’t called you in ages, she normally phones you regularly. You assume she no longer likes you or you have said something to offend her when in fact there may be several reasons for her lack of communication – none of them even involve you!

“You form ideas based on it (assumption) and then your neural pathways fix and that idea becomes your ‘reality’.”

So, try to either get the facts or quell the desire to reach an assumed conclusion. When you go into this more deeply you will begin to unravel a lot of ‘baggage’ that your mind sets up through the act of assumption. You form ideas based on it and then your neural pathways fix and that idea becomes your ‘reality’.

Harmful ‘Petty’ Assumptions

Let’s say that you see your neighbour shouting at his children. You assume that he has anger issues and that he is a bad father.

The truth of the matter may be that you have just caught him on an incredibly stressful day – he could be father of the year for all you know – but there you have made a mental construct, not through years of getting to know him, but through a momentary reaction that has now tainted your view of his personality and parental skills.

You may even do further damage and air your opinions about him to others leading to an even greater adverse effect on his reputation based on your unfounded assumptions.

“If you can just come to the realization that you are assuming you can begin to change it…”

Now, how often do we do this? If you can just come to the realization that you are assuming – become conscious of this behavioral pattern in yourself – you can begin to change it and in doing so you can save yourself a lot of anguish that, more often than not, leads to so much heartache and misunderstanding.

What stories of assumption can you identify with and tell us about? Are there any you are making now and don’t know how to stop? Share your experiences and feel free to ask any questions.

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Why Taking Things Personally Could Be Ruining Your Life

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Posted on May 28, 2019 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Be Honest With Yourself

Are you easily offended? When you take something personally or are affronted, you are — in a claustrophobic little nutshell — agreeing with what has been said about you.

Does this ring true or are you shaking your head profusely?

When you feel offended you are agreeing with the offender because it has touched a nerve. Let’s try unravel more of this…

Nerves Weren’t Always Twisted, You Know

If someone tried to hurt you, or perhaps even inadvertently, says something to you that you don’t agree with – no problem – you usually shrug off this kind of ‘offense’ because it really doesn’t bother you.

For example: You are happy with your appearance and feel you are a fine specimen, someone passes by in a vehicle and shouts out ‘hey, freak!’

Here is your moment; do you agree with that or not? If you are 100% confident that you are a perfectly chic human being then you would most likely shrug the comment off and have a good laugh.

Why? Simply because you don’t agree with the statement.

“Who get’s to be the judge and jury on what is deemed beautiful accepted or hideous? The tabloids? Hollywood?”

Now, if you think you are ‘okay’ looking but there could be room for improvement, or, in the extreme, if you are someone with downright low self-esteem, this statement would be devastating because a part of you, or perhaps – most of you, agrees with this. You are shocked that someone else has found you out!

You thought if you could keep your head down no-one would notice you but here someone has clearly seen your faults. This feels like a low blow and you become all knotted up in your stomach (solar plexus area).

The Illusion of Appearance

The ultimate fear of imperfection and/or of not being accepted is, of course, an illusion.

Who get’s to be the judge and jury on what is deemed beautiful accepted or hideous? The tabloids? Hollywood? Just spare a thought as to who you give your power over to, that which dictates what beauty and normal is, and try to see that it is all fake.

True beauty and acceptance is in the eye of the beholder. So anyone claiming to know what beauty or normal definitely is needs very close examining if they are not including every member of the human race in their synopsis.

To agree with anyone over anything stemming from feelings of lack would be disempowering.

“The person doing the insulting is only reminding you of something that needs to be taken on within yourself to have a good, long and hard look at – and to either change or accept.”

The same could be said over someone slighting your intelligence. If you don’t feel stupid then any snide remark over your competence could be easily overlooked but if you are worried about what others think, a dig at your IQ could mean the world to you.

Are You to Blame?

This is not truly the fault of the insulter (although they will have to deal with their contribution via their karma) – it is actually your fault.

Yeah, it sounds harsh and it is. But if we are going to get real about this we need to dive right into the core of the problem and bring it up for close scrutiny.

The person doing the insulting is only reminding you of something that needs to be taken on within yourself to have a good, long and hard look at – and to ultimately change or accept.

Although you probably won’t want to give them a gold medal for their efforts at the time, I assure you that some people are in this life to push your buttons — in a seemingly unloving way — to actually give you the opportunity to reconsider your belief structures.

This may be on a level that even they are not aware of.

If there are no buttons to push, then you can walk away head held high knowing that it is something you have overcome or never had a doubt about in the first place.

It is the slights that leave us feeling wounded that mean that we have a program still running within us that wants to be ended, a cache that needs clearing.

What Insults You?

You have to be cruel in examining these beliefs in order to be kind to yourself.

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We all face difficult, dark moments of self-realization, when we see the agreements we have made about ourselves and have to try to turn it around. When you can out these undesirable contracts you can begin to repair them.

We have to discover why we felt the lack and how we are feeling now about the same issue. Then we must align it to our higher self by breaking down the agreement piece by piece and offer it up to the light to be cleansed.

What do I mean by this?

This simply means to shed light on a problem. When it has come to our full attention we can dissemble it and make a new beneficial agreement about ourselves.

We need to look at ourselves and find the beauty inherent in us, not always trying to fish out our perceived faults. When you treat yourself with loving kindness and nurture your self-esteem with positive thoughts, you will begin to shift into alignment with your higher self.

“However, we must consider that some things are said in the heat of the moment and not really meant by the offender, so we really need to see why we made the agreement.”

Some of these agreements we made at a very young age. When we are young we have no inhibitions and sang at the top of our voices, danced our hearts out (whether someone was looking or not) and thought we were princesses and superheroes.

Then one day someone came along and made you feel less than what you felt about yourself. You may have paused to take it in – then you made a crucial decision.

Making the Agreement

Either you agreed with what they said or you didn’t. That is why some of us can still dance freely and not be bothered whilst others cringe at the thought of dancing in public – this could be due to an earlier experience of being made to feel like you were ‘no good’ by someone who was only giving you one piece of the puzzle.

What Puzzle?

When I said that the person was only giving one piece of the puzzle I mean that they have a preference based on their version of reality.

That is one person’s perspective in a sea of other possible candidates – ones who may have loved your form of expression.

This person could have also been a child, an acquaintance, a stranger or it could have been someone you trusted and loved deeply. The latter is often the case and can make the hurt twice as strong.

However, we must consider that some things are said in the heat of the moment and not really meant by the offender, so we really need to see why we made the agreement.

“We sometimes tend to disregard the ones who encourage us, leaving only space in our thoughts for the ones who hurt us.”

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You also need to know that you can never have universal appeal with absolutely everyone.

You or your talents may not be one person’s cup of tea but what about all the other people in the world who will resonate with your particular brand of uniqueness.

Neither being important though because it is ultimately you who needs to please you. When you do this then you are immediately accepted and no outside influence can make you feel anything other than what you know yourself to be.

“Without diversity in hair colour, body shapes, talents, voices, tastes, etc we would be tantamount to sheep running around in a field day in and day out – bah-bah-boring!”

We sometimes tend to disregard the ones who encourage us, leaving only space in our thoughts for the ones who hurt us.

Why is this, I wonder?

Everyone has the urge to be liked and accepted for who they are. This is normal. But what we need to redefine is what is normal?

Every soul is special and has equally unique attributes, abilities and ways of expressing themselves creatively. There should be no judgment.

What do We do About That Sheeple Judge?

When there is judgment on this, we must question the one doing the judging.

Without freedom of expression this world would be a very dull place. Without diversity in hair colour, body shapes, talents, voices, tastes, etc we would be tantamount to sheep running around in a field day in and day out – bah-bah-boring!

Love your difference, embrace yourself.

Begin to discover, on the deepest level, who you truly are and what you have done – not only in this lifetime but in the countless life experiences you have had. Draw on the wealth of talents you have that you haven’t even begun to extract from your being.

Know Thyself!

As the oracle in the movie The Matrix had written above her kitchen door: ‘Know thyself’ (a long-established ancient Greek aphorism).

When you do, there is nothing anyone can say or do to you that would ever hurt you because you will be resolute as to who you are and nobody can take that away from you, unless you allow them to.

“Empowerment comes from fearing no-thing and facing every day with courage and love in your heart.”

When you are living with the statement ‘be the best you can be’ and you are doing this with all your integrity and might then you have nothing to fear.

Empowerment comes from fearing no-thing and facing every day with courage and love in your heart. Strive to be the best and do the best you can in every situation and you will be living in your integrity and you will know yourself.

Then words or energy that does not fit with your frequency or vibration will not even penetrate your field of self. You have become the master of your life and your reality.

Something worth looking into, wouldn’t you say?

Do you have something that you just can’t not take personally? What is it and can you perhaps trace when you made the agreement?

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Why You Need to Pay Attention to Synchronicity Now!

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Posted on April 13, 2019 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Synchronicity is Your Ultimate Guide

“According to Vedanta, there are only two symptoms of enlightenment, just two indications that a transformation is taking place within you toward a higher consciousness. The first symptom is that you stop worrying. Things don’t bother you anymore. You become light-hearted and full of joy. The second symptom is that you encounter more and more meaningful coincidences in your life, more and more synchronicities. And this accelerates to the point where you actually experience the miraculous.”

~Deepak Chopra (Synchrodestiny: Harnessing the Infinite Power of Coincidence to Create Miracles)

Well, the dictionary states that it is the occurrence of events and especially psychic events (as similar thoughts in widely separated persons or a mental image of an unexpected event before it happens) that seem related but are not explained by conventional mechanisms of causality.

In laymen’s terms, it is simply being in the right place at the right time to receive the right information. Now, why is this important — surely these kinds of events are just coincidences?

Defining Coincidence

Let’s break this word down to better understand it. ‘Co’ means mutual and, of course, ‘incident’ means an event or occurrence. Coincidence is pretty much a dead ringer for synchronicity but why do most people ‘brush’ things of as mere coincidence when, in fact, both coincidence and it’s relative – synchronicity – are profound states of universal flow?

When we are young, magic surrounds us — life is the biggest trip ever! Sadly, as we become adults, we lose that awe for the mysterious and start putting things down to chance or luck and we start to give a rather cynical meaning to a beautiful word: co-incidence.

Should You Read More into Coincidence?

Yes! The statistics of you being at that ‘right place at the right time’ are phenomenally low, so when they occur it is in your best interest to take very serious note of the message behind the encounter. Then act on it.

“All of us, whether or not we are warriors, have a cubic centimeter of chance that pops out in front of our eyes from time to time. The difference between an average man and a warrior is that the warrior is aware of this, and one of his tasks is to be alert, deliberately waiting, so that when his cubic centimeter pops out he has the necessary speed, the prowess, to pick it up.”

~Carlos Castanada

For example:

You have been thinking of an old childhood friend, even possibly been dreaming of them. Then one day, at the supermarket, your trolley collides with another trolley. You look up to apologize and there is the friend you’ve been thinking of.

So What Does it all Mean?

All meaning could be different according to personal circumstances but let’s take a few possible meanings:

This person may have some valuable information for you. It could be that they know someone who could help you with that project you’re working on.
It could be that your friend may need your expertise with solving a problem.
Or it could simply be that you need to catch up and share some precious life experiences with each other.

The meanings may differ but the little gems that pop up as ‘coincidences’ are rarely of no use. Sometimes we have to pan for gold. It can take days to recognize that little nugget of truth that was meant for you in the synchronous event that took place.

Flex That Synchronous Muscle!

The good news is, the more aware you are of synchronicity and how it breezes in and out of your life to steer you to your greater good, the more you’ll start unraveling the unique tapestry of your life and destiny. This is why Deepak Chopra refers to this phenomenon as ‘Synchrodestiny’.

When you learn to use synchronicity, you’ll start to follow the breadcrumbs to fulfilling your dreams. Be careful of shrugging events off as mere coincidence because that’s exactly what they’ll become. Take joy in uncovering the pearls of wisdom in these packages.

The Fury at Being Robbed Blind!

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Let me give you an example of a huge shift that took place recently in my life thanks to allowing synchronicity to work for me.

I recently had my bank account hacked into and a vast sum of money stolen over a period of 2 days. It was a red-tape nightmare but I eventually got refunded by the bank.

Just last month, the same thing happened with an account I have at a different bank — thankfully, a smaller amount was stolen but the same principle had occurred. I started to get metaphysically suspicious. What was the universe trying to tell me?

Sometimes synchronicity isn’t as pleasant as having a catch-up cuppa with an old friend — it can come as an earthquake to rattle your cage of complacency.

Figuring Out the Puzzle

Suffice to say, I don’t believe in mere coincidence in the dull sense of the word — everything happens for a reason.

I started to pick this puzzle apart. What I found stunned me.

I realized that I had a tremendous ‘painbody’ (a phrase coined by Eckhart Tolle to describe a collective energy within the self that feeds of the pain of a certain incident(s) and affects us subliminally) around money.

I am good at accumulating lump sums but then proceed to either spend, lose or give it away bypassing any form of financial literacy or sustainable income.

The Puzzle Goes Quantum!

A friend of mine also pointed out that money is just energy. If I was having large sums of this ‘energy’ stolen from me it could also be a reflection of my personal life.

She was right. I was also giving away my energy (in the form of attention, in this case) to something that did not serve me.

I started hauling in all this valuable information to analyze. Synchronously, my neighbor gave me a book to read, called ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad’ by Robert Kiyosaki, which I devoured. It was as if it was written just for me!

I started to implement some of my findings and got immediate feedback from the universe.

Within days of me making a conscious shift about my attitude towards money, someone accidentally put a large sum of money into my bank account.

Even though, a week later, the sum of money was reversed — my situation had changed! Instead of people taking money out, they were putting it in! That was my confirmation that I had truly shifted my perspective and that things were on a new track.

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In both instances (whether having the money purposefully stolen or accidentally given), a message was being delivered. I always had the money reimbursed by the bank in the case of the theft and my account returned to normal in the case of the deposit. So there was no physical gain of money but the metaphysical message was received.

The message delivered was that there was a problem with my mental attitude towards money and the message was received and acknowledged by the shift in physical occurrence — one could say a wink from the universe.

If I didn’t realize that my money being stolen was no mere coincidence, I would have plodded on feeling like a victim of circumstance instead of seeing the opportunity that was being offered to change my financial attitude.

“Coincidence is the word we use when we can’t see the levers and pulleys.”
~Emma Bull

Keep your eyes peeled for meaningful coincidence and start shaping your destiny through synchronicity today!

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Do You Need To Meditate? Part 1

Posted on March 26, 2019 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

There are so many beautifully written books on the subject of present moment awareness, my personal favourites being the Eckhart Tolle books, ‘The Power of Now’ and ‘A New Earth’. But I would like to touch on it a little bit in this blog.

Why must I be still?

When we are still, we are in the present moment. When the continuous noise of the mind is silent we experience present moment awareness.

“We use mantras and meditations as ‘training’ wheels to the stillness that is at the very core of our soul.”

Easier said than done, of course, but it can be mastered. With regular meditation (this just means breathing and quieting the mind for as little as 5 minutes a day) and proper breathing techniques and mantras, one can easily become a master of ones thought pattern. We use mantras and meditations as ‘training’ wheels to the stillness that is at the very core of our soul.

Once you have mastered this you will no longer need the ‘training’ wheels as you will be able to attain stillness instantly.

The Art of Letting Go

For those of you who are new to these practices, some of the techniques used to bring oneself into the present are very helpful but always bear in mind that you will never need anything to realize this potential whenever you want it.

“…when you feel the need to move onto something else or perhaps nothing else, as the case may be, then trust your intuitions.”

Some people cling to their mantras and meditation techniques and this can become a very stagnant practice as the Earth shifts into a new gear. Some practices will already be felt as outdated and one needs to change with the times, so to speak.

So when you feel the need to move onto something else or perhaps nothing else, as the case may be, then trust your intuitions. As practices for the sake of keeping a ritual going is of no good if you are not progressing.

The STOP Signpost

A useful tool to use is the STOP signpost. Clearly see a stop sign in your mind’s eye, now use it every time you identify yourself wondering into the terrain of useless or negative thought.

STOP!

Hold up the sign to your mind. When you do this it is a distraction to get you to stop dead in your tracks. Try it for yourself. Be the ‘lollipop lady’ of your mind by holding up the STOP sign and bringing the traffic of mind noise to a halt to let the helpful and positive thoughts across the road.

For what purpose do I need to get to this ‘Present Moment Awareness’?

Now that you have an idea of how to get to the present moment – what does it do?

“If we could all operate in this space a lot of problems would be alleviated.”

Well, it is the grounding force that enables you to truly live. The present moment is bliss, peace and tranquility. It is a tool to help you to find clarity. But intrinsically it is the place where we are most at peace with ourselves and the outer world. If we could all operate in this space a lot of problems would be alleviated.

When you are in the moment, there is no thought pattern about past or future there is only the ‘now’. You experience life as it is now.

When the constant stream of mind-numbing thought is detached we have no fear/stress of future or regret/anger about past. We are supremely concentrated in the ‘is-ness’ of the now. It is as simple as it sounds. When you attain this degree of inner peace you will find out just how perfect you are and everything around you too.

Problems will lose their potency and you will be able to laugh in the face of fear.

What could harm a being as perfect as you?

You are a soul with no beginning and no end. What a marvelous space to be in! That is why some people are addicted to meditation and forget to live! But the true master finds the balance in-between.

“There are so many basic things that we, as humans, have forgotten.”

We are still human and have to face the outside world but through the practice of being in the present moment and through awareness itself, you will be able to operate in your current reality with a more peaceful and accepting demeanor.

There are so many basic things that we, as humans, have forgotten. We don’t forget to eat or drink – so why do we forget to breathe correctly? We don’t forget to sit on the couch and turn on the telly – so why do we forget to be present?

I am scared of stopping for fear of having to confront what it is I really need to address

Most of us are nervous about being still and we try to occupy every bit of spare time we have in filling it up with nonsense. All this is really just a cover up for the fact that we fear what we may face when we quiet our minds.

We fear the psyche and all the hidden corners that we have not explored. We fear the clutter that we have stored in there, packing it in boxes and labeling it for another day that we know, deep down, we don’t ever want to face.

We must face these fears if we are to move on.

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Excerpt from Part 2:

“You can plaster a wall over and over but if there are cracks of unresolved past issues hidden in the concrete, they will always break through leaving imperfections in your wall…”

The above blog has been taken from an extract in my latest book ‘Divine You — Redefining Love in the New Earth’, which is available at all leading bookstores. For more information please click here.

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Wherever You Go, There You Are: A Short Course in Mindfulness and Meditation

5 Tools to Stop You Worrying

Posted on January 30, 2019 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Why Do We Worry So?

When it comes to concerns about life’s uneasy or potentially disastrous situations, we start to worry. I don’t think there is a single person in this world that hasn’t experienced a copious bout of the collywobbles in their lifetime — but why do we do this?

There could be a number of reasons, some being:

You feel you need to ‘prepare’ yourself for the worst
You are a ‘glass is half empty’ kind of person and just expect the worst to happen
It is in your experience that disaster always strikes, so worry is a necessary coping mechanism
There are so many things that could go wrong and you feel you need to focus on each one to embody it or try to find a possible solution for it in the event of it happening.

Now, if we actually look at this list from a transpersonal point of view — we take ourselves out of the equation and are impartial — these worries are not only a waste of precious manifesting time but they are a reinforcement of nonconstructive potential timelines.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK

Just remember you bring about what you think about the most. This is not meant to scare you, it’s a preparation tool so that you can steer your thoughts to more positive neurological pathways. When you reinforce encouraging situations in your mind, as opposed to harmful scenarios (aka worrying), you are creating potential for a more fruitful future.

Easier said than done?

Sure, but it is possible.

Answer this: Has worrying ever solved your problems anyway?

I’m going to take a stab in the dark and say ‘no’ it probably hasn’t, right? So, what can you do now to alleviate any future concerns you have?

Eckhart Tolle has pointed out three memorable and straightforward options that you can apply here, either: remove yourself from the situation (in this case, remove the worry), change it (transmute the worrisome thought form), or accept it totally (surrender to any future possibility). But let’s go into it a bit more:

Here are 5 simple techniques you can carry out when you find yourself in a state of worry:

1. Do Something

Swap worrying for doing. Can you actually do something about it now? If the answer is yes, take those first steps and you will begin to lighten the load off your mind. Even if it means writing the problem down. Just getting it out of your head and onto paper can be a relief. You can even then burn the paper or trash it symbolizing your new stance on worry. Tell your troublesome thought who’s the boss! The best thing you can actually do is visualize what you DO want to happen — I can’t stress this enough.

2. Find a Solution

Map out a possible solution. Again, it’s always helpful to write it down so that your mind is free of it. When you can look at some achievable solutions, you may gain a better perspective of how you can change or alter the course of your quandary. Remember to focus on the desired outcome.

3. Acceptance

If there is absolutely nothing you can do, then try acceptance of what is. If you cannot change what is, you need to let it go and find peace within your situation. How has this situation affected your life? Is there any diamond you can mine from it? Hint: there usually always is a positive learning when you can train yourself to see something from an alternative perspective.

4. Meditate

Solutions will present themselves when we quiet the mind. There is a wealth of information just waiting for you to tap into when you are in a meditative state. Clearing your mind of what I like to call ‘mind-static’ (continuous loops of mind chatter — read related article: How to Stop the ‘Monkey Mind’ Phenomenon) will help you to excavate that pearl of truth and gain a lucid perspective. When you step out of the way — solutions can come in. Your higher self never gives you any challenge that you cannot conquer.

5. Positive Reinforcement

Remind yourself that what you think you attract. Do you want to attract more of what you are worrying about? If not, then switch to thinking about what you do want to manifest in your life and let all negative outcomes go — you don’t need them. Capeesh!

“Make sure your thinking is pointing you in the right direction to manifesting your ideal destination”

The mind can be trained to think differently — you are 100% in control of your destiny.

You have a choice to rewire your thought process to align with what you want to manifest — don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Don’t fall into the trap of being a ‘victim of circumstance’ — this state doesn’t really exist as you create everything and only you can give it the necessary potency.

Playing any kind of victim role is a disempowering stance that you should avoid at all costs.

You are the powerful creator of your reality and you are in the driver’s seat — where are you going? Where do you want to go? Wherever you see yourself in the future just remember, worrying never got anyone anywhere — so…

Hakuna Matata* all the way!

*a Swahili phrase that is literally translated as “There are no worries”

This was a guest article originally written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy. It has been updated and republished here by the author.

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The art used in this article is called ‘Gilted’ and was part of my solo exhibition called ’42’ (you can download the FREE book of art and poems HERE).

Click on the picture of the painting to your right to take you to my gallery. The original painting is still for sale (at the time of this article publication).

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Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author/columnist/radio presenter, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook(The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She has an official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates). You can also check out her Facebook band page at Templeton Universe.

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7 Things Every Teenager Should Know About Life

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Posted on December 5, 2018 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.~Douglas Adams

Don’t you sometimes wish you could hijack the DeLorean from ‘Back to the Future’ and go back in time to give the younger you some meaningful and helpful lessons in life (never mind a sharp upper cuff)?

Well, you’re here now — older and wiser with experience under your belt — and the pipeline dream of procuring time machines probably just isn’t going to happen.

The brighter side is that we can enlighten future generations of the deeper meanings behind some really profound truths.

Here’s a list of things I wish I knew when I was a little know-it-all:

1. Thoughts Create Things

Yes, if only I knew about the Law of Attraction at 16 years of age — all the mischief I could have wrought. Well, maybe it was for the best. Seriously though, how cool would it have been to know — back then — that your thoughts are prerequisite to actually manifesting whatever you want in your life!?!

2. You Can Do or Be Anything

Yup, some of you may have had hippie parents telling you this but for some of us it just wasn’t the case. You needed good grades and to get a job that pays well — you know, the 9-5 job and the white picket fence deal?

My parents, God bless them, probably were only handing down what they believed to be precious information that they had learned from their parents. ‘Get a steady job that pays the bills, there is no money to be made in mucking about with paint or playing the guitar’. Oh, how wrong they were! The sky is the limit with your dreams — go for it, guns blazing into the setting sun shouting ‘Yeehaw!’.

3. You Always have a Choice

Life is all about choices, we make them to get in and out of trouble (scrap trouble — challenges is a better word). You never set yourself up with anything you can’t get yourself out of — within reason, of course. So, a message for mini-me would have been: Try to view things from a different perspective, there is always a solution to a problem if you are quiet enough to hear the inner wisdom that is always inherent. Life doesn’t just randomly happen to you if you take responsibility for your choices.

4. To Forgive is Divine

If only I had known back then that to hold a grudge means extra baggage for you. This can even, in some cases, manifest as physical weight. Forgiving, contrary to the saying, doesn’t always mean you forget — if the lesson taught you anything, don’t make yourself vulnerable or open to certain situations again. Always be mindful of your lessons but learn how to forgive and walk away too.

5. Taking Things Personally is Disempowering

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and tastes but there is no ‘blanket’ rule over what is the truth as there are almost 8 billion different perspectives on earth right now.

I was told, in my younger years, not to listen to peoples opinions of me, especially if they caused me any distress. I didn’t truly get that when I am insulted I am actually agreeing with what has been flung on my doorstep. If only I learned to dodge those landmines sooner, I would have a lot less BS to scrape off my boots later on down the line!

6. Conforming is Boring

I wish I could seriously implant this into the brains of the youth of today, it’s just that important — especially with the crap that’s being pumped at them through social media! Don’t try to be who you are not (and please don’t try to mimic a Kardashian). Everyone wants an original not a copy. Duh! Thinking out of the box is not even an option — burn the box! No more boxes, boxes are for things not ideas or people (just ask Schrodinger’s cat).

7. Being Weird is just so Damn Cool

Well, this one just flows so nicely from being a non-conformist. It’s just completely stimulating being different. I mean, come on, look at all those Barbie’s and Ken’s out there — yeah, it’s a nice bit of eye-candy, but really? For real?

Nah, I prefer someone with a bit more kick, vooma and soul — even if the facial features are slightly askew, hell, isn’t that what makes people intriguing? Give me a David Bowie or a Thom Yorke any day — talent is my sexiness barometer.

So, little Cherie from the past, this is what I would have loved to have been able to time travel to tell you about.

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How to Not Fall into the Trap of Complacency (video incl.)

Posted on July 13, 2016 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

“There is no stopping creative flow…

It will never cease to be.

The only limitations to creation are the ones that are self inflicted.”

(Page 3 of ‘Creative Expression — How to find your inspiration…’)

To recap on page 1 and 2 (recommended) click here: 4 Minute Video Leading up to the Meaning of Life and Why Anybody Can Be Creative (video tutorial incl.)

Why We Get Scared to Move Forward

In the video below, I take a look at how we can be our worst enemies when it comes to living to our fullest potential.

Self sabotage is more common than you may think. We are beings who are scared beyond belief at our own power.

Say what?

It’s true. A lot of us not only have a fear of failure but a fear of success too. It’s sometimes more comfortable to stay in the box and never have anyone (or ourselves) expect anything more of us. It’s just too much trouble to venture out and dare to be darn-right spectacular!

Maybe you fear:

drawing too much attention to yourself (some people are taught to ‘keep it real’ or ‘play it small’)

feeling that people will think you overly ambitious (after all, who do you think you are?)

generally fearing what other people will say about you (read this related article:8 Tips on How to Stop Caring What Other People Think of You)

worried you may not live up to your own expectation (how will you know if you don’t try? Isn’t it better to give it a go then to be left wondering?)

or maybe you’re concerned about the added responsibility of success? But, truly, you came here to live a saucy life…the added responsibility is going to be a drop in the ocean compared to all the fun, thrills, escapades and blissing out you’re going to have to deal with (ah shucks, poor you!)

If you fall on your butt in the process have a good laugh and pick yourself up. There are so many avenues of adventure you can take so if one doesn’t work out, pick the next.

Watch the video…you’ll see what I mean 😉

I hope you enjoyed that. Next week I’ll be taking a look at the dangers of entropy and how you can avoid the pitfalls of degeneration.

Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She also has just recently launched her official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates).

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This video/article (How to Not Fall into the Trap of Complacency (video incl.)) was originally written and recorded for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement.

What Could Possibly Be More Powerful Than Positive Thinking? The Answer May Surprise You!

Posted on January 13, 2016 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

We Just Can’t Help It!

It’s January 2016 and it’s that time of year when most of us are all revved up and ready for change — we, the hopefuls, dream of stepping up our game in the new months that are about to unfold. It’s all quite exciting.

Then a few weeks into the new year — well, you know the story — some of us get disillusioned and stumble off that rickety bandwagon. Our hopes, dreams and willpower get kicked to the curb and we continue with the same old same old wondering why every year feels like a sequel to Groundhog Day.

Towards the end of last year, I overheard some folks complaining about people who make new years resolutions and all that ‘blah blah blah’…then I saw a quote on Facebook that made me laugh. I’m paraphrasing here but it went something like, ‘I’m not making any new years resolutions ’cause, let’s face it, who likes a skinny, rich woman?’

I even tried to stay away from making resolutions this year but I just couldn’t resist the pull…

Getting Real…For the Umpteenth Time!

I’m no stranger to the Law of Attraction and positive thinking and I’ve applied them to most sections of my life with great success. However, I also have some areas of my life that I’ve applied them too with little or sporadic success.

What I mean by this is that I can achieve something one month but can’t pull it off the next – it wavers (in this specific arena) and then I begin to doubt myself. And I know I’m not the only one experiencing this.

The last months of 2015 had me catching a huge wake up call.

Positive thinking is fantabulosis. But positive feeling is the vooma that lights that ignition! Some of you have probably heard of this already. I had. A gazillion times before as a matter of fact. I know this and yet I was still deluding myself and avoiding how I was truly feeling about the things I was trying to create.

Introspection and Facing a Hard Reality

My ‘a-ha’ moments with regards to manifesting finances come and go and never seem to ‘stick’. I have huge epiphanies, things go great and then I trip and fall into a rut.

I took a very serious look at my manifesting behaviors over this past year and was quite shocked to see that I was sliding down a slippery slope of limited thinking — falling back into an abyss of past experience that was dictating my future.

So I hopped to it and created a new vision board for myself in December. When I stepped back to look at it it made my eyes hurt. It was all over the place! It was so helter-skelter that I felt like crying. Why? It was such a huge reflection of what was going on in my head.

My brains and ambitions at the end of 2015 felt like watery, scrambled eggs.

Cracking the Shell

I took a long, hard, penetrating look at my life and thoughts and realized that all the positive thinking in the world couldn’t help me if I felt so ‘out of control’ on the inside.

I do positively affirm a lot of things when I wake up and even during the day. I try to steer my thoughts to positive outcomes but I was lacking in one thing. I wasn’t checking in with myself to see if I was truly feeling positive about my situation.

I got real and figured out that even though I have set goals, vision boards, do affirmations — the whole toot — I was not always feeling the outcome. There was still a little lack in my gut (your solar plexus doesn’t lie!). A little twinge to say, ‘you might not (fill in the blank)’.

That made me think further.

How did I feel about manifesting enough money for next months bills?

Exhausted. My brain was jet-lagged. I hadn’t really accomplished what I wanted to this year and I felt like I didn’t even know what I wanted for next year. It felt overwhelming and it was reflecting in my vision board

Their is No Space For Doubt

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I set to work trying to simplify my board. I got it down to the top 10 things I wanted this year. I stood back this time and felt relief wash over me. I could feel the shift within.

It was as though all the straggling thoughts had been filed neatly for me to gaze upon and the feeling was being upgraded.

I had been too chaotic in my thoughts and it was manifesting in my life through my feelings of being out of control. I was even trying to control how I manifested things. My new board reflected what I wanted and I decided to relinquish how I was going to get it.

Within 2 days of me completing the new and upgraded vision for 2016, I manifested one of the things on that board. It involved me bartering one of my paintings for it but, low and behold, the damn thing was working!

Within a week, I had manifested another thing on my board.

What changed?

I not only do my affirmations every day now but I make myself feel what it’s like to be on that holiday in Italy, sipping red wine and I can feel the wind zipping through my hair as I cycle down the main road on my new mountain bike.

Before I thought I had to concentrate on manifesting money to be able to buy things and experiences but I know now that the universe works in mysterious ways.

I’ve had people give me things that I thought I’d have to buy or spontaneously treat me to dinner or even trade with me for mutually beneficial gain. It’s opened my eyes up to new ways of manifesting and has given me a new hope that this year is going to be epic.

All I have to do is feel it. I hope you get to feel your way to all the things you dream about doing and having!

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Conscious Life News — click here to visit their awesome site and see why over 800k readers tune in daily!

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You’re Told to Follow Your Heart, But What Does That Mean and How Do You Practically Do That?

Posted on April 1, 2015 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

We’ve explored how to navigate our unconscious mind, heal our shadow aspects and balance our inner feminine and masculine and now Tracy will bring this together to teach how to create and live into our potential in this fourth and final blog.

Here are the links to the previous blogs:

Ever Wanted to Fly?

Do You Know the Difference Between Your Superconscious and Subconscious Mind

How to Heal and Unite Your Inner Feminine and Masculine

Cherie: Okay, we hear the saying ‘follow your heart’ a lot these days — what exactly does that mean in your opinion?

Tracy: Following your heart is not for the faint-hearted and it doesn’t mean giving into your egoic desires in each moment (which can often take you further away). It means having the courage to get real about who you are, exploring what your soul wants to express through you and committing to walking this path because the fullness of your life depends on it.

Yet how do we even do this?

We could have a myriad of external and internal obstacles and perceived limitations and somehow have forgotten that we are the curators and creators of our own lives.

It starts with taking our power back from the outside world and deciding to live our highest potential, beyond what’s comfortable and familiar.

Cherie: Why is it detrimental, in this new paradigm, to listen to our heart intuition instead of our heads?

Tracy: If we rely on our brain to give us information on how to move forward, we’ll remain stuck. It only knows what it knows based on past experience and can’t give us any new information that hasn’t already been learned or experienced.

To live according to our highest potential is to break out of the cycle of fear, doubt and lack and follow the intuitive design, cycles and wisdom of nature. We need to harness the power of the seen and unseen, the superconscious and subconscious, the masculine and feminine and the heart and mind to create from a place of wholeness and balance.

Cherie: Following the metaphor of the cycle of the butterfly — that you’ve already illustrated for us in the previous blogs — how do we use it to create what we want?

Tracy: Start with the end in mind. Begin with the butterfly, that which you are at the core of your being.

What is that highest vision you want for your life, for your next project, for who you want to become?
What are you passionate about? What do you love to do and talk about?
What GIVES you energy, rather than depletes it?

Your purpose may evolve over time, but in each moment of living into your passion and truth, that path will unfold before you.

The old fearful way of creating is to keep doing what you know, work hard and then harder, with effort, sweat and tears.

You’ve lost the joy, passion and energy. You’re working from a place of lack and fear and have disconnected from your truth.

It’s all ‘doing’ and not enough ‘being’ and therefore no real creativity, which is what truly brings us to life.

Cherie: So, we’ve basically got to find the balance of our heart-mind connection to truly and fully encompass our innate creative power. Can you expound on working together with that heart-mind connection and all it entails?

Tracy: Working from the heart–mind combines the power of flow and focus, surrender and action, compassion and passion, inspiration and execution, contraction and expansion. It’s a dance that feels less like work and more like wild hearted living.

“It’s the difference between living in the world of magic and the muggle world.”

It begins with the heart –that feminine aspect that’s receptive, allowing and intuitive.

She is still, radiant, creative, nurturing, feeling, flowing, unconditional love. This is the place of receiving intuitive divine guidance. So much of that has been lost in society and yet this feminine energy is the power and source of all of creation.

Like the egg of the butterfly, be open to receiving the seed of inspiration from your highest vision.

We can access this place through meditation, being in nature, gentle movement and embracing nature’s many feminine attributes (the flowing water, the blossoming flower).

Allow yourself to imagine this space of the receptive, magnetic feminine. What do you see? What do you feel? What do you hear? How do you know when you’re in that place?

Cherie: I love that! Thank you. Synchronicity is an incredibly powerful force in this world that guides us along our path and you’ve described it and what to do with it beautifully. Any last words to impart before we wrap up this incredible journey you’ve taken us through?

Tracy: Remember, to the degree you experience the expansion of your vision, is to the degree that you will feel the contraction of all that’s needing to be let go of.

You will have to go through the contractions in order to birth your vision or highest version of self. The old fear cells will be threatened by the higher vibrational imaginal discs of the butterfly and your job will be to keep holding onto the truth of who you are and let the fears and doubts dissolve as you keep walking through them.

You are growing your wings and the caterpillar, who is scared of flying, will do everything to try stay in her camouflaged, black and white world – but you are born to fly!

Living and leading from the heart requires courage and commitment, yet you get to a point of no return where you can only dance the cha-cha towards your truth!

You inevitably WILL come up against your fears and doubts as they want to keep you playing small in your familiar playground. Don’t’ let the fear of feeling fear hold you back. Feel it, dance through it and walk through it.

You’ll find a pot of power on the other side that will fuel you for the next threshold you face. All the while, you’re reclaiming more and more of your personal power, building your confidence muscle and preparing you for full flight.

Cherie: I’m sure I speak for all my readers when I say a big heartfelt THANK YOU to Tracy Russell for her time and wild hearted wisdom in this powerfully transforming cycle of the butterfly metaphor series. I think we’re ready to spread our wings and take our lives to a whole new level!

More about Tracy:

Tracy Russell is transformational coach, facilitator, writer and speaker guiding adults and young adults to their hearts, inner nature, authentic power and potential so that they may share their unique expression with the world and be the rEVOLUTION that’s needed. She’s a truth-detective, edge-walker, nature-lover, fear-slayer, heart-activist and Wild Hearted Woman in training. She lives in Cape Town, South Africa where you’ll find her either up a rock face, somewhere in nature, dancing or hanging out with her beloved, spirited daughter… when she’s not doing the work she loves of course.

Find her on Facebook HERE

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Posted on December 31, 2014 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

New Life Resolutions With Staying Power!

As we see the old year out and get ready to welcome the new year in, let’s try to make our new year’s resolutions ones that will stick.

It’s easy to make big plans for gigantic change but not so easy to stick to the program, especially as the best laid plans are usually made in the peak of our festive celebrations where the punch, and not the person, is talking.

Here are the simplified 10 steps I wrote about in my manifesto, ‘New Life Resolutions’ (which goes into more detail of how you can practically apply these steps — you can download it for FREE when you sign up HERE).

These are changes anyone can introduce into their life in a sustainable manner. Even if you start off by doing 1 of these things a month, by the end of the year you will be a new person.

Good luck and may 2015 be a most magical year for you!

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Shining a Light on Sensuality and Sexuality

Posted on August 13, 2014 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

A while back I wrote about merging your feminine and masculine attributes and addressing your shadow self. You can read those blogs here:

I was approached by author Michael Hallett, after he read what I had to say about the above-mentioned articles, and we started discussing issues of sexuality that we both felt needed to be addressed in society — after all, sex should no longer be a taboo subject.

Healthy Sexual Attitudes

In fact, we should be opening dialogues all over the globe looking at and re-examining our belief structures with regards to sex and our own sense of sexuality.

Sexuality and sensuality are gifts that have been severely abused but that doesn’t mean we can’t heal our perceptions. We can reclaim our divine sexual power and reinstate a healthy respect for our bodies and the bliss we can evoke in them through loving relationship (both with ourselves and with our partners).

We each have a responsibility to heal our own sexual wounds, no matter what shape or form they come in. It is detrimental to not hand these wounds down to our children — we need to break the link in the chain now before more harm can be inflicted.

The global closet is teaming with skeletons and we can’t fit one more femur in there without dem bones collapsing on us! Now, onto bones of a different type…

Porn Addiction — A Dirty and Avoidable Topic

It’s hard to be open-minded when it comes to porn — a highly emotive and generally frowned at subject of discussion. We would rather sweep this kind of stuff under a heavy rug and never peak at it again.

However, I was seriously blown away by Michael Hallett’s book (that he kindly sent me after our discussions) Porn Addiction 101 — a brave, insightfully thought-provoking and well-researched publication that had me hooked from start to finish.

He admits, in the book, to his battle with porn addiction and takes the reader through a journey of his own personal self-discovery and healing.

It was such a powerful read and something that I feel is badly in need of discussing that I want to introduce you to some of the astute highlights from his book.

“Once I queried my previously unassailable conviction that my addiction was an unwelcome character flaw, a disgusting habit, a shameful craving, everything changed. As they say, ‘don’t shoot the messenger’.

What was the message? The message, loud and clear, was that I did not believe that I deserved an open, joyous and fulfilling sex life. My craving for sexual images was a futile, treadmill attempt to find outside of myself what I did not believe I deserved or could ever have from within. The message asked me to value myself, and in particular my sexuality…to be unashamed of myself…to love myself in my entirety.” — Excerpt from Pornography Addiction 101 by Michael Hallett

Partner Advice, the Compassion Factor and Rock ‘n Roll

This book is not only for the person who wants to overcome his/her addiction but also for the partners and other people who are affected by this destructive obsession.

Michael offers the partners of pornography-users a looking glass, window of opportunity to address their own sexual fears by encouraging conscious and open dialogue — to look at their own sexual wounds and encourage a new and healthier relationship (whether or not they move on to other partnerships).

The book offers the reader compassion and a real sense of understanding.

Michael also takes you through an interesting look at societal sexual history, which I found to be not only captivating and interesting but enlightening too,

“Music became a primary means for expressing socially illicit emotions, through jazz in the 1920’s and later through rock ‘n roll — the term itself derives from negro slang for having sex.” — Excerpt from Pornography Addiction 101 by Michael Hallett

Towards the end of the book, Mike says:

“Today I have complete control of my responses to sexualized images. I have no adult filters on my computer. I don’t need to avoid films or TV with sex scenes. Even if I were chained up in a cinema with my eyelids pinned open like Malcolm McDowell in The Clockwork Orange and bombarded with bed adverts and/or hardcore porn, I wouldn’t lapse into my former emotionally disempowered porn binges because I have understood, accepted and healed the underlying impulses” — Excerpt from Pornography Addiction 101 by Michael Hallett

Good for you, Michael, in your courageous attempt to shine a light on this socially taboo subject!

Pornography Addiction 101 Book Review:

“Having developed men’s health many years ago in my region in Australia I find that Michael’s book is most timely. It is very much needed in the world we have created today where sexuality is a subject which is both taboo and fraught with misinformation and distortion. An area where research is often overlooked. Michael is obviously a deep thinker and this combined with his rollicking writing style makes for an easy and entertaining read without losing the wonderful depth of meaning he offers us. I suggest it is an essential read for all adults and especially men.”
—Joan Morgan McCarthy, author of “Peace and Harmony: Re-envisioning Sexuality Education”

For more information about Michael Hallett, you can visit his site www.michaelhhallett.com (‘Exposing Humanity’s Invisible Shame’).

His book, Pornography Addiction 101, can be purchased on Amazon HERE.

Lastly, I would like to encourage you to watch this amazingly refreshing and impactful video by Sheila Kelly called ‘Let’s Get Naked’ — I promise that you won’t regret it:

Reality Check: Disempowering Facebook Quotes that Lead to Waiting for ‘Soul Mate’ Reunions

Posted on July 9, 2014 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Last week I told you I was taking strides out of my comfort zone and pulling carrots from my derriere (you can read it HERE — Do You Believe in Magic?), well, here’s the first ‘episode’ of Reali-Tea Check!

I’m hoping to make it a regular feature here, so do stay tuned and remember to SIGN UP or follow the blog (in the sidebar).

I’m going to be digging into a facebook quote that was doing the rounds this week and why, if taken the wrong way (I’m not too sure if there’s a ‘right’ way but maybe you can chime in with your take on it), it could be very disempowering.

Enjoy!

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Why Rejection Can Be a Blessing

Posted on June 4, 2014 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

You’re Such a Reject!

Rejection is not something we take kindly to.

Rejection, for most, is something to be avoided at all costs and if encountered we tend to slip into self-doubt, shame, self-flagellation and a variety of other negative emotions.

The thought of entering a situation that could lead to rejection makes us feel vulnerable. Eeek! Another word that sends shivers down the spines of the most hardy.

But why?

Vulnerability — The Gateway to Testing the Waters of Potential

What is interesting is that vulnerability can indeed lead to rejection but rejection only ever equates to not being in vibrational alignment or frequential match to what we think we want.

We should not take rejection personally.

In other words, when we experience rejection it is actually the universe saving us time and trouble when something is not in alignment with our destination.

We may not see it at the time and pine for what we think we ‘lost out’ on but we need to realign with the truth that it wasn’t meant to be in the first place and something else that is a frequential match is on the way.

Sometimes we are so hung up on the rejection that we miss the opportunity that the rejection made way for.

Savvy?

Embracing Rejection

Now you can face rejection with the renewed optimism that it is a divining rod that will eventually lead you to that bountiful spring!

Allow yourself to be vulnerable when you need to test the waters of a potential desire. If rejected then allow yourself to hold your head high as you stride over to the next potential.

Rejection ultimately leads to refining your path.

About the Art

The artwork used in this article is taken from my painting called, ‘Apotheosis’, the original is sold but prints and products are available — CLICK HERE.

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Is Humanity Being Raped?

Posted on October 23, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

The Insidious Rape of Mankind and the Imminent Solution

Whoa! Them is fighting words, Tex…

I’ve brought out many blogs about the imperative concept of yin and yang and the balancing of the masculine/feminine energies. This one is, hopefully, going to be the last one in the series — the Big Kahuna.

I’ve had a pressing feeling to write about this but I’ve tried to duck, dive and dodge every bullet of compulsion sent from my ‘invisible entourage’ (who are encouraging me to take the leap of certain death on this highly emotive topic).

So here it goes:

Rape, Abuse, Murder…How Much More Can We Take?

With the current spate of malicious rapes, brutal disfigurements and fatal attacks on females not only here in South Africa but in India and, I’m sure, all over the globe (and in some cases males are the victims too) — there is a clear need to get to the bottom of why this is happening.

“Both sexes have suffered even though it may not appear so on the surface.”

I just want to say on the off that this blog is not going to be about man-bashing and I’m certainly not going to go on a feminist rant either. I am both masculine and feminine (on a spiritual level) and I know that to slant any sex is to injure oneself.

These are my opinions and I hope they resonate with you.

Sexual Energy is About to Blow

Sexual energy is a miraculous thing when understood and in its natural state of balance. But for the last couple of millennium our world has been in the throes of a patriarchal imbalance that has not only disempowered women but inadvertently stripped men of their innate power as well.

Both sexes have suffered even though it may not appear so on the surface.

Tarts, Jocks and Prudes

It is encouraged for men to be sexual predators but women must be prim and proper and keep their hysterical urges to themselves lest they appear somewhat sluttish.

Where is the balance for both parties to feel at ease in this impossible situation?

The man who sleeps around is told by society that the women who consent are loose if not whores. How degrading is this for him as well as the female counterparts? No balance there and certainly no self-esteem on either part.

Why? Because the man is a mirror — on a subconscious level, he is also prostituting himself. The unconscious mind knows everything even if the conscious suppresses it.

He feeds his desires and his ego by repeating to himself that it’s his right to do so because he was born a man, giving him certain ‘entitlements’. However, the ramifications of his actions will catch up with him.

Low self-esteem may come biting at his heels that he might start fudging over with a self-righteous ego.

He has just built his foundations on sinking sand. This structure is unstable. You have to respect and acknowledge the Divine in not only yourself but others too, otherwise there will be imbalance.

Always Use the Mirror Analogy

If you see women (or men) as ‘playthings’ and objects for your amusement then that is what you are inadvertently projecting about yourself. If you have no respect for women (or men), you are projecting no respect for yourself.

Starting to see the picture?

Of course, your ego will try to fight this every way it can. It wants to protect your ‘identity’ — or at least that which it identifies itself with. This is not your true nature, it is a false persona that your culture, society or religion may have thrust upon you at birth.

We are Drowning Under labels

On the opposite scale of acceptable norms, how pitiful society has made it for a man to have a ‘below average’ sex drive (‘give him medication, goddammit!‘, ‘where is the Viagra?’) or how morally degrading is our media that constantly pumps booty at us on MTV 24/7?

In the above scenario — these men are being totally emasculated by society if they don’t conform to that ‘jock’ standard.

We are drowning under labels that make us feel unworthy, uncomfortable and unacceptable and it is sheer bullshit.

Are You Just Another Jack the Ripper?

For Gods sake! We are human beings with sexual urges and divine sexual energy to spend but we use most of it feeling guilt, taking that guilt out on others or completely cutting ourselves off.

“To be a master you need to be aware of your emotions and control your reactions.”

For example: The guilt some psychopaths may have felt in the past for wanting to sleep with prostitutes (which might have made them feel dirty and impure about themselves — the mirror analogy at work) was taken out on the prostitutes (as in that notorious case of Jack the Ripper).

Suppressing the self leads to explosions of anger, rage and conflict. You just have to look at the Boston Strangler to see how this looks when carried out in the physical if not balanced in time.

You are the Master

Just the awareness of a problem means you are halfway to ‘fixing’ it. When you identify with it (ego) you are the slave to its compulsion.

To be a master you need to be aware of your emotions and control your reactions. Understand them, forgive yourself for having those feelings (if they infringe on another human beings freewill) but to gain enough self-control as to not act upon them.

Then you can call yourself a man/woman. That is the right of passage to manhood/womanhood.

What if I told you we are both masculine and feminine despite what your genitals tell you? How different would things be then?

There would finally be equality — no argument.

Where Did We Break?

You cannot be whole if you are broken. A whole person would never need to belittle, hurt or degrade another. Someone who does this is broken themselves.

“If you truly loved yourself, you could never hurt another.” — Buddha

The good news is, it doesn’t take a lot to fix. It’s usually just ideas and concepts about yourself that you have to peel away until the true you is revealed.

Let the Child in You Help You to Remember

Can you remember when you were a child and your parents fought?

For those of you who grew up without both parents, I can tell you what it felt like: awful! You felt like your world was about to crumble about your feet. There was a sense of desperate insecurity because the two pillars you depended on were shaking.

But beside the insecurities that may have been experienced you may have also seen yourself as a bit of your mother and a bit of your father. When your father insulted your mother you felt insulted and when your mother went on about what a bastard ‘he’ was, again, you were that bastards child.

You may have even felt disconnected from one of the sexes due to a parent behaving badly towards the other — giving you a subliminal prejudice against the offending sex.

You can see how, as children, we got the concept of being the embodiment of both male and female through our parents, which is perfectly natural, because we felt we were a 50/50 blend of their energies.

If you had parents who were perfectly lovely to each other, you may have been very proud of yourself because you were a culmination of this divine energy.

You ARE female and male energies encapsulated in one form.

Butterfly with Balls

I feel really uncomfortable when I’m with a group of women and they start laying into ‘men’. It makes me feel very isolated and upset because I feel like I am 50% masculine.

I also am privileged that most of the men I know are absolutely amazing. They do not conform to that antiquated, stereotypical patriarchal male and abhor any kind of relation to it. They are kind, communicative, thoughtful, protective, understanding and strong.

This is what REAL men look like. Don’t let a few rotten eggs spoil the omelette, ladies.

Now on the other hand, I feel that some of us females need to grow a pair!

“I think men have been deprived of that female goddess energy that was replaced, oh so long ago, by the submissive female energy in survival mode.”

We need to stand in our truth (not be submissive) and be empowered. Men absolutely love that divine feminine goddess energy. A woman in control that knows her mind and soul is sexy — don’t think you’ll drive men away. And if you do, be thankful — those are not the men you wanted to attract in the first place.

Skin — The Goddess

I have to share a story with you: My sister was at a music festival when the British band, Skunk Anansie, came on stage. She said that the crowd were mainly very young adults/teenagers who had never heard of nor seen this group before.

For those of you who don’t know the lead singer, Skin, you need to read this: CLICK HERE. She is one of the most powerful women I have ever laid eyes on. She embodies that strong and graceful female energy yet she also exudes that awesome male vibration.

Anyway, after they had performed a couple of songs, my sister heard one of the young men in the crowd say, ‘Why haven’t we heard of this woman before? She’s a Goddess!’.

I think men have been deprived of that female goddess energy that was replaced, oh so long ago, by the submissive female energy in survival mode.

That false separation we were taught has hurt us all. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that seeing yourself as superior to the opposite sex is like pooping on your own doorstep!

This is why I advocate that our men have also been disempowered and hurt through this process. We are both Gods and Goddesses and we should treat each other that way, with love and respect and AWE.

You are AWESOME and you are DIVINE!

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Posted on September 26, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Despicable Me

Not only have I not (double negative, I know) read the sizzling book but I also have no intention of playing in the shadows of this steamy novel — pretty much based on the fact that all I know about it is its reputation for sexual explicitness.

What I do intend to do in this article is to whip out any double-entendre I can think of pertaining to sex, genitals or erotica.

This will be in an attempt to lure you into another grey area (of which who knows how many shades may present themselves) — the balancing of the sexes (an exploration of the ‘shadow-self’ will follow shortly in a blog post near you — so do remember to bookmark this page or ‘follow the blog’ to get updates).

Bottoms Up and Off We Blow!

It sickens me to my core when writers play on sensationalizing filth, which is why I’m in constant conflict with myself and my questionable morals.

Enough said, let’s soldier on in this minefield of masculine/feminine, light/dark, good/bad…yin to my yang.

We need to put on our ‘big-girls panties’ or our ‘big-boys jocks’ now as we undress (oh stop!) the issue of balancing sexual energy. And do get your head out of the gutter — this kind of sexual energy is what the universe is made of — we’re not just talking about the old ‘heave-ho!’.

“There is a deep misconception about the roles of masculine and feminine energy in the world right now, and it has been there for quite a long time. The belief is that masculine energy is a dominant energy, while feminine energy is a submissive energy. This war between the masculine and the feminine has caused many women to forsake their femininity in an attempt at equality, and many men to forsake their masculine energy out of guilt or embarrassment.” — Tuning Masculine & Feminine Energy

Sex and the Universe

Sexual energy is a magical power that each of us possess (or, in some cases, may possess us). We need to master this cosmic force in order to bring a healthy balance to our lives.

The fundamental principle is to recognize that we all, regardless of our apparent sex, are made up of both masculine and feminine energies. We sometimes only suppress one or the other to ‘fit into’ our society, or what is deemed to be normal in behaviour of our relevant genital status.

Don’t Confuse Sex with Sexual

Sex is, of course, great for procreation and extra-mural activities but it is not all about what happens in the bedroom (or behind the bicycle shed). Shelve those preconceived indoctrinated or hippy notions about what the word ‘sex’ means. That is for another blog, another day (maybe even on another site).

This blog is not going to address any kind of kinky, tantric or middle-of-the-road hokey pokey debauchery.

This is not about the ‘act’ it is about the ‘energy’.

The 6 Signs of Sexuality

Sexual energy exists on all levels — it is fundamental to creation on every level. It is dynamic, it is the flow, it is what attracts or repels us in any situation (you are reading and emitting this type of ‘sexual energy’ all the time – consciously or unconsciously).

Here is a list of 6 common traits of the masculine energy — do any of these resonate with you (regardless of your sex)?:

Security/safety — a ‘container’ energy
Strong — a sense of standing firm and being a protector
Resolute — a decisive energy
Freedom — the masculine energy wants to be the container not the contained
Logical — always trying to find the solution
Action — impulsive and daring — ‘leap before you look’

Here is a list of feminine energy traits — do you recognize any of these in yourself (again, regardless of what sex you are):

Surrender — not to be mistaken with submissiveness but rather a sense of wanting to be held by that comforting peaceful masculine container energy
Sensitive — paying fine attention to feelings and emotions
Gentle — feminine energy seeks to allow for smooth flow and the path of least resistance
Bonding — the act of bringing together and unifying
Creative — the need to give birth to creation be it in form, thought or deed
Pensive — calculating and cautious — ‘look before you leap’

There is no right or wrong list as you can see — all the points listed above are highly commendable and desirable. The exercise of outlining these different attributes is to marry the two — to ‘meet in the middle’ or to have a bit of both.

When you can embody these traits and draw upon them when you need to in any given situation, you become a very powerful human being.

It is of utmost benefit to be a bit of both. The union of divine masculine and feminine gives us a chance to ‘see’ through the eyes of the other sex and to gain a deeper understanding of our dichotomous nature.

To state the bleeding obvious: Without men there would be no women, without women there would be no men. Let’s face it, we need each other to make it work.

The Benefits of Empathic Behaviour

Firstly, the union of the sexes would probably bring about world peace. A balanced human being would have no need for supremacy — the need for domination is the soul being strangled by the needs of the ego.

Secondly, there will be no more ‘war of the sexes’ — I mean, that’s so last century already! Seriously, when we figure out that we encapsulate both male and female energies, we can finally start to move on.

Not only will this mean that you’ll see more women belching in public whilst their partner blubs over the latest rom-com but the benefits of the union will also include:

Emotional Freedom — you depend on yourself for fulfillment but enjoy the company of others. You are open and honest with the ones you love and are able to express yourself without fear of judgment.
Empathy and Vision — the ability to see things from the others point of view and thus come to an agreeable solution instead of a pissing contest. The need to be right is overtaken by the need to be careful.
Personal and Collective Power — owning who you are, what you are, how you feel and how you choose to express yourself and allowing others to do the same in a manner that doesn’t infringe on anybody’s rights. You flow with life and allow instead of resist.
Wisdom in Equality — realizing that your Yin/Yang energy is reflected in every other soul and to disrespect another is to disrespect yourself. You are free to contain that compulsive judgment.
Creative Action — you embrace creative thinking and act upon ideas that encourage, uplift, benefit or enlighten.
Ownership — you are a part of the bigger picture and not just a small and inconsequential ant (not that I think ants are inconsequential, merely that they paint a good metaphoric picture) mulling about the face of the Earth. Your resoluteness will encourage others to seek out their own power and pass it forward.
No More Rats Arses — you no longer give a monkeys bum about what other people think of you because when you embody the union of traits, you are SOVEREIGN. This is not, in any way, to be associated with ego — it is a state of wholeness within your being. You are embracing your divinity and acknowledging it in others.

If I have left anything out on this list, please do leave your comments in the allocated box below. I would love to get your take or experience on this saucy topic. Knowledge shared is wisdom gained.

Inequality Begins with ‘I’ and Ends with ‘Why?’

To look down upon, to belittle or to mistreat someone because of their sex (and this works with any other human allocation be it religion, culture, skin colour, sexual preference, etc) is an indication that you are not whole.

When you insult or degrade another, you insult and degrade yourself.

A man or (wo)man who is complete, is one who does not need to undermine any other. To do so is a public display of your own inadequacy.

Banging On and On

Right, you lot! Time to zip it up — this subject has been milked. I hope all this sexuality talk hasn’t left you high and dry (oh God, please! No more innuendo!!!)…until the next blog where we will be poking about the shadows of our murky selves and trying to embrace what we find.

Goodness knows what we’ll dredge up, so don’t forget the latex gloves next week!

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Turning Trust into Money

Posted on September 4, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

“Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something.”
— Eric Hoffer

How Trust Can Bring You Abundance

I believe in what I do and what I have to say, so when I saw this new video circulating Facebook I just had to share it with you.

It’s called ‘An 8-Foot-Tall Woman Is Destroying The Entire Music Industry’ and it’s a TED talk by Amanda Palmer. Take a look for yourself, in case you haven’t seen this already:

The Penny Drops!

What this brave and courageous woman had to say resonated so much with my soul, it left me shell-shocked for about an hour while I tried to process this invaluable information and apply it to my entire life.

What stood out for me were the similar experiences of self-doubt:

Is what I’m doing of use to others?
Should I get a ‘real’ job?
Am I just kidding myself?

I have 3 passions in life, every one of them has brought me to these questions (and brought me to my knees!).

Careers with Bad Reputations

I started out as a musician in a band but…

My Limiting Belief: Musicians are bums and lay-abouts, they don’t ear money. No-one takes you seriously. Get a real job.

Then I pursued my love for art and I became a full-time artist but…

My Limiting Belief: You can’t make money being an artist, you’ll struggle all your life. Get a real job.

Then — oh God forbid — I started to write! And…

My Limiting Belief: Writers are poor, they don’t earn money. If you don’t make it onto the Best Sellers list you’ll never make it. Get a real job.

Money, Monks and Misunderstandings

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The worst part of it was that I am a ‘spiritual’ writer and there is a hefty stigma that you should not earn money off spiritual advice. After all, stereo-typically monks, nuns and Buddhists are humble, simple, poor people.

I also tend to shudder when I see a sight offering spiritual advice accompanied by a paid subscription. However, I’m the one with the problem — everyone has a right to earn money.

Money is an energy swap. I give you, you give me. The figure of eight is complete and everyone walks away with an equal exchange.

I am one of those people who cringes when I have to ask for money. Something in me thinks that it’s like begging and that is shameful. I seriously need to get over it if I’m going to keep up my chosen career. If I don’t, there’s a nice cashier job waiting for me at my local grocer.

The Two Common Stumbling Blocks

Asking for this ‘energetic exchange’ or money brings a strange dichotomy. The problem, as I see it, lies with these two things:

Self-belief/love — Do you believe that your product/service/talent is worth it? I.e. are you worth it? Are you creating/providing a service from a place of love and passion? Or is this a means to an end? From my experience, if you don’t love what you’re doing, you’re in big trouble when it comes to integrity. Doubt will creep in where there is no passion.
Fair exchange — Here’s the humdinger. What to charge? Yikes, I’ve encountered so many people who suffer big time with this. They either charge too little for their expertise or they charge too much. In the latter case, it’s just because they may be in a profession where there is potential to charge a lot but they are not experientially there yet. They shoot themselves in the foot by charging professional prices with beginners experience.

The Solution

Ginger Goddess by Cherie Roe Dirksen CLN

Prints available – click on picture

Love what you do. Have a burning passion for what you do. Trust in your clientele or the people you exchange your services with. If there is a way that you can let them determine what you are worth, then go for it. Trust that they will reimburse you with fairness and integrity.

I’m not saying everyone will give you what you or your services are worth but it’s in my experience that more people than not, will compensate you appropriately when given the chance.

Letting as Opposed to Making

In the video, Amanda Palmer said that instead of asking how to make people pay for services you should let them pay. That was my ‘a-ha’ moment.

With our economies in collapse and the entire global population wondering if money will even be present in our future, this novel idea of trust in commerce rings bells in my head.

We are moving into a new consciousness on this planet — heart-centered living — and this kind of energy exchange just might work!

Let’s Put Integrity to the Test

I’m willing to put my money where my mouth is (pun intended!). I’ve just self-published my second book, ‘Carpe Diem or Bust — a Spiritual Guide to the Good Life’, and I want to share it with the world — whether I make money from it or not.

Of course, I’d like to make money as I’ve also got bills to pay but I believe in this book so much that I’d rather it got read than having it be just another Amazon book statistic. That’s not why I wrote it.

I know it will help people but I also know that a lot of people won’t read it because they can’t afford the luxury of buying books right now. So, in light of what has just been discussed, I am offering my book to you for free.

I trust that you will enjoy it and find the information on the pages of value and should you wish to contribute — by donating to keep me and my passions alive — then you are most welcome to pay whatever you want to.

Here is the link: https://cherieroedirksen.com/free-ebooks/ or just click on the picture below:

Any system can change if we all agree to make it happen!

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy

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4 Ways to Motivate Yourself Out of Bed

Posted on July 3, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

“I once had a rose named after me and I was very flattered. But I was not pleased to read the description in the catalogue: no good in a bed, but fine up against a wall.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

You may be good (or in the above case not) in bed but how good are you at rising? Right, now that I have your attention…

Are You a Morning or a Mourning Person?

I love to sleep in (don’t we all?). But at some point of the morning one has to muster up the pluck to actually get out of that nice warm bed and brave the cold/the kids/the untidy house/the boss/the traffic/the kitty litter/(insert general problematic encounter here).

As I was lying in bed this morning, blearily preparing to pry open my eyes, I started with my morning ‘head banter’. I then realized that my thought process on this fine and sunny morn would make for a titillating blog (always capitalizing on my life!).

If you are one of the lucky few (0.001% of the global population) who eagerly jumps out of bed at the crack of dawn with a glint in your eye and a spring in your step — bully for you! However, even you may glean value from what I’m about to divulge.

“You will start to see just how incredibly powerful you are as a creator of your experience.”

Here it goes, my list of morning motivating muses:

1. How Do I Want Today to Turn Out? As Will Pharrell sang, ‘It might seem crazy what I’m about to say, Sunshine she’s here, you can take a break. I’m a hot air balloon that could go to space. With the air, like I don’t care, baby, by the way…Because I’m happy‘ — try to start your awakening mind rolling in the direction of a positive affirmation, like telling yourself just how bizarrely splendid today is going to be. Hell, it could be the best damn day of your life!

Let your thoughts steamroll with the idea of having good things happen to you on this day. If you have something to do today that you are dreading or feel uneasy about, now is your chance to manipulate that situation to how you want to see it play out. If it is a dreary task or something with unavoidable lackluster, tell yourself that it is going to go quickly and smoothly so you can get on with something fun afterwards.

2. How Is Today Going to Look? As you lie under your cozy covers, start to visualize this splendid day — make a movie in your head. Start to see how you want it to pan out — direct, director!

You can draw it out with a detailed synopsis or you can conjour up a quick run-through. Just remember to see yourself smiling and laughing a lot. Have copious amounts of ‘good times’ squeezed into this productive day.

Whenever I do this visualization technique, it really does affect how my day starts to unfold (for the better). You will start to see just how incredibly powerful you are as a creator of your experience.

“You’re only as excited by life as how exciting you can be…”

3. Who Do I Want to Be Today? Express yourself! You’ve got to ‘dress for success’. Jeez, I feel like I’m writing about Pop songs here. This may seem like a bit of a strange and unspiritual thing to put in this article but I’ve only just started seeing this from a new perspective. Men, this applies to you too. There is nothing wrong with expressing how you feel or your personality externally and it is becoming more and more acceptable for men to convey this type of sassy style and creativity.

I can also get into the rut of ‘dressing for comfort’ but have recently realized that it can get uber boring! I’ve been exposed to the delights of that online ‘visual’ feast site,Pinterest and, oh boy, have I got some fashion ideas! It can really broaden your style horizons (and I could do with a bit of that). After brain-storming, I have taken my existing wardrobe and fallen in love with it due to a few tweaks and accessories. I now dress according to my mood.

I could be a rock chick one day, a jeans and t-shirt girl the next, a sweet-16-and-never-been-kissed maiden (yeah, right!) to a sophisticated business woman — anything goes where the mood flows (and, yes, I can also just be in a sweat- pants and jumper mood).

It’s heaps of inventive fun! To add even more pizzazz to this daily routine, I sometimes tease my hair and stick it up in a beehive like Elvira or create a rat’s nest, for those of you who can cast your minds back to the ‘80’s, looking like Kim Wilde or Bonnie Tyler. As the saying goes ‘change is as good as a holiday’. My husband has a good chuckle on these ‘hair’ days when he sees me emerging from the bathroom after hearing the spray can at work. However, the main thing is to please and dress for yourself — if other people don’t have the guts to go a-la-mode, don’t let it put you off your pursuit.

Don’t take yourself too seriously either — experiment with your individual taste and mood and make this about fun. This is just another way of spicing up your life and getting creative. You’re only as excited by life as how exciting you can be or, to put it simply, exciting is as exciting does. You have a corporeal ‘Earth Suit’ while you are incarnation — you may as well use it to have some shits and giggles. Just remember when you look good, smell good and feel good — you exude confidence, which is key to having a good day.

4. What is the Soundtrack of Today? This is my favourite step of the feel-good program — figuring out what musical mood I’m in. When I make up my mind, my toes are already itching to hop out of bed.

After having your first cup of the day accompanied by catching up on the latest articles on Lightworkers World (*wink*), music can be a terrific motivator — especially when you are doing something mundane like housework or on your commute to work.

Put on that Queen greatest hits CD and hoover to ‘I want to break free’ or plan what music to listen that will elevate your mood whilst on your way to work. I actually cannot do the dishes without having some form of toe-tapping tune on the stereo. Spoons make for great pretend microphones and dishcloths can be stretched to make great air guitar solos.

When I’m driving, what I’m playing over the system has a tremendous effect on how jovial my trip is. Seriously though, music has a tendency to make things better and kick-start your day. Combine a cup of coffee or ginseng tea with Jimaroquai and you will be instantly transformed into a Duracell bunny.

I hope these tips works for you! Please do share your thoughts or successful morning rituals in the comment area below.

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Lightworkers World

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Posted on May 23, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Be Impeccable With Your Words

Don Miguel Ruiz wrote about this in his book ‘The Four Agreements’ but I’d like to touch on it today as it is something that has been on my mind lately.

You see, I believe there is a difference between speaking the truth and saying what needs to be said.

What Does Impeccability Really Mean?

To be impeccable with your word simply means to have the ability to filter your thoughts into productive or empathic speech.

It sounds simple but it can be most difficult for some who find themselves impulsively speaking the first thing that comes to mind or for those who think that to tell the truth in any situation is perfectly alright.

Yes, we should be able to speak our truths but sometimes it is not appropriate. Do you have the capacity to discern which is which?

For example:

You come across someone who is a little slow and less sharp than what is deemed average. Do you tell this person the truth that he/she is stupid? It is, after all, the truth (as seen by you).

Well I hope you answered no, because it is neither a productive thing to say nor is it necessary. This would be like marching up to someone who is mature in years and decrepid and telling them that they old and falling apart. It is an unnecessary truth.

Now of course there are people out their exercising their right to stupidity that are really going to grate your butt down to the bone but it is best to walk away or try to help them out rather than be unproductive and start hurling abuse.

Do not justify your blurb by saying, ‘well, it is the truth’. Be very careful when you justify your behavior without taking a long hard look at yourself. As that very famous phrase from the movie Forest Gump goes; ‘Stupid is as stupid does!’.

Question Time

When you are at that split-second junction where you are about to say something, stop yourself and quickly assess:

(a) is what I’m about to say going to be helpful (productive) to this person?

(b) if so, how can I phrase it with tact (empathy)?

To Use Euphemism or To Euthanize!

I often feel like ringing a person’s neck when they feel entitled to blurt out something mean and uncalled for to someone else, don’t you?

Especially when you can see the hurt in the other persons eyes. I do understand that we must all face our karma and learn to take these things on the chin (see my article called ‘9 Truths About Letting Go of Opinions that Taint Us’) but it still pisses me off no end when someone is tactless.

Let the words that fall from your lips be that which your heart agrees upon. Venomous words will only result in being toxic to yourself and to others.

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How to Stop Being a Doormat!

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Posted on April 3, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Are You a Pushover?

I am…or at least, I was. Not anymore though.

“And it comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do too much. We’re always thinking about new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”

— Steve Jobs

The last couple of weeks have seen the Universe trying to get me to open my eyes to this straggling piece of personality debris that I need to close the door on — it’s been throwing some rather extraordinary curve-balls my way.

I have had all sorts of people vying for my attention, skills and time — some art clients, some friends and others, total strangers.

Could You Bend Over Just a Little Bit More?

I’ve always been a people-pleaser — yes, you know the type. The ones who bend over backwards to help others sometimes sacrificing their own time and needs in the process.

I always thought this was a good trait but how wrong I was!

Doormats and Inhibitors

To be kind is a good trait. To help others out when you can is a good trait. To be used as a doormat is not a good trait. To help others when they can, themselves, do the job is inhibiting their personal growth and development.

Did you ever stop to think about that?

“To teach someone how to do something, once off, is empowering them to do it for themselves in the future. Doing it for them is stripping them of their power and making them reliant on you.”

I am the kind of person who thinks that if a job is worth doing it’s worth doing well. I’m also the kind of person who will do the entire job myself because it’s quicker than teaching someone else how to do it.

Big mistake!

Are You Helping or Hindering?

You are not helping anyone out by doing it all yourself. It’s like that old fishing metaphor — teach a person how to fish rather than fishing for them.

To teach someone how to do something, once off, is empowering them to do it for themselves in the future. Doing it for them is stripping them of their power and making them reliant on you.

Starting to get the picture? So am I.

Demands and Etiquette

What really gets to me is the lack of politeness when some people ask for a favor. Have you ever had someone not use that simple word ‘please’? Or even better, you do the job and you don’t even get a ‘thanks’.

Here’s a rather ludicrous example of one of my tests this week:

A young man approached me on facebook to have a look at a quote he had made up himself. He wanted to know if it was any good.

I read it over. It was a typo/grammatical moosh-mash and didn’t make much sense at all. I assumed that English was not his mother tongue. The phrase was also way too long for the short sentence he was really trying to put across.

So — the fool that I was — corrected the grammar and spelling mistakes and rephrased the entire thing for him. When I wrote back to him he said, ‘Oh, I guess I should pay more attention to what I am doing. I was watching the telly when I wrote that.’ Not a ‘thank you’ in sight or a ‘sorry for wasting your time’.

Who’s to Blame? I Think You Might Have Guessed This One

I was so angry! I had spent good time on this thinking I was helping out someone who desperately wanted to be heard. The joke was on me.

Then it dawned on me — it wasn’t even his fault for wasting my time, it was mine.

I let him waste my time. I should have just told him to use his spell check but no, I had to go and rework the whole thing.

Life’s Lessons Learned

“Now, I give you fair warning, either you or your head must be off, and that in about half no time! Take your choice!” — The Queen (Alice in Wonderland)

So, the new me is rethinking my attitude towards being a sucker — thank you Universe!. I know that there are going to be loads of pushovers out there reading this, so my advice to you is:

Discernment — can you ascertain if the person asking for your help is in genuine need of it or are they being lazy?
Teaching — if this person really needs your help, are you going to do everything for them or are you going to teach them the ropes? It’s so vitally important that people learn how to do things themselves, being independent is a marvelous trait and gift.
Wastrels — the last on this list is a warning. There are people out there who, either inadvertently or purposefully, will waste your time. Be a bloodhound and learn to sniff these people out quickly. You need to banter with this kind of person initially to find out where they stand. You can just ask a series of short sharp questions to discern how wafty they are or not. If you are feeling that their answers are not direct or resolute, leave them alone. They are time wasters. If they can’t figure out what they want, how are you going to? You aren’t, you are just going to get stuck in their net of indecision and end up with a headache and anger issues.

Grow a Pair!

You don’t have to be cruel or unkind when you stand up for yourself, your time and priorities — this is your life and you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to or have the time for.

I guarantee that they will get over your refusal. More importantly, the ones who cannot get over your decision are the ones you don’t need in your life anyway — think on that.

True friends and family members will understand and respect your space and choices.

“I don’t take crap from anyone, so that makes people think I’m rebellious. I’m not. I’m just not a pushover.” — Kat Dennings

I hope you come away from this blog with a more resolute stance. It is heavenly to practice kindness but it is damaging to let someone else take advantage of your goodness. Your job is to identify when the line has been crossed.

I have reworked this well-known adage to fit in with the theme of this blog (I think it works rather well)…”Use me once — shame on you. Use me twice — shame on me!”

Good luck. 🙂

Let me know of examples where you have stood your ground, you may be able to help someone else out in the process.

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Posted on February 7, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

We must look for ways to be an active force in our own lives. We must take charge of our own destinies, design a life of substance and truly begin to live our dreams. ~Les Brown

Making New Resolutions

I was having an interesting debate about resolutions with a friend of mine recently. My friend was opposed to them as he felt they didn’t really work and that especially New Year’s resolutions were all a ‘hype’ resulting in a general waste of time and energy.

Yeah, I get that. We make and break these new years’ resolutions all too quickly which leaves room for doubt and just general disappointment and annoyance with ourselves.

It would appear that we are setting ourselves up for a fall — or are we?

What’s Really Behind a Resolution?

The thought that a spanking clean slate is in the offing is rather enticing — that desire to detox after festive monkeyshines or to join the gym are hardly bad decisions.

However, the pressure to stick to such high expectations can leave us feeling dejected if we nose-dive off the bandwagon. The thing about setting goals is to make them realistic — not only attainable but manageable.

Bite-Sized Portions, If You Please!

What usually drives the average homo sapien is the ability to be able to easily maintain a certain change.

The thought of climbing a high mountain that goes on forever is certainly not as enticing as running up a hill and merrily sliding down on your toboggan several times in one outing. So why not make goal setting the same?

Here are some tips to get you started on a realistic set of resolutions to follow:

1. Draw up a Plan

Get yourself a vision board or a whiteboard — something you will be able to see every day to remind yourself to stay on track. The best place for this is on your fridge or the back of your bathroom door, where you are guaranteed to visit daily. If you are compiling a vision board, paste pictures of the end result you would like to achieve so as to motivate you to tow the line.

2. Don’t Overload

The quickest way to fail with setting intentions is to give yourself too many to plausibly handle. Draw up a list and if there is too much on the list, narrow it down to the top 3 achievable goals for this day/month/year. You can always put the leftovers on next year’s list.

3. Map it with Fun

Get jiggy with it. Make your new resolutions fun. If you want to change your eating habits, find a way to make it a stimulating change by jazzing up your menu/grocery list and looking forward to your meals instead of planning a drab repast plan. If you want to find a new and electrifying job, have fun reinventing yourself and what you stand for — if you want an exciting job, excite yourself first. Make damn sure you’re as exciting as the job you are after.

4. Feel It to Manifest It

You’ve got to feel what you are trying to embody. You want to be lighter? Feel it within first. You want an inspiring job? Ignite your sense of self.

Pretend it’s there if you can’t personify it at first. You’ll begin to rewire your brain to think differently with enough repetition. And remember: Doubt = drought. Water your seeds and you’ll see the shoots soon enough.

5. Release the Inner Child

Everyone has an inner child. There is a part of you that still thinks a butterfly is gobsmackingly awesome, blowing bubbles is a spectacular magic trick and make-believe is as good as the real deal. Tap into that part of you when you are trying to visualize your goals. Your inner tot will help you make-believe a whole new world for yourself this year!

A tedious strategy will reap boredom and inaction — an adventurous plan will have you hopping and skipping to where you want to be.

My new resolution: I want to see people hopping and skipping in the streets this year!

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for PURPOSE FAIRY

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Posted on February 2, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

In a world where almost everything seems to be competitive and the yearning for success is rife, take heart in knowing that you can benefit greatly by learning from others and how they manage and maintain success in order to establish a winning formula for your life.

First things first, what does success actually mean?

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.” — Albert Einstein

Success can vary according to the individual. It can be measured in relationships, love, money, career, purpose, spirit, attitude and the list goes on.

There are some simple qualities you can take onboard to excel in all of the above. If you know someone whom you or society deems as successful and they don’t quite make the grade with the many attributes listed below, you may want to question their overall success — they may have the money and career in the bag but success in life should tick all the boxes.

Let’s take a look at what sets some people apart from the rest:

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Talk Positive — Successful people always communicate confidently to others and themselves. You can’t thrive on a negative dialogue. Aim to encourage, motivate and inspire all you meet including yourself.
Move On — Never dwell on your mistakes. Failure should always be used as feedback. Being stuck in the past only ensures that you will not be able to effectively work in the present. Take your blunders and learn from them — there are always hidden gems to be found in boo-boos.
Look out for No.1 — Efficacious people know that they need to take care of themselves first and foremost. This is not a selfish act; it is an action of necessity. Besides, no-one appreciates a self-declared martyr — there’s no brownie points in it for you, believe me. Acting the martyr will lead you to harbor resentment and will alienate people around you, especially those of you who do everything with a mumble under your breath. When you take care of your own needs first, you will have the ability to help others with a gratified smile on your face.
Set Boundaries — Don’t be a pushover. Know your limits and draw the line in the sand for others when you need to preserve your energy and time. Learn how to distinguish what you need to address and what you need to let alone.
Philanthropy — The Buddha mentioned that one should tithe a percentage (Judaism stipulates 10%) of their earnings to benefit their community. This is a no-brainer. You want to see your society thrive because you are a part of it — it’s a symbiotic relationship. You wouldn’t take a dump on your own doorstep now would you?
Remain Grounded — Remember your roots and always practice humility in the face of any position. Be a lone, content stallion rather than a prancing pony — ponies get ridden at fairgrounds. Strut and you’re likely to stumble, be humble and you’ll always be firmly footed.
Be Open to New Ideas — Bend like a reed in the wind. When you give in to complacency, you stop listening to others and their thoughts — big mistake. You don’t know everything, no matter how old and experienced you are. The universe is ever-expanding so what gives you the right to stand still? Nothing ages you like rigid conceit — your passport to entropy.
Own It — Prosperous people own their lives, where they are, how they got there and what they stand for. Embody your experience and live your truth. Be an original and not a copy. There’s nothing worse than a cheap fake. Everyone has something unique to offer the world — your job is to uncover your diamond.
Admit to Mistakes — Successful people aren’t afraid to acknowledge they’re wrong. True courage lies in integrity — your ability to recognize the truth and concede when appropriate. To err is human.
Think Creatively — Fruitful endeavors are usually sparked by thinking out-of-the-box, stretching beyond what is the norm and testing the limits. If you want to play it safe you’re going to be average. Pushing boundaries is where resilience leads to triumph. Inject colour, passion, vitality and true-grit into everything you do and you will succeed.
Exercise Criticism Immunity — Success lies in your ability to detect constructive from destructive critique. When you can master the skill of not taking things personally, you will be able to clearly see what opinions you can take aboard your ship to steer you in the right direction and which thoughts need to be left on the dock lest they sink your ship. Discernment is one of your handiest tools for gauging the worth of alternate views.
Enjoy Life — Finding joy and fulfillment in everyday activities is another sign of a successful person. Can you take any situation and turn it into a gift? Can you find the beauty in the chaos? The delight in the mundane? If your life is a bore, you need to take a long hard look at who’s making it boring — let me give you a clue: Go stand in front of the mirror. Boring is as boring does. Use your time on this planet wisely, there is a hidden microcosm of treasure in any situation — you just need to view things from a different perspective. A recent study just reported that adventure and travel (another activity you see successful people adhering to) seems to lead to longevity. If there is just one thing you must take from this list let it be to enjoy your life.

“Action is the foundational key to all success.” — Pablo Picasso

The road to success needn’t be a difficult one; your perspective of your given obstacles and victories will determine how you use them to free yourself. The moment you get out of your own way, you will find the happiness you seek.

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You can supplement the word ‘happy’ with success — they are one and the same as the definition of success is merely to have a favourable or desired outcome. Ultimately, everyone just wants to be happy.

So, I want to end this off by saying that success is a state of mind, if you let others dictate to you what it looks like then you are doomed to failure. Strive to be happy and content right now and you will be on your way. Take action now to live with the conviction to be happy and you can only be prosperous.

Next stop — success!

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Posted on January 10, 2013 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters. ~Audrey Hepburn

You want to know the secret, right? You clicked on this article because you’re itching to know what this underground, hush-hush truth to living a brilliant and fulfilling life is, don’t you?

You may initially be disappointed to know that it is not money, good looks, fame and fortune or bending over backwards in philanthropic or selfless pursuit.

Now, although there is no judgment in having any of these features in your life, there is but one simple attribute you can muster up in this very moment that will bring you into alignment. The many masters that walked the earth, did so with peace and content in their hearts because they knew this secret.

Something that is so ridiculously obvious to some but not so apparent to others. ‘Oh what is it!’ I hear you cry. You’re just going to have to bear with me a little longer. Something as fruitfully juicy as what I am about to reveal, deserves a big build up!

The Here and Now

Here we are incarnated on a planet called Earth. Humanity in its apparent prime — a species so trumped up with itself that in our pursuit to strive for greatness we miss a fundamental principle to life and existence. A principle so far out for some that it is overlooked and brushed off as bohemian nonsense — the right to life and a reverence for existence.

The what to who and the who to what?

Imagine a world where everyone had the exact same amount of love and respect for EVERY life form as they do for their own self (assuming that you have mastered the ability of self-love, that is). But, ah, here bares the rub!

Self-Love or Bust!

Respect yourself and other will respect you. ~Confucius

When you attain that love for self that I’m speaking of, you usually automatically begin to love and respect others as well as every other form of life you encounter. I am even including what is deemed inanimate objects here. Everything on this planet has a presence, from the rocks, plants and animals to the soil, worms and the very core of the earth itself.

If you cannot see or feel this to be true, this article will not resonate with you. If you feel just one iota of truth in this, please read on.

The Secret Revealed

Love is what binds us, respect is what unites us. To have love and respect for all life forms guarantees you an excellent quality of life because you will be walking around in sheer reverence to all you come across. There will never be a dull or uninspired moment. Why?

Because when you bump into even a stranger, you will see God in his/her eyes. You will look upon a flower and see the cosmos within the fold of its petals. You will sit up against a tree and feel its life energy resounding through your core and you will sit upon the earth and feel her heart-beat pumping out the rhythm of all life.

Hippy Thinking or Revolutionary Insight?

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Some of you may be thinking that I’m some deranged and dangerous hippy, you know, one of those people that doesn’t even want to eat a vegetable because they feel they are killing the plant.

No, not at all. What I am suggesting is that no matter what you do, do it with love and respect. If you want to eat an animal, consume it with love and gratitude in your heart for its life and sacrifice. When you press a ripe and bursting strawberry to your lips, give your utmost attention to its life force and presence (the sunlight that made it grow, the water that gave it its succulence, the earth that housed it). You see nothing ever truly ‘dies’, it is transmuted.

Whether You or the Animal is Lunch

The animal becomes a part of your biology as does the strawberry. You become part of the earth again when it is your time to move on (or in the unusual circumstance that you decide to go on a rather unsuccessful safari, you may become a lion’s appetizer and therefore be at one with the lion and eventually come out as the fertilizer for the earth). Life really has got a sense of continuity (and humor), no matter which way you perceive it!

Find that humor in life, find the peculiarity of oneness with life and find the love for being a part of this unique system — life. See yourself in everything and everything will reflect the wholeness of your being. Feel the life force in everything and shift into unity consciousness. Do this and you will step into love and bliss.

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy

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Posted on December 20, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

“When you take a stand out of deep conviction, people know. They may not even agree, but they ask, ‘Do I want someone who is willing to take a hard stand and someone I can trust to do that when the chips are down?’ They want that”. ~Barbara Boxer

Thumb-Sucking in Society

So many people today seem to be mulling about — scampering hither and thither with no real purpose in life. I’m not implying that you need to have one, two or even three main drives in life, your primary purpose should really only entail the betterment of yourself and, if you can manage it (but usually comes with the package of self-improvement), the betterment of other people’s lives as well.

This does not necessarily mean that you need to don a nun’s outfit and become the next Mother Theresa. It simply means to live with integrity and to let that little light of yours shine, shine, shine.

For want of not breaking out into song at this point, I will swiftly move on.

So many ‘self-help’ writers (including myself) bang on about purpose but let’s take a look at another word today — conviction.

What does it Mean to Live with Conviction?

Simply put, conviction is a firmly held belief. You can start to act upon your convictions today by ascertaining:

What is it that you stand for? Is it love, world peace, justice, having a jolly good time, a particular cause, educating the next generation, spreading your particular brand of creativity, etcetera? Get clear on your legacy. How would you want to be remembered? This can usually point you in the right direction.

Then ask yourself how you are embodying this? In other words, how are you walking the talk in your everyday life? You can either take giant or baby steps to stand in the light of your convictions or you can just talk about them. If you choose the latter, you’re not going to be judged by me, but you need to then own that decision too.

Conviction is worthless unless it is converted into conduct. ~Thomas Carlyle

Living your conviction, in my tangy opinion, just means to go for what you believe in guns blazing (not literally, of course). Own your choices. The golden rule is to not infringe on anyone elses free will.

Are you Wishy-Washing Your Life Away?

Conviction is a way of taking responsibility for your actions no matter what you are doing. If you can’t take responsibility, then you shouldn’t be doing it. Chances are that you are going to end up blaming everyone else but yourself for any future repercussions.

Don’t be a ‘poor me’, be an ‘I-know-what-I’m-doing’ kind of chap/lass.

Own your life, own what you want to get out of it, own that you are still learning and growing, own who you are and what you stand for and most of all own the fact that it won’t last forever.

We are in this theatrical production of life together, we will come and we will go — make the most of it while you can.

Hello, Steven Spielberg!

We can write and act out a drama, comedy, romance, horror, sci-fi (if you have the relevant props and celestial connections) or a feel-good script (heck, it could even be a combination of all!) — this is your God-given free-choice. Live it with conviction and your life story will not only make it onto the Top ranking DVD list but could also end up on Blu-ray.

Own it, be it, do it and then, when it is your time to exit — depart knowing that you truly lived. If you leave this plane of existence having touched just one person’s life, you have made a difference!

Live like you mean it.

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Posted on November 27, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Tried and Tested — A Tale of Two Countries

In the past 2 years I have experienced the delights of visiting Thailand and being bowled over by their inherent sense of beauty and creativity to their humble way of life and their desire to please. I have also recently been to Egypt and have encountered, firsthand, the very friendly yet domineering patriarchal way of their culture.

“The ancients envisioned their world in two halves – masculine and feminine. Their gods and goddesses worked to keep a balance of power. Yin and Yang. When male and female were balanced, there was harmony in the world. When they were unbalanced there was chaos. ” ~ Dan Brown

Both cultures are clearly trying very hard to make their way in life off the tourism trade and I felt like a walking ‘dollar’ sign (if they knew I dealt primarily in Rands — South African currency — they probably wouldn’t have bothered!).

I do, however, understand this and hold no judgment for them, in that respect — we all need to make a living. The difference however was that the Thai people came across as being very gentle, artistic and what I would like to call matriarchal people. The Egyptians left me with an impression of being aggressive, zealous and patriarchal.

Balancing the Yin and Yang

I only figured out, some time after both of these excursions, that they each reflected the opposite side of the scale.

I saw massive potential in both cultures and met and made wonderful friends both in Thailand and in Egypt. I have to say that the youth of Egypt certainly show the most signs of growth and thinking out-of-the-box. My encounters with the more belligerent Egyptians were definitely steeped in ’old energy’ thinking and customs. This is something I am obviously not used to, so it affected me quite deeply.

However, both these cultures lack something. They are missing the balance of both left hemisphere (linear, structural, orderly, etc.) and right hemisphere (passionate, artistic, expressive, etc.) thinking, the marriage of divine masculine and divine feminine — the coming together of the yin and yang.

When either one of these attributes is out of alignment or missing, there is unbalance.

“Most men are very attached to the idea of being male, and usually experience a lot of fear and insecurity around the idea of being a man. Most women are very identified with their gender, and also experience a tremendous amount of fear and insecurity.” ~ Andrew Cohen

Creativity versus Order

In the case of the Thai people, they were extremely creative and inventive yet they were incredibly submissive and this leaves them open for exploitation.

With the Egyptians, they had a system of order and controlled interaction that would not budge. It was either their way or the highway. With the obvious lack of female energy (as it is tradition for their women to be at home and not in the workplace), you had a definite sense of escalated anger over small things. They could go from 0 – 10 in a matter of seconds. As friendly as they were at times, they also lost their cool very quickly. This is because there was too much masculine energy and no feminine presence to temper the storm of emotions that arise.

You need both masculine and feminine energies to complete a fully charged and functional system. This brings me to dimensions.

Harmonic Dimensions

We live in a world that is deemed as 3D, however, it is very compartmentalized. This is a true reflection of the statistical mindset of the world at present. What we need is to incorporate the uneven trait of creativity and sensitivity to balance out this equation. It is okay to have organization and order as long as you also have an even balance of creative expression. The world is coming into this balance as more and more people are seeking to express their imaginative flare. When we reach a tipping point, you will see how fast love and happiness are spread on a global scale.

Can you see how this dimension theory brings in the concept of left brain order and right brain inventiveness? When humanity realizes that all we need to do is to direct ourselves creatively amidst the structure, we will have stepped into the new paradigm — a New Earth.

In Closing, Let’s All Say a Prayer

In closing, I would like to ask that you all say a little prayer for that brave young Pakistani lady, Malala Yousafzai, to make a full recovery.

“A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.” ~ Joseph Campbell

She is a symbol of great courage and hope for so many. May the seed she plants for women’s rights today blossom into the tree that represents balance and equality in her society.

Originally written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy.

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4 Practices to Help Cure Negative Thinking

Posted on November 15, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

I found that looking at these spectacular gardens really opened up my heart space and led me to think about this concept of the mind/garden metaphor.

Back to my morning stroll…we then went on to discuss how meditation, exercise, getting out into nature and yoga work to unclog this tightness and tiredness in the head.

So, some good practices to follow when you feel your thoughts aren’t being honorable paying guests in your head are to:

1. Gift yourself some time for space and clarity

This doesn’t have to be for very long stretches (however long you want) but make sure it is at least 10-15 minutes of down-time. You can sit in your garden or in a comfortable quiet space and reflect on your thoughts. Realign them to what you feel comfortable with. Then simply let all your thoughts dissolve and sit in stillness. Observe what comes up and then put it aside. Enjoy the space of just being. We are human BEINGS not human DOINGS. Don’t forget that.

More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity. ~Francois Gautier

2. Assess yourself

3. Go for a walk or do some yoga

Walking is a man’s best medicine. ~Hippocrates

If you are seeking creative ideas, go out walking. Angels whisper to a man when he goes for a walk. ~Raymond Inmon

4. Breathe properly

Focusing on the act of breathing clears the mind of all daily distractions and clears our energy enabling us to better connect with the Spirit within. ~Author Unknown

Kick out fear, worry and drama to finally start renting your headspace out to positive, nurturing and creative thinking — the paying guest.

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy

Why Weird is the New Cool

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Posted on November 1, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

A Call to all Potential and Existing Weirdos!

Destiny, fortune, luck, kismet — are these all words you associate with ‘weird’?

Well, believe it or not, the actual meaning of this repudiated word ‘weird’ is all of the above. As an adjective it suggests something uncanny or supernatural and as a noun it is a person’s destiny!

The original word stems from Wyrd which can be traced back to Germanic, Anglo-Saxon and Old Norse etymology — all meaning ‘destiny’. In Old English it is also a verb meaning ‘to come to pass or to become’.

“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” — William Jennings Bryan

Yes, my friends, you have guessed it — it’s totally cool to be weird!

If someone now calls you weird you can retort with, ‘thank you, I rather pride myself on my supernatural and mysterious ability to become who I was meant to be and fulfill my destiny’. That should keep their mouths shut.

You won't believe what the etymology of weird is!

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It’s a Kind of Kismet

Kismet, better known as luck or destiny, is a much spicier word than fate. Fate has a certain doom and gloom about it.

Fate conjures up imagery of having no control over your future, being left to chance or just handing over your power and feeling impotent in its wake.

Banish Fate and Give a Warm Welcome to Destiny

Don’t give in to fate — grab destiny by the horns and start believing in your innate power of fulfilling your calling.

“People that are really very weird can get into sensitive positions and have a tremendous impact on history.” — Dan Quayle

You are either consciously co-creating your life experience by taking responsibility for your choices and where your thoughts and actions are taking you, or, you are randomly plodding along the path that is leading to your so-called fate.

The latter being a route that you feel you have no choice over and that this hocus-pocus balderdash of ‘creating your own destiny’ is just a new-age farce. I have no problem with that and good luck to you.

However, what if there was just one iota of truth in the ideology that you can create your future? I would say it’s worth a try, wouldn’t you?

In fact, I have tried it out for myself and I can honestly say that it works. However, my life experiences are not going to convince you of its validation; only you can take charge of your life and make those changes so you can see for yourself, firsthand, that there is legitimacy in the claim.

Alarm Bells and Wake-Up Calls — Have You Been Hitting the Snooze Button?

“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” — Albert Ellis

What’s that buzzing noise? Oops, my alarm clock is going off!

Wake up because millions of people are doing this and are exercising their rights to become successful co-creators of their reality. They’re having a ball finding out how this life fits together like a giant jigsaw puzzle when you are out looking for those synchronicities and pointers that slot your desires into place.

Why don’t you join them and see where it takes you? You can officially be weird and proud!

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Lightworkers World

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9 Truths to Stop You From Caring What People Think

Posted on October 18, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

We’ve all feared, at some point in our lives, what other people think of us but here are 9 reasons to let go of the opinions of others for our own good:

1. Smoke and Mirrors

The fear of imperfection and/or of not being accepted is, of course, an illusion. Who gets to be the judge and jury on what is deemed beautiful or hideous — successful or stupid? Let me guess: The tabloids or magazines, possibly Hollywood or the catwalks of Milan? How about TV/movies and the media? Spare a thought about who you give your power over to. The various outlets that dictate what beauty and normal are seem to be pushing fake, in my opinion. There are moments where true beauty can shine through these channels, but those flashes are few and far between. True beauty and acceptance is in the eye of the beholder. So anyone claiming to know what beauty or normal definitely is needs very close examining if they are not including every member of the human race in their rundown.

2. Self-Realization and Repair Kits

When you can out these undesirable contracts you can begin to repair them. We have to discover why we felt the lack and how we are feeling now about the same issue. Then we must align it to our higher self by breaking down the agreement piece by piece and offer it up to the light to be cleansed.

3. Inherent Beauty and Perfection

4. Dissecting Agreements

When we were young we had no inhibitions and sang at the top of our voices, danced our hearts out (whether someone was looking or not) and thought we were princesses and superheroes. Then one day someone came along and made you feel less than what you felt about yourself. You may have paused to take it in – then you made a crucial decision. Either you agreed with what they said or you didn’t. That is why some of us can still dance freely and not be bothered whilst others cringe at the thought of dancing in public – this could be due to an earlier experience of being made to feel like you were ‘no good’ by someone who was only giving you one piece of the puzzle.

Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner. ~Lao Tzu

5. Piecing Together Your Puzzle

When I said that the person was only giving one piece of the puzzle I mean that they have a preference based on their version of reality. That is one person’s perspective in a sea of other possible candidates – ones who may have loved your form of expression. This person could have also been a child, an acquaintance, a stranger or it could have been someone you trusted and loved deeply. The latter is often the case and can make the hurt twice as potent. However, we must consider that some things are said in the heat of the moment and not really meant by the offender, so we really need to see why we made the agreement.

6. That Tricky Enigma Called Universal Appeal

You need to know that you can never have universal appeal. You or your talents may not be one person’s cup of tea but what about all the other people in the world who will resonate with your particular brand of uniqueness? However, ultimately you need to please only you. When you do this then you are immediately accepted and no outside influence can make you feel anything other than what you know yourself to be.

7. Acknowledge the Good

We sometimes tend to disregard the ones who encourage us, leaving only space in our thoughts for the ones who hurt us. Why is this, I wonder? Everyone has the urge to be liked and accepted for who they are. This is normal. But what we need to redefine is what is normal? Every soul is special and has equally unique attributes, abilities and ways of expressing themselves creatively. There should be no judgment.

8. Identify the Judge

When judgment rears its head, we must question the one doing the judging. Tell that judge that you are in love with your differences. Viva la difference! Without freedom of expression this world would be a very dull place. Without diversity in hair colour, body shapes, talents, voices, tastes, etcetera we would be tantamount to sheep running around in a field day in and day out – baa-baa-boring!

9. Know Thyself!

Only then will you begin to discover, on the deepest level, that which you truly are and what you have accomplished – not only in this lifetime but in the countless life experiences you have had. Draw on that wealth of talents you have stored, that which you haven’t even begun to extract from your being. When you do, there is nothing anyone can say or do to you that would ever hurt you. You will be resolute as to who you are and nobody can take that away from you — unless you allow them to.

When you are living with the statement ‘be the best you can be’ and you are doing this with all your integrity and might — you have nothing to fear.

Empowerment comes from fearing no-thing and facing every day with courage and love in your heart. Strive to be and do the best you can in every situation, then you will be living in your integrity. Words or energy that does not fit with your frequency or vibration will not be allowed to penetrate your field of self. You will have become the master of your life and your reality.

Something worth looking into, wouldn’t you say?

Original article was written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for PURPOSE FAIRY

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What Freddy Mercury Can Teach Us About Detachment

Posted on October 4, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Guest article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Lightworkers World

‘Nothing really matters, anyone can see…nothing really matters. Nothing really matters to me…any way the wind blows.” – Freddy Mercury (Bohemian Rhapsody)

Beautifully put!

Thank you, Freddy Mercury, for writing this poetic piece of universal truth and to Queen for adding the sound vibration and bringing this song alive through Bohemian Rhapsody.

Why am I quoting this?

Well, I was singing it the other day when it hit me, ‘this is quite spiritually profound’.

Mastery Over Matter

I have been going through a lot of detachment lately — on many different levels. From friendships to career choices, desired outcomes to ego battles and the one thing that keeps coming up for me is ‘nothing matters’.

The energy of late seems to be circling around your ability to regroup and ground yourself to what is really important.

No material thing or situation should concern you too much — the lighter the baggage on your earthly sojourn, the less for you to carry (this should be taken literally and metaphorically). The more at peace you are with the fact that you are here temporarily and no thing or person is a constant, the more likely you are to enjoy your experience.

Now, as I say in my book ‘Divine You’, I don’t mean that nothing matters in an ‘I don’t care’ sort of way. The art of detaching is just another tool to let you be in the world and not of it. Question yourself:

Can you be here, in this reality, but not be attached to it?
Can you dream up desires and outcomes for yourself and not be attached to them if they change or do not materialize as you may have wanted them to?
Can you detach yourself from drama — be it on a social network, in the office or with your family or friends?
Can you look at circumstances as if you were hovering above them? An observer, one that is removed from any outcome but still revels in the joys and intrigue of the world.
Can you be someone that cares and loves everyone and everything but could leave this plane of existence tomorrow?
Are you afraid of death? Or have you made peace with your multi-dimensional, infinite existence?

Who are You?

This is the I AM THAT I AM that people talk about. Being 100% satisfied with where you are and who you are, without needing anyone or anything outside of yourself for gratification.

Loving enough to know when to say nothing, or do nothing, to help a loved one. When you are able to detach from drama, you will show others that it can be done. Peace is achievable — one soul at a time.

Do You Find it Difficult to Detach?

Detachment is not hard or cold. It is your ability to love enough to leave a bit of space — some room for peace and stillness where there may be none. You will be that still presence that can ground those around you into the present moment.

What is blocking your ability to let go?

Your mind or ego? Do you perhaps get a kick out of drama? Can you admit to that?
Your ‘worries’? Do you think that to detach would leave you looking like you don’t care?

Remember that to detach is a loving act. If you stress or worry about what other people will think of you for detaching or not getting involved in drama, then you need to work on why their opinions matter. If they are close to you, either friends or family, you can still let them know you care but are not going to interfere with their lives.

If there is something tangible you can do to help, then by all means do but remain that still presence and have an awareness of your emotional body. If you feel like you are being drained or getting sucked back into 3D drama, then you need to exercise detachment again (for further reading about detaching out of love or fear, click here: https://cherieroedirksen.com/2012/04/12/are-you-clinging-by-your-finger-nails/).

Let’s Wrap This Up

When you realize that no-thing really matters, you can bend like a reed in the wind and go any way the wind blows.You remain whole and unfaltering, present and aware — you are impartial and just. This is true detachment.

Thank you, Queen.

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Are You Letting the Wonders of the World Pass You By?

Posted on September 6, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

When we are in nature, we are in our natural state — you could even say we are in our ‘element’. And that is synchronously why it feels so joyful to go for a walk on the beach, stroll through a meadow or simply sit under a tree.

We are being reconnected with our state of inexplicable bliss.

Why Is This So?

There is an excellent documentary called ‘Dirt’, which outlines soil’s effect on every aspect of our lives, including our survival as a species. The simple truth of this is that we are all made up of the dirt of the earth and will return there some day. We are one and the same and share an incalculable bond with the planet we reside upon.

The very ingredients of our bodies are made up from the food you consume, which comes from the earth. When we honor and respect our planet, we honor and respect ourselves.

The house you live in, the car you drive, the computer you sit at, the ground that supports you is made possible by the world you inhabit.

So What?

Well, this doesn’t mean you have to become a tree-hugger (not unless you feel the calling!) — all I want you to think about is your connection to our beautiful, resourceful Mother Earth.

When we enjoy our lives and take advantage of her many wonders, we rekindle that which is innate within us — the connection we have to all life, the oneness of being part of the whole.

There is a bond that is severed when we forget about nature and the true joy it can bring. When we feel disconnected, being in nature can be the very inexpensive cure we need to re-align that which is out of atunement — which then becomes atonement (at-one-ment), reparation or making amends with your divine system.

7 Tips to Get You Started

Below is a list of things you can start today to get you into alignment with your true self. They are designed to truly get you back into the ‘now’ moment and to be present in your body. Explore your senses that so many take for granted, and have fun!

Here are 7 priceless things that your life has to offer:

Touch — Taking a walk amongst trees, touching the rough bark. Get back in contact with your sense of feeling textures and surfaces.
Smell — Sitting on a park bench or in your garden, can you identify all the different aromas? Can you smell the sweet scent of the flowers hanging on a gentle breeze? The time has never been more suitable to stop and smell the roses!
Feel — Strolling on the beach, letting the water wash over your bare feet. Feel the coarse sand underfoot. Walk bare-foot through a patch of wet grass and feel that freshness seep into your soles.
Taste — Biting into a freshly picked berry or a sprig of parsley — truly taste the freshness and zing of natural produce.
Beauty — Appreciating the world around you — look at how glorious the wing of a butterfly is! There are so many splendors to be taken in, try to keep your eyes open for magnificence — I promise you, you will be amazed at how much entertainment is all around you in the natural world.
Hear — Listening to the sound of bees buzzing about their business — now when last can you say you stopped to welcome that precious aural delight? Take note of all the sounds around you, from the wind brushing through the leaves to the birds chirping out a synchronized melody.
Vision — Marveling at a spectacular sunset or the dawn of a sunrise — can you remember lying on your back on the freshly mown lawn, just gazing up at the stars or trying to spot a shape in the clouds?

I hope you are clambering for your door this very moment, just itching to get out there!

This was an article I wrote for Purpose Fairy — published on the 3rd September 2012, the original article can be found here: http://www.purposefairy.com/7219/are-you-letting-the-wonders-of-the-world-pass-you-by/

7 Helpful Pointers To Activate The Flow Of Abundance

Posted on August 23, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

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We all want abundance in some form or another, whether it is wealth in the monetary sense to being richly blessed with meaningful relationships or even to achieve self-mastery — the wealth of spirit. In this past decade, and, even prior to that, we have been introduced to the idea of the Law of Attraction with popular books such as The Secret and the Jerry and Esther Hicks series, just to name a few.

So Why Is It Still Hard To Manifest Our Desires?

We hear catch phrases like ‘Be in the Flow’ but what does that practically mean to you? How can you step into this flow and apply it to your situation or reality? Wishful thinking just isn’t cutting it for some. Here are some fundamental reasons why it may not be working for you:

1. Patience

I have to get this one out of the way first because it is a simple yet integral principle when you are applying deliberate manifestation. You need to learn the art of patience. Think of a seed — it gets planted but it still needs time, rich nutrient and mineral-based soil, sunshine and water to blossom into its full growth potential. Any hint of doubt (or drought, in the case of our seed) will hamper its chances of reaching the surface and begin its graceful climb towards fruition.

2. Action

Once you have ascertained what you do want to create in your life, have you taken the necessary steps to get the wheel in motion? If you think that ‘couch manifesting’ is going to take care of everything, let me tell you now — it isn’t. You need to actively participate in bringing about your desire. Set yourself realistic goals and hold yourself accountable to them.

3. Mindset

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car… a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little. ~ Ben Sweetland

If you are having thoughts of lack about what you want to see in your life then that is what you are calling into existence. This is like wanting to lose weight but only concentrating on all the most fattening foodstuffs — this kind of thought-stream is counter-productive. Instead of thinking the worst, think about the way you will feel when it does come into your life. How will it change your life? Does it feel good when you are in that space of living out your fantasy? If the answer is yes, then that is the emotion or feeling that you need to fertilize, in your mind, whenever you are practicing co-creation.

4. Vibration

As I addressed in the last point, when you truly allow yourself to feel the desired outcome emotion, it enhances your power to manifest tenfold. Think of ‘the thought’ as the key in your ignition; ‘The action’ is the spark that ignites the engine and ‘the feeling’ or emotion behind the thought is the gas that gets it all going — the driving force.

5. Alignment

Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into. ~ Wayne Dyer

You need to regularly align to what it is you want. Set yourself that weekly goal and check in with yourself. Has this week seen you get any closer to what you want? If not, why not — what could you have done differently? Sometimes we have to assess that what we are trying to manifest is still truly what we want. If you change your mind then that is fine, just don’t kid yourself. If you change midstream to another outcome it is better than plodding along with a manifestation that you are now uncertain about. Your emotional potency will also be lacking if it is not what you want anymore, so, as the old adage goes, it will be like breaking wind against thunder (slightly euphemized for this blog).

What Can I Do To Bring Abundance Into My Life Now?

Well, now that the blockages have been outlined, let’s take a look at what you can do in this moment and in the near future to bring about the expediency of your manifest will.

The energy behind any deed needs to be from your genuine source. Any fake or compromised gestures will be meaningless in the pursuit of true abundant living.

Metaphorically this is like taking a flat battery and expecting it to work in your camera. What goes around comes around, the intent you put out into the universe will come back to you, so, if you are handing out ‘empty’ words or actions, your boomerang effect will be just as hollow and meaningless. Acting with true integrity is the key to manifesting the life of your dreams.

Here are a few tips to get you started:

6. Tokens of Unconditional Love

Life in abundance comes only through great love. ~ Elbert Hubbard

When you visit someone or just bump into them, bestow a gift upon them. This could be a silent blessing, well-wish, compliment (make sure it is genuine), a heart-felt hug, a flower or a small gift. With this action you are giving freely. Do not expect anything in return, that will be taken care of energetically in a way that you may only come to realize when it happens.

7. Gratitude

Whatever we are waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance – it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach

List all the things that you have in your life now that you are most thankful for. This could be from the smallest thing to the largest thing. For example, you may feel immense joy sitting in your garden — give thanks for that. You may have a pantry full of food and a roof over your head — give thanks for that, and so the gratitude ball starts rolling and we start to have a clear insight as to how much abundance already exists in the present. When you start this exercise, you will find more and more things that you can be grateful for from the air that you freely breathe to the limbs that operate at your will. It is a truly eye-opening experience for those who think they are lacking in some way or another.

But Why Should This Work?

The reason why this does work is because the more elated you feel about your current situation, the more joy you are injecting into your energetic field. This doesn’t just get lost in space, it is a frequency that you are emitting outwards and it is going to be matched.

This is how our lives really work in the subtle field of energy. Your energetic signature or emotional frequency is what you are setting yourself up to attract. You are like a magnet, attracting that to you which you are putting out via your emotions or feelings. This is why it is imperative that your thoughts are steered towards being more positive, which will then allow your feelings to be in alignment with what you do want.

You cannot bring into your experience joy if all you are feeling is sadness. You cannot be wealthy if all you feel is lack. These are basic principles that, unfortunately, too often get overlooked when we try to view our own lives and how they are turning out. It is often hard to face the truth that what you put in, you get out. But if you are to make any headway in this life, you need to face the core truth of what you are creating consciously or even subconsciously. This is actually good news!

Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life

Life isn’t going to just randomly happen to you anymore — you are always in full control of your life and can guide it in any direction you choose. You always have a choice, never forget that — our freewill is our greatest asset.

This isn’t to say that your life is going to be all cotton-socks and pink roses — you may very well have your fair share of everyday mishaps. What will change is how you perceive these obstacles and what you choose to do with them. The world isn’t going to change, it is how you view it that will make the change you desire.

Put into this world what you wish to get out and you will be in the flow. You will be in the driver’s seat steering your life into abundance.

Original article was written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy: 7 Helpful Pointers To Activate The Flow Of Abundance.

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Why Creativity Connects You to Your Wellbeing

Posted on August 21, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Look at how the creativity in others touches your own life. Try to imagine the world we live in without creativity — envisage Vincent Van Gogh deciding he was no good at painting and never picking up a paintbrush hence not allowing his perspective of beauty and vibrant energy to emerge onto a canvas. Or, how about the auditory delights of a classical composer like Camille Saint-Saens lacking the confidence to grace our ears with his peaceful and evocative rendition of an aquarium? The list could go on as we venture into the world of artistic genius and splendour but I’m sure you get the bleak picture of what our lives would be like if we lacked creativity or the drive to be imaginative.

“When you choose a job you love, you will never have to work a day in your life.” — Confucius

We feed ourselves with all kinds of things — physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Some things will nourish us while others may be toxic to our delicate systems. Our discernment with what serves us is integral and keeps us either fulfilled or leaves us feeling frustrated and empty. We can do everything ‘by the book’ — for instance, maintain a healthy, well-balanced diet, exercise regularly or get enough sleep. However, if we are suppressing our inner desire to express ourselves, we are denying the one thing that could lead to genuine fulfillment and wholeness.

Take Back Your Creative Control

For those of you who feel that creativity is someone else’s job or you don’t have a creative bone in your body — think again!

Everybody has a spark of creativity within — you don’t have to be a master artist, musician, or architect to be able to express yourself. It is how you conduct yourself in whatever vocation you have chosen that will determine your quality of life and the joy you inject into your surroundings. A mortician can be creative, a nurse can bring vibrance into her workplace — anyone can exude creativity and beauty into their surroundings, it is how you utilize your talents not what your job is that truly counts and defines who you are.

When you embrace your creative flare, you, and those around you, will benefit in more ways that you can imagine. Here’s why:

Not only do you as an individual benefit from lateral and imaginative thinking and then manifesting creation through your skill or expertise, but society benefits too. Can you conceive a world without playwrights, chefs, teachers, musicians, programmers, healers, writers, homemakers, artisans, designers, gardeners, etc? All of these people can, and in many cases do, exercise creative flow with everything they do — regardless of their so-called profession. When you find genuine job fulfillment and gratification, it will be felt by those whom you either interact with or are providing a service for.

The effect of more lateral thought, or thinking ‘out of the box’, and creative endeavor will not only lead you to a space of satisfaction and wellbeing but will reflect in the macrocosm around you. Your ripple effect will be felt by many who will, hopefully, ignite their own spark of creativity to share with the world.

Benefits of Creativity

Creativity is a vital component in society as a whole but what are the immediate benefits to you, the individual?

When you pursue your form of creativity — this could be anything that helps you to relax and express yourself — you will:

De-stress — When you are in your own creative space, you are more likely to drift away from the material world around you and focus on the inner desire to express through your perspective. This act will decrease your stress levels and automatically put you in a place of ‘time-out’ and relaxation. In an article written by Elizabeth Scott, M.S., she discusses how clinical art therapy is proven to reduce stress through distraction — being so engrossed in a task that inevitably leads you to attain a clear head. She also outlines that being in this flow can be likened to being in a meditative state, which brings with it the added benefits of meditation and stress relief. Having a hobby is essential in promoting balance in your lifestyle and some much-needed ‘down time’.
Stimulate — You will be stimulating the right hemisphere of your brain — the imaginative, lateral mindful state that is induced when you are in your creative ‘zone’. We need balance in all aspects of life and using the right and left hemisphere of the brain is no different. We are usually very much engaged in our left brain — the practical and linear way of thinking — so it is very important to take a vacation to the other side and stretch your legs with imagination, beauty and expressiveness. You will find that when you do this you have a better balance in your everyday life and are less likely to burn-out or have a breakdown.
Enjoy — Pursuing your creative flame ensures that you will tickle the inner child that bursts to express joy and ingenuity. When you do this, you will find that the tasks you do that invoke such inventiveness also bring elation. Connecting with your creativity will connect you with your joy.
Find Satisfaction — Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi said that our intrinsic motivation is whatever produces flow which ultimately becomes its own reward. When you are in this flow of creative expression, you will feel the ultimate satisfaction. When you take pleasure in what you do, you are contributing your valuable, unique skill to the world — what more satisfaction do you need?

What Can You Do Now To Engage in Creativity?

How can you practically find what it is that will bring you this satisfaction? Try answering these simple questions:

What is it, no matter how insignificant it may seem to you right now, that makes you feel a sense of timelessness?
Gives you a feeling of peacefulness or sereneness?
Lets you focus and be immersed in your imagination?
Gives you a sense of joy that is not related to any external source? In other words, it is coming from your sense of purpose or originality.

Sometimes we dismiss the very thing that is our pure, originative source of creativity. It could be the mindless doodling you draw in the side column of your desk pad that may end up being the foundation of a career in design. It might even be that green thumb you’ve always had in the garden that leads you down the path of professional landscaping. No matter how big or small the basis of this creativity is, you cannot know where it will lead you if you do not pursue it.

Everybody has a gift although the packages may vary. If you are truly stumped, then go out into the big wide world and find something that interests you. Take an art class or a creative writing course — keep trying new things until you find something that clicks into place for you. But, most important of all, life is about the journey — have fun in the process of finding and exploring the inner creative! •

Original article posted on Creativity Portal: Why Creativity Promotes Wellness – De-stress, Enjoy Yourself, Find Satisfaction · Creativity-Portal.com.

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10 Tips Designed to Keep You Happy

Posted on August 7, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

With so much going on in the daily life of the average Joe, it is hard to stay motivated. We sometimes feel beaten down by society and all the things we occupy ourselves with, voluntary or involuntary.

This can range from commuting, work, school runs, to housework, helping the kids with homework, cooking and finding precious time to unwind — which usually ends up with us watching TV. But how can we manage our time better to incorporate the things we long to do but feel we have no time for?

Here are 10 tips to get you excited and keep you motivated to enjoy living another day:

1. Quality Sleep

This is one of the most important things you can gift yourself and your family with. Make space in your night-time schedule to start winding down at least 1 hour prior to going to bed. You can light some calming, soothing essential oils, such as lavender and chamomile — will assist in good, sound sleep. You can have a warm, milky drink or some herbal tea. Switch off all radios and TV’s that are keeping you engaged in noise and ‘action’. Instead, you can read that book you’ve been promising yourself or listen to some relaxing music. All of these things can aid you into an alpha brain wave state, which allows your mind to relax and disconnect. You must avoid falling asleep on a full stomach or, even worse, falling asleep with the TV on. Your mind still takes in everything it hears, even whilst asleep, and having the TV on will not only disrupt your sleep but possibly cause you to have nightmares.

2. Berry Boost

With a good nights sleep tucked safely under your belt, what better way to start your morning off with than a berry smoothie? This is quick and easy to make and will give your system a boost of sustainable energy. These smoothies keep me going for about 4-5 hours. They are great for your skin too, berries have anti-aging properties and the calcium is good for your bones, ladies! A quick recipe I use is (for one 500ml serving): Take 2 handfuls of mixed, frozen berries (or fresh if you like, I like the frozen ones because they give a kind of ‘crushed ice’ effect), 2 squirts of Stevia, 4 tablespoons of plain yoghurt and top up with some milk. Blend and drink your way to vitality and well-being!

3. Time Productivity

Use your time wisely. If you commute to work by public service, take this opportunity to meditate or read. Make it ‘you’ time. If you can, it is great to shut your eyes in the morning and the evening (could be on your way to or from work if you are traveling by public service) — for just 10-20 minutes at a time — to meditate and clear your mind. This will benefit you in more ways than you can imagine. It also gives you a break from the mind chatter or what I like to call ‘white noise’. This allows more productive thoughts through instead of the useless and incessant worry that can clog up the mind.

4. Breathing

Huh? Don’t I do this automatically? Yes, but most people are in the habit of shallow breathing. You need to oxygenate your body for optimum productivity and chi (vital force). Try to, at least every hour, breath in to the count of 5, hold it to the count of 5 and exhale to the count of 5. This will give you a boost during the day.

5. Let Loose

This is an integral step for you to de-stress after a long day. Explore an activity that is tantamount to letting the ‘inner child’ out to play. I find it really helpful to put on some upbeat music and have a sing-song and dance around the house. Get your groove on and invite your family to join in. You can do this for just 30 minutes and it is a really fun way to get moving and to unwind. The best part is you also get a great workout — physically and vocally! Let your inner diva shine!

6. Keep it Clean

This is a macrocosm/microcosm thing — it affects the inside and the outside world. When you have a neat, tidy and clean home and/or office, you are happier. When you have a clean, refreshed body, you are happier. I have to tell you about my dog. She hates her bath, as do so many of our canine counterparts, but after she has been through this torturous activity, she runs around the garden like a dog-reborn — smiling, barking and just generally frolicking like a pup. Bath-time also equates to going for a walk (which she does regularly) but when she walks after her bath, she has a spring in her step and a wag in her tail that is much more noticeable. This is a great metaphor for how we feel when our bodies are bathed (make your bath-time a treat too — get some nice smelly soaps and bubble-bath and make it an event) and our houses or offices are spic-and-span and organized.

7. Eat Well

Another part of keeping it clean, is keeping the inside of your sacred body clean and invest in a detox every now and again. Or better still, make it a daily habit to eat healthy fresh foods. You know the kind I’m talking about so I’m not going to go into detail. This is a no-brainer, you are what you eat. Keep it fresh, colourful and simple and your system will be alive and vibrant, leaving you feeling energized and ready to take on the world. Have you noticed how sluggish you feel when you’ve pigged out on a burger and chips? Yeah? Well, you need to get real about what you are putting in and perhaps compare that to what you are getting out! You may have a Porsche but you can’t run it on horse manure.

8. Creative Space

This is really important. We all need to express ourselves creatively, no matter if it takes the form of art, writing, decorating, drawing, constructing/ building, etc. It is hugely beneficial to give yourself some time and a quiet space to be creative. If it is once a day, that is great. If you can’t fit it in daily then at least allocate yourself a good few days of the week to squeeze in 2-3 hours of creative expression time. You can even make this a family activity where everyone gets time out to do something fun. It will teach you and your family the benefit of taking care of your own needs in an unselfish and productive way.

9. Gratitude

Take time out, especially with your family, to give thanks for all that you do have in your life right now. This can be over a meal, as is commonly practiced in the saying of Grace. I am not a religious person but I do see the benefits of giving thanks. This could also be done in your quiet time in the bath, or whilst you are commuting, etc. You can explain the benefits to your family and encourage them to also find a quiet minute or two to reflect on being grateful. This feeds positivity and will nurture your good feelings ratio.

10. Reflect

When you find the space to reflect on your life, your goals and your dreams, you can keep the picture of your destiny clear and precise. When you don’t take time out to ponder and to re-align with your intentions, you may lose sight of where you are headed. You can sometimes slip into a stream that does not fit the destination of your dream. Make a vision board where you can pin all the things you desire and all that you would like to manifest in your life experience. Make sure you hold yourself accountable for taking action towards your goals and keep this board somewhere where you will see it every day.

What is most important of all is that you enjoy your journey, this life is precious and special and you can make each day an enjoyable experience.

If you catch yourself falling into boredom or despair, simply remind yourself that you can make a choice to re-align to a more joyful outlook — run through this checklist and see if there is anything you can do or improve on to bring you into a state of balance and fulfillment.

In the wise words of Eckhart Tolle, you can either be enthusiastic about what you are doing, enjoy what you are doing or accept what you are doing. When you do not fall into any of these 3 categories you set yourself up for feeling resentment or frustration.

What do you find lifts your spirits? Please share it in the comment box below. 😀

Original article was written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy: 10 Tips Designed to Keep You on Your Toes.

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Dare to Be Who You Are

Posted on August 3, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Hay House Versus Haywire

I started writing my book ‘Divine You — Redefining Love in the New Earth’ in June of 2010. It was an amazing journey of self and felt incredible to put it into words. When it came to finding a publisher, I chose a publishing house in New York whose motto was ‘changing the world, one book at a time’ — I thought this was relevant and submitted my manuscript.

Since the momentous day, when they accepted my book and it landed on book shelves worldwide, I have tried to fit into a ‘spiritual’ persona category that just wasn’t me.

What Do I Mean?

Well, it took me 2 years to realize that I am trying to be something I am not. I wrote a self-empowerment book but that doesn’t mean that I am, what I like to call, a ‘Hay House special’.

Louise Hay, as most of you probably know, has a publishing company called Hay House. Some of her writers include the wonderful Wayne Dyer and Doreen Virtue. If you take a look at my home library, you will see many of her signed authors on my shelf — I have a great love and respect for most of the authors in my field.

“We all have a unique energetic signature to graffiti this wall of life with — you need to embrace all the idiosyncrasies or traits that make you you.”

My confusion lay in trying to conform to be an ‘esoteric’, clean-cut, straight-laced author which is a far cry from what I am inside — which is more zany, loud and humorous (growing up on shows like ‘Monty Python’). This is, however, not the image that my marketing consultant and I came up with to promote my website and book.

Struggling With My Image

I didn’t even realize, until recently, that I have struggled to keep this clean-cut look whilst feeling like a wild and wicked butterfly just dying to emerge from her black velvet, gold patterned and red spray-painted cocoon (that is the abstract artist in me, banging the door down, trying to get out!).

Although I have chosen a spiritual path, I am anything but a white-cotton-wearing, new age writer. My roots are firmly planted in rock, art and sci-fi.

If you were to be transported back in time, you would see the Gothic 15 year old version of me walking down the street wearing my black pixie boots, a long trench-coat, heavy-lidded make-up and sporting my bass guitar over-the-shoulder with possibly a Terry Pratchett novel poking out of my bag.

Origins in Rock

When I used to think back to that time I would give a little shudder of embarrassment — you know how it is, you fish out those old archived ‘teen’ photo’s and shriek ‘what was I thinking?‘. But in hindsight, I look back now and say to myself — those were my origins, that is who I was then to mold the being I am now.

I left school and played in many different bands, the last of which saw us bringing out 2 CD’s. I still love to listen to all the great musicians of our time and music is a big influence in my life.

I simply can’t resist having my first cuppa in the morning to a good, thumping tune (probably much to my neighbors distress) — it really gets my blood pumping for the rest of the day and sets a distinct electrifying mood.

We all have a unique energetic signature to graffiti this wall of life with — you need to embrace all the idiosyncrasies or traits that make you you.

Puff out that chest and be proud of your authentic, one-of-a-kind identity!

So Where Am I Going With This?

When you step into the integrity of who you truly are, you encounter that part of you that you may have suppressed for years due to social etiquette or fear of rejection, embarrassment or humiliation — not being accepted for who you really are.

“When you come into alignment with your true self you will discover that the world is an amazing place filled with opportunity, adventure and intrigue. The only thing that was blocking your view before was your lack of higher perspective.”

We, so often, try to conform to what is considered normal or polite — squashing our true feelings or reactions to situations or people, restricting our very being that is bursting to come out and shine in the light of pure Truth.

When you can tie in all your life experiences and merge them with the current ‘you’, you have a recipe for the most delicious human that can spread themselves on any bit of toast and be a culinary delight.

You just need to see it for yourself — can you view yourself from a different perspective?

How Does Your Soul Script Captivate?

They say everyone has a book in them:

What does your script read like?
Do you think you are interesting or dull?
Can you inject more pizzazz into your life?
What is holding you back from expressing your creative flame?

When you can speak and live your truth and it comes from pure source or your core/soul — you will be in your integrity. When you come into alignment with your true self you will discover that the world is an amazing place filled with opportunity, adventure and intrigue. The only thing that was blocking your view before was your lack of higher perspective.

If you were in the dingy, dark and smelly alleyways of Paris you may think that you have landed in hell itself. What if you were to climb to the top of the Eiffel Tower and take another look — you may find that you were in paradise all along!

Original article was posted on LIGHTWORKERS WORLD

4 Easy Steps to a More Relaxed You

Posted on July 19, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Life can literally exhaust our delicate little ecosystems — mind, body and spirit can be put through the ringer.

If we don’t give ourselves space and time to recalibrate and reboot our systems, we can easily burn out or have a nervous breakdown.

Relax and Treat Yourself to Some Time-Out

Todays blog is just a simple reminder that you need to take time out to honour yourself. This could be taking a few days out to go vegetate in the countryside to pampering yourself with a full body massage.

“We very seldom give ourselves the chance to take a 2 hour sofa holiday.”

Even the little things like making time to meditate or to sit with your feet up and relax can help you to rest your physical vessel and revitalize the mind.

Pull Your Resources

For those of you who have children and are rolling their eyes at me thinking, ‘what am I going to do with the kids?’ — make a plan! Get a babysitter in for a couple of hours, call in that favour from your best friend or neighbour, got a partner? Strike a deal. Where there’s a will, there’s a way — you will find a way, believe me.

No Money for a Spa Treatment?

If you don’t have the time for a retreat or the money for a spa, here is a list of things your can do right now that cost nothing or very little:

Bubble-bath — Is there anything better in this world than to soak in a bubble or aromatherapy bath? Don’t forget to light some incense and candles. Make it a special ‘you’ time — when you do this you are surreptitiously telling yourself that you are worth it.
20 Minute Meditation — Never underestimate the power of having a quick meditation session. When you do this you reconnect with your core and/or higher self and give your mind a much-needed time-out from the mind chatter.
Nature Walk — Stretch those legs and get some fresh air into your lungs. Walking in nature is a great way to unwind and de-stress.
2 Hour/One Day Couch Potato — We very seldom give ourselves the chance to take a 2 hour (or a whole day for the child-free among you) sofa holiday. Sometimes this can be just the medicine your tired body needs to catch up and catalyze some action. Put guilt on the top shelf for a day and get out the duvet and bunny slippers — where’s that tub of ice-cream?

Go on, pamper yourself — you deserve it!

Other reading material you may find interesting:

6 Ways to Alleviate Stress Now

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Energy Forecasts: Carry an Umbrella, it’s Raining Emotions

Posted on July 12, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

News Forecast, Just In

Due to high levels of stress and anxiety, the human race is collectively clearing all dross and karma in preparation for a higher state of consciousness. All those who are unaware of this present condition are urged to be cautious whilst traveling outside their door.

Here are some of the symptoms one can expect from their fellow-man during the shift of energies:

Stress and anxiety in copious amounts
Lack of enthusiasm at work or even for life
Heightened emotional responses which can include outbursts, crying, temper tantrums, etc.
Feeling that nobody understands you
Feeling abandoned or isolated
Feeling frustrated
Feeling great anticipation but not knowing what for
Being on your last nerve and highly strung
Severe mood swings

Physical symptoms can include:

Ringing in the ears
Feeling off-balance
Dizzy spells
Aching back and neck
Upset stomach
Depression
Feeling listless
Insomnia or over-sleeping
Constant fatigue
Loss of appetite or surge of appetite for certain things (especially protein)
Heart palpitations

I know a lot of you may think, ‘well, she’s just listed about everything that there is’. True, but these are genuine symptoms that people of all ages are experiencing en masse — just start-up a conversation with anyone about this and you’ll see.

So What’s Happening?

Let’s cut through the BS and get straight to it. We are in the middle of a massive planetary alignment and shit-storm.

Energy in the form of solar flares to gamma rays are bombarding us at every level. Our bodies are absorbing these energies and adapting. This means that we need to take it easy, relax and have loads of down-time.

Think of it like we are a bunch of computers who have just got an upgrade. The computer needs to be rebooted (precisely where we stand at the moment) and to log on again using the new software.

There will be an orientation period where we need to assimilate what is happening to us on an emotional and physical level. It is also happening very fast and for this reason alone, we need to take care of our physical and emotional needs. This can be done by:

Drinking lots of clean, pure water
Eating fresh foods, especially root vegetables (needed for grounding)
Rest, rest, and oh have I said this yet? MORE REST! Babies need to sleep because they are growing, we need the same because we are changing physically as we absorb these new energies from the solar system
Release pent-up emotions by either having a good cry, a good shout, a loud scream or any other way of letting out the steam (go listen to Tears for Fears ‘Shout’ — some sound advice there)
Get yourself a talking buddy and talk! Let it all hang out…don’t hold back, even if you end up talking to your pet or writing it out — let it go
Meditate — get quiet and listen to what your soul wants. You don’t have to be a guru to do this, you just need to switch off the TV, radio, iPod, blah blah and feel comfortable with silence, then go within. You will be amazed at the answers that await you in this place of stillness

The Cure

The upshot of all this is, if you have your umbrella and perhaps don a pair of wellies, you can go splashing around in puddles and have some fun! Even if you are a sorry sack at the moment, don’t forget to inject some humour and playfullness into your life. Lately, I’ve been finding comedy and laughing a good source of upliftment.

As they say ‘laughter is the best medicine’ — go on, try it out. Here, I’ll even help you out. To get you started, watch these 3 classics (I’m watching you! I’ll know if you skip the last one — just because it’s a Muppets sketch don’t think it isn’t pant-wettingly funny):

What have you been experiencing lately?

Does any of this ring true to you?

Or do you think this is a bunch of new age baloney?

It’s okay to speak truthfully and to have your say. Get it off your chest. Oh, and while you’re at it, you might as well share the link to your most favourite comedy sketch. Broadcast the humour!

Just 1 Simple Truth to Enlightenment — Are You Prepared?

Posted on July 5, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

The 1 simple truth to enlightenment is…ah! But if I told you that now, I would spoil the rest of this article for you. You’ll have to just soldier on ’til the end. Let’s begin with:

One Big Happy Family Theory

I read an interesting article on the internet that claimed a demographer created a probability model theorising that a child born in the 1940s in England, if tracing his lineage back to around the late fifteenth century would have close to sixty thousand ancestors.

When going back further to the early thirteenth century, that same child would find eighty percent of the population of England, at that time, would be on their family tree.

Can We Really All Be Related?

These claims suggest anyone living in England currently would most likely be related, if they traced back their lineage through English history.

“Could it be that we all stem from one race? “

Can you now imagine what going back some two thousand years would produce? Or even 6000 years? Could it be that we all stem from one race? Or, at the very least, are we all intrinsically related in some way or another?

Perhaps we are all one big global family.

Dreaming of Unity Consciousness

This is my belief anyway and it is my dream that one day we will all be able to live in symbiance with each other and along with all different beliefs and faiths. We will come to a point where we do not judge or dissuade anyone from their place of truth — especially what they choose to believe in.

Messiah Messages of Love

I do not subscribe to any religion — I believe in God or a Divine Source. However, I do have a great respect for all the various belief systems as I have come to realise the
underlying current is usually one of love.

“…we are painting a picture of an all-encompassing metaphorical concept of the sacred messengers (messiah) of God’s Word.”

I feel every Messiah that has graced this Earth can be clearly seen in these words as they all came in with messages of love, and they should all be acknowledged in the same light.

Whether we are addressing Abraham, Muhammad, Krishna, Gautama Buddha or Jesus Christ, we are painting a picture of an all-encompassing metaphorical concept of the sacred messengers (messiah) of God’s Word.

We all come in different packages so why can’t messiahs too? They may come in the package of being Jewish, or Indian or Arabic, etc — and why not?

Perspectives and Holding Your Tongue

It is an obvious deduction that we may need different cultural perspectives to gain one simple idea. So which one is right and true? Is it so hard to conceive that many masters bring one message?

“You can love unconditionally without having to be the sole provider or keeper of the Truth.”

Let us try to tune in to all these delicious deities as a whole on our quest to unravel these messages of unconditional love and while we are on this journey of life, let’s not forget that we are all connected to each other and your life does not require for your neighbour to hold the same beliefs as you. You can love unconditionally without having to be the sole provider or keeper of the Truth.

There are 7 billion versions and perspectives of the truth out there and your view is but one.

If you just focused on your own integrity, you would see that there is no need to focus on another’s. That is for them to address, not you. Leave judgement at the door and focus on yourself and your own growth — leave your fellow brothers and sisters to unravel their own life’s unique tapestry.

What it All Boils Down To Is…

Respect and love others, respect and love yourself. Respect and love all life forms and you will have stepped into enlightenment.

Simple.

3 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself When Dealing With Aggravation

Posted on June 28, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

The above quotation is what is sometimes referred to as the ‘smoky mirror’ syndrome. We don’t like in others what we don’t care to admit is a fault within us.

How Can I Identify this Kind of Behaviour in Myself?

An example of this could be that you are very annoyed with your colleague for never allowing you to get your point across. This may be a reflection of how you behave at times. It may not be with this specific person, it could be something that you do to your friends or family, in a completely different environment from the workplace.

This is why it is difficult for us to sometimes identify the problem within ourselves — we simply don’t recognize its existence.

“Awareness allows for truth to flow through a situation.”

It is imperitive to find time for deep inner reflection, questioning and, above all, honesty when it comes to dealing with trying to figure out why your buttons are being pushed.

When you can identify the behaviour within yourself, you have found the awareness to deal with it. Awareness allows for truth to flow through a situation. So instead of reacting the next time your colleague doesn’t allow for you to have your say, see if this inner questioning system works:

Do I need to ‘have my say’ or can I simply be the still presence and say nothing?
If not, why is it that I feel the need to reciprocate?
Does it make me feel less important when I remain silent?
Do I really need to convince my colleague of my point of view or is this my ego wanting to control the situation?

Be honest with yourself.

Now when you find yourself on the giving end of the situation — in this instance, you will be the one doing all the talking and not letting anyone else have a word — see if you can:

Identify that you have perhaps not allowed anyone else to talk or contribute.
Can you stop talking once this awareness has broken through?
Are you comfortable with letting someone else speak and listening to their point of view?

I have only given one example here of how the smoky mirror can work, please try to mould this example to fit in with any situation you are having difficulties with.

If you can’t identify the behaviour in yourself, then perhaps you can go out on a limb and ask a friend if they see this behaviour in you. Don’t be angry if your friend can identify it, just remember that you are on the path to self-empowerment and you need to be able to not take things personally.

Call to Action!

Can you share a story about recognizing the actions of another reflected in yourself? How are you dealing with that? Share your wisdom…

Are you having problems seeing this concept in yourself? Is there no way that you mirror the bad behaviour you see in others that irritates you?

Are you walking a fine line between acknowledging your faults or finding that you are just being objectively critical?

For further reading, please see my other blogs:

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…Who’s in the Most Denial of Us All?

Do You Take Things Personally?

More about this topic can also be found in my book ‘Divine You – Redefining Love in the New Earth’ (where the above quotation was taken from).

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3 Simple Steps to Release You From Depression

Posted on June 21, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Every Road Leads to Rome

Everything is, and will always lead us back to the Divine Source. However, sometimes we take detours along this path to try to discover more about who we are. So sometimes ‘all roads lead us to roam’ in some cases. Some of us need a little reminder or nudge to get us back into alignment with our mission in life.

What is our mission in life you may ask?

To discover our divinity and this is done through lessons. However, we sometimes fall so deeply into fear and depression that we can’t see that the light switch is dangling just above our own heads.

Polarity

Everything has its yin and yang (it’s positive and negative attributes). So does the Divine Source. We are here to experience both sides of polarity, to eventually work our way back into the light, which is all-encompassing.

“We can plough it with antidepressants or we can just leave it and let it fester, but neither way is addressing the root of the problem. When you face the fear, you can walk through it.”

White light holds every colour in the spectrum; what a great metaphor for us. When we can work out the extreme opposites and find a balance between the two poles of existence – the yin and yang – we move back into an integrity that has been long-lost and forgotten through the widespread broadcasting of fear.

When we hold our emotions in fear we tend to feel it in our solar plexus, that feeling of ‘butterflies’ or ‘a great pit’ in the stomach. This is our emotional reaction to let our body know something is amiss. We can plough it with antidepressants or we can just leave it and let it fester, but neither way is addressing the root of the problem. When you face the fear, you can walk through it.

Here are 3 simple steps to take which will enable you to realign with your purpose:

Get Vocal — Adopt a ‘Listening Buddy’ — Sometimes a problem doesn’t even need your ‘listening buddy’ to come up with a solution; why is this? Because, we intrinsically, just want to be heard and acknowledged. This can bring us into balance. When we voice out loud our ‘mind chatter’, we can often make sense of it for ourselves just by hearing the power of the emotions taking the form of words. The words are a manifestation of the emotion, and therefore can sometimes be released when spoken. That is why some people calm down considerably after being allowed to ‘say their piece’.
Get Creative — Is there a hidden passion in your life, something that you love to do but have been suppressing or putting off? No more excuses, get back on that bike and ride! When you engage with the right hemisphere of your brain (where your creativity lives) you will feel elated. It realigns you to your feminine, nurturing, explorative, passionate side and can ignite the flame for your ultimate purpose (if you don’t already know what that is). Explore different avenues of creativity until you find the one that just simply ‘clicks’ into place with you. You will find it, you just need to exercise patience and endurance. Engage your inner child with this and see every new venture as an ad-venture. No time is ever wasted when you are having fun.
Get Quiet — Find time to meditate or do some breathing exercises, yoga or Tai Chi. Find something that enables you to quiet your mind and have some free space without thought. This will get you in touch with your higher self and will realign you to your greater purpose.

For more blogs about meditation, breathing exercises, creativity, please see the linked list below:

Do You Need To Meditate?

Making a Commitment to Creativity…Do You Lack Self-Worth?

What is Your Quality of Breath?

Are you stressed out?

A Practical Guide to Feeling Good

Posted on June 14, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Are You Reading Me on FM?

It’s a kind of magic…not only does this Universe work on energy and everything in and of it is read as energy, which by the way, cannot be destroyed only transmuted or reshaped – but we are also working primarily with vibration or frequency.

Quantum Tongue-Twister

Quantum physics has a wave-particle duality phenomenon that states that all particles have both wave and particle properties….and behave, in accordance with the observer, in either fashion. When a camera observes, they act as particles. However, when there is no equipment used to observe, they acted as waves and particles simultaneously.

“…the tree falling in the forest with no-one to hear it makes no sound but also dances the fandango if it feels the urge?”

Does this mean that everything in the Universe is guided into manifestation based on what or who is observing it? Does this mean that not only will the tree falling in the forest with no-one to hear it make no sound but also dance the fandango if it feels the urge?

So what?

So everything!

Every thought pattern that you conjure up in your mind has a certain frequency. Is it lower or higher? Are you thinking ‘good’ thoughts or ‘bad’ thoughts? Whatever you are thinking you are calling into creation.

Huh?

You can master your life experience with just the information that whatever you project emotionally or whatever frequency you emit, is shaping your life experience.

For example:

Your girlfriend leaves you. For weeks you are feeling a pit in your stomach (solar plexus chakra) and you can’t eat, sleep and feel depressed. This is a ‘grieving’ period and it is appropriate.

But sooner rather than later (or never at all!) you are going to have a choice to move that feeling from your solar plexus to your heart chakra (middle of the chest).

How?

You need to master the transmutation of energy. Sounds difficult, doesn’t it? It really isn’t.

Moving the Energy Up

When you are feeling stuck in your solar plexus (stomach area) you can always choose to move it up a notch into your heart chakra (chest area).

When you are feeling down or depressed or even stressed, angry or frustrated (any ‘negative’ emotion) you can move it up on the emotional scale.

Butterflies and Pits

When we feel those butterflies in the tummy or a pit in the stomach, we are experiencing the negative scale of the solar plexus. I’m sure you can relate to this feeling.

Expansion and Bliss

When you move it up one, you are moving the energy or frequency/vibration into the heart center. To experience the feeling of love, joy or bliss we must put ourselves into this frame of emotion.

How?

Observe how you feel when you think of something wonderful. Holding your child for the first time, getting your first puppy, watching a magnificent sunset — these are all triggers to get you to feel ‘bliss’ and this is usually felt in your heart chakra.

When you find the one thing that can immediately make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, you have your trigger to activate the heart centre/chakra.

This is extremely important as it is a tool to help you to elevate yourself and your well-being. It is empowering to know that whenever you are feeling out of alignment with your true state, which should be bliss, joy and/or love, you can use a memory to help guide you back into your center.

Practical Steps to Feeling Good

Practice this whenever you can. Just sit quietly, close you eyes and think of that one thing that brings you joy, feel it, observe it, expand it until your whole chest is tingling and opening. Can you feel that the more you expand this feeling, the more it permeates through your entire body — every cell seems to ‘vibrate’. Congratulations! You have found your good vibration!

Now you can use this to steer your life in the direction you want to see it sail into…have fun!

Just remember, if you fall overboard, you can throw yourself a life belt by either moving it up a notch or reminding yourself that ‘this too shall pass‘. Then when you are feeling a little better, you can start your heart chakra meditation and start redirecting your cosmic vibration to match your desires again.

Other articles you may enjoy:

Are you Creating the Life of your Dreams?

4 Practices to Help Cure Negative Thinking

7 Proven Tactics to Spread Joy Around the World

Are You Letting the Wonders of the World Pass You By?

4 Things Travel Can Teach Us About Avoidance

Posted on May 17, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Talk About Denial!

After last weeks blog,”Mirror, mirror on the wall — who’s in the most denial of us all?”, I am literally going to be in de-nial — or rather ‘de Nile’ — this time next week.

It’s my first trip to Egypt and I am both excited and extremely anxious. My husband keeps reporting the daily news from Cairo, which adds to my nervous disposition towards the tension and build-up to the new presidential elections in Egypt this month. However, I keep on reminding myself that I have wanted to do this since I was a little girl.

By the way, the picture above was taken by my grandfather, Harry Roe, during World War 2 (he was stationed in Egypt) — quite remarkable, isn’t it? There’s another picture further down, taken from the banks of the Nile.

Back to the article.

The Last Minute

So, this trip was booked spontaneously about a month ago and I thought I had a lot more time to sort things out than I actually do.

Now that it comes to the crunch, I have actually been putting a lot of stuff off. Of course, I have been doing all the nice things like buying new sandals and planning my trip to the salon for some heavy-duty waxing but when it comes to the more pressing details, well, those are on my ‘to do’ list in my head.

Realizations and Deadlines

Without having to drag you through the nuts and bolts of my checklist, I am going to get straight to the point of this blog and go for the jugular — the things we don’t want to face but inevitably have to.

Besides having to purchase sunscreen and alert the neighbours of my departure, what have I been putting off?

Drawing up a will — yeah, I know, a tad bit dramatic? Certainly, but also necessary. I don’t have a will in place and if, God forsake, my husband and I should not return, we will have left our family in a bit of a pickle with regards to who gets what. We don’t have children or debt (thankfully) but we do have pets, which I would like to see well looked after, etc.
Financial Planning — Yup, that old humdinger — and let’s face it, who wants to think about that? We are both self-employed and a 10 day vacation also means a 10 day unpaid vacation. So we need a game plan to see us through this month and to re-enter a new month when we get back.
Care-Givers — With pets (and for many of you who can’t travel with your children) this step of the process is sometimes the hardest. Having to leave your dear ones in the care of others and planning for their needs while you are away. I, thankfully, have a good friend who house and pet-sits for me but it is still one of those things that you only face or start to think about closer to the time and pray that all goes well.
Documents — I’m not even going to go into this one because it’s red-tape boring! You know the type, visa’s, passports, itineraries, blah blah…

Can you see why I have been experiencing a tiny little bit of denial? Most of these things aren’t easy to face or think about. Not that I advocate dwelling on anything that doesn’t make you feel good but, inevitably, some of these things do need to have a strategy or plan in place for your peace of mind.

Putting Things In Place

Like the thought of leaving your pets, I wish I could explain to them that I will be back but, alas, you can’t. The last time I went on holiday, my cat sulked at us for days!

Or the thought of who you are going to leave things to in your will. The truth is that if you don’t, your loved ones will be left to sort this out and surely you don’t want to instigate squabbling on your behalf.

Setting your finances straight really is a drag but, again, you will have peace of mind whilst you are away — isn’t it worth it in the long run? Work a little harder now to have time to put your feet up later.

And, lastly, documents — just do it. No use griping about it. Accept what is and you’ll find it is finalized before you know it.

Right, now that I have got that off my chest, I will leave you in peace to enjoy the rest of your Thursday…just remember, tie up those loose ends so you can get on with the joy of living!

Motivating Update: I set aside my weekend to start ‘wrapping’ these things up. You won’t believe how quick it was to tie up all these loose ends! It literally took me a couple of hours and I had most of it done.

I’m now starting to feel the anxiety slip away and a sense of excitement taking its place!

Question Time

What is it that you put off until the last-minute when you go away?

What, in general, are you putting off now that you know will make an improvement on your life if you did it?

What is stopping you from setting your affairs in order?

Come on, be honest.

UPDATE: I am back from Egypt, you can see my blogs here:

Come Journey Through Picturesque Egypt With Me

Bizarre Contrasts: McDonalds and Karnak Temple, Egypt!

What You Need to Know About Desperation and Manifestation

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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…Who’s in the Most Denial of Us All?

Posted on May 10, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

The Smoky Mirror

This is a concept that most people at first feel a strong repulsion with because they do not quite understand the concept. I discussed it briefly in my book ‘Divine You’ but, for those of you who have not read it, I will recap:

Our Actions Reflected — The Good, The Bad and The Ugly!

When we find ourselves annoyed or upset with someone it is usually because we are mirroring the same behaviour in some way. It doesn’t have to be wrapped identically in the same package but it is something we have to look out for and go into when it is necessary or you could be fudging or avoiding a certain issue within you that needs to be addressed.

Deep Cleaning or Surface Cleaning?

Just remember, when you sweep your rising issues under the rug, you are not solving the problem merely postponing it.

” When you own up and take the responsibility to steer your life in the right direction, you will find that life becomes a grand adventure.”

The choice is yours whether you would like to finally look it in the face or save it for another day. But be aware, when you put it away for another time, it tends to grow and start manifesting as dis-ease in your body.

We all came to earth for personal growth and to walk through our karma. You chose this. When you own up and take the responsibility to steer your life in the right direction, you will find that life becomes a grand adventure.

When we continuously do a ‘patch-up’ job or play games of dodge-cars — we are side stepping our problems or issues and this will never solve them.

This is why, in our present-society especially, there is so much avoidance going on.

What’s on the Telly? Who Turned the Radio Off!?! Where’s my iPod?…No! Not Silence, Please…

We have so much to distract us.

“You must face the consequence that you may be left behind in an evolving world.”

When we don’t want to face the silence, which usually gives rise to inner questioning, we turn on the TV, surf the internet or put on the radio.

This has to be curbed in order for us to evolve to the next level of human design. If you choose to stay in the current paradigm of white picket fencing and two and a half children, then that is your decision to make. You must face the consequence that you may be left behind in an evolving world.

Time For Reflection…

So, with the mirror, we gain reflective insight. Notice how you feel when someone gets your back up. Is there something in them that you may not be addressing in yourself?

Be honest with yourself.

For example: there is a certain someone who seems to trigger anger in you because they always assume who you are and what you are about.

Are you assuming something about them or others?
Are you judgment free?
Do you seldom see things from a different perspective or point of view?

When we can be honest with ourselves, this is everything!

When we can look at our own behaviour, without judgment — just assessment — we are on the path of least resistance.

Be Honest, Keep Assessing

Then the next time you feel this emotion rise within you, you can step out of yourself and assess why it is that you are still feeling this:

Is there still room for improvement,?
How can you better stop yourself from taking the same action with another?

With this knowledge in tow, you have the ability to notice when you are stepping off course with your better judgment.

Close That Book and Study Yourself

When you are aware of your own flaws you are better equipped to notice it when it rears within you.

Even if you have already done the deed but noticed it afterwards, this is a step in the right direction. You cannot change something if you are still not accepting or acknowledging that there is a problem.

Every person that engages in this dance of life with you, has a teaching for you.

Remember this and accept the teaching next time it is presented to you — no matter what package it comes in.

When you practice this it will enhance your life with the addition of peace in any circumstance. You are in control at all times. Reaffirm this daily.

Is there someone in your life who pushes all your buttons but you can’t seem to see the same in yourself?
What has been your most surprising moment of realization with seeing yourself in others?
Are you able to freely assess yourself when you feel annoyance arising within you when you are in the company of another?

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Taking Responsibility For Your Co-Creative Abilities

Posted on May 3, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

It Always Starts With Choice

You may have noticed a theme in this life called freewill. Everyone is free to make up their own minds and act accordingly. This can also be said on an energetic level. We may say one thing but mean another, our true intention is usually emitted via our emotional body or frequencies that we give off.

You can say that you are feeling fine but your energetic signature could be telling a very different tale.

“That is why the old adage ‘the world won’t change only how you view it can change’ is so true.”

You cannot fool yourself into the truth, you can only accept what is and try to find a space to feel good within that. To see past the sometimes limited view of what is happening in our current experience and to turn it into something positive or to try to view it from a new and clear perspective.

That is why the old adage — ‘the world won’t change, only how you view it can change’ — is so true.

When you choose to view something from a higher perspective, you are giving yourself an extremely powerful tool. Most people never get to use this handy God-given tool and go their whole life giving into the illusion that the are a victim of circumstance.

Victim of Circumstance — Don’t be Just Another Statistic

The attitude of victim or ‘poor me’ syndrome is one that too many people use to justify their lives and what is happening to them.

“Life doesn’t just randomly happen to you, you are the one happening this life into fruition, or, as the case may be, into decay.”

It is used as a crutch to get you through life and to never take responsibility for your cause and effect actions.

Life doesn’t just randomly happen to you, you are the one happening this life into fruition, or, as the case may be, into decay. If you take responsibility for this fact, then you are well on your way to creating your destiny and not falling victim to your so-called ‘fate’.

Are You Displaying Salmon-Like Tendencies?

However, if you are wading through life as if it is a torrent, pushing and struggling against it and getting swept away with it, then you are in a victim mentality. You are pushing your way upstream, and, seeing that you are not a salmon being called back to your mating grounds, this is not going to serve you.

” There is usually some kind of pay-off with any situation, figure out what yours is and how you can now change it to better suit where you want to be.”

This may have benefitted you up until now, by allowing you a loophole to get out of facing your choices, actions and inactions. There is usually some kind of pay-off with any situation, figure out what yours is and how you can now change it to better suit where you want to be.

Holding on to any thing or situation that keeps you comfortably tucked up in a blanket of deceit will eventually come around to bite you in the butt.

You Matter, Your Life Matters, Quit Ostriching About!

If you truly want to be a co-creator of your reality then you must step out of the illusion that you do not have a say in the matter.

Extract your head from the whole in the ground. Only you can’t see what is happening around you when you do. To everyone else, all they see is a big black and white bird with its head stuck in the ground. They can’t understand why such a big and powerful avian has to try to conceal itself in the midst of danger — why not face the world and exercise your powerful muscles of choice, action and manifestation?

Your life matters, you matter. Ruffle those gorgeous feathers, bat your luscious eyelids and do the dance of joy!

Choose your experiences and be mindful of when you feel you are in a situation that is ‘out of your control’. Think again. Try see the lesson; Try viewing it from a different perspective.

What do you feel is out of control in your life?
Do you feel like there is no way that you can control your destiny?
Or are you someone who has stepped into their power?
What do you do differently now to how you reacted before?

Enjoy!

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New Beginnings…Building up an Art Collection from Scratch

Posted on May 1, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Faith Repaid

A couple of weeks ago I had a buyer who practically cleaned out my stock of paintings. This was great as I was still trying to source funds for a trip to Egypt I had already booked. My theory behind booking the holiday before I had the funds was:

I am using the Law of Attraction and you must have faith that what you need is on its way
I will procrastinate about going for the rest of my life if I didn’t make a move NOW
I had finally convinced my husband that we NEEDED to go (lol) after many years of begging and never being able to be on the same page about this particular destination. He had a bad experience going through Cairo on his way to Israel many years ago. So, again, I felt the time for action had finally reared its persistent head.

Manifestation Elation

Right, so with all that said, I licensed some of my art to a home goods chain store in the US and sold most of my art collection after I had put my trust in the manifestation of the money process and had gone ahead and booked the holiday. Fancy that?!

Now What?

Now here I sit. My site where I sell my work is looking very bleak at the moment and I am pressed for time with mustering up another collection as my trip is literally around the corner and the paperwork is still being processed, which leaves me anxious about wrapping up the details.

A New Perspective

But then my dear partner pointed out that this is a whole new beginning for me — a clean slate to start afresh.

“I know about the law of least effort (thanks to Deepak Chopra) and I am applying it to my life.”

No matter how long it takes to build this up again, I get the chance to truly go further into what I want to paint and how long I take doing it is entirely up to me. There should be no pressure with the creative process, only enjoyment and true expression of what needs to come out and manifest in this reality.

So with that in mind, I will be starting this new adventure by going out into the big wide world and seeking the beauty and inspiration I need to get this new collection on the go.

The ‘old’ me would be frantically running around like a headless chicken trying to paint and build up some stock but the ‘new’ me knows better. I know about the law of least effort (thanks to Deepak Chopra) and I am applying it to my life. I have given myself no time limits and will now let it flow naturally…

I promise to document the process, so look out for this in my Tuesday Art Blog.

Thanks for looking!

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Are You Using Your Heart Properly?

Posted on April 19, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Listen to Your Heart

To avoid the cheesy violin strings and perhaps the urge to start singing a Roxette song, I’m going to get straight to the point of this blog.

Your heart centre tells you where you are heading. Your gut instinct is a great thing to follow and that usually tells us when we have strayed off course. You know, the butterflies in the stomach or sinking feeling felt in the solar plexus (stomach area).

When you can shift the feeling of surety up into your heart centre and feel an overwhelming confidence for what you are doing, then you are working from your heart and you can trust the process.

If you feel a strain in this area when you move your feelings up into your heart centre, then you need to reflect on your decision, something is still amiss.

The Importance of Feeling

Why is it important to feel things? Our emotions are our internal guidance system, much like a GPS trying to steer us onto the right course, if only we pay attention.

“…we reconnect with our soul and can realign ourselves to our purpose.”

If you are working with a GPS in your car and you keep ignoring the signals then you will be in a state of chaotic driving, going nowhere at every turn. Feeling lost and disconnected whilst at any point in time, you could have just listened to that voice on the GPS to get you back on track.

This is why meditation is so useful, we reconnect with our soul and can realign ourselves to our purpose.

Are You Lost?

It seems like a no-brainer but we often decide to just ignore our gut instincts or turn off the voice of reason in the head. That is when we wander from our path and get lost in the forest of uncertainty.

Do You Know You Have a Compass in Your Pocket?

So take time out to meditate, realign and trust the heart. You have an internal barometer — use it. Trust yourself more. You do know everything, it is all there at your core and when you tap into that, you are tapping into the knowledge of the Universe or what is sometimes referred to as the Divine Matrix.

You just need to learn to be still, patient and to listen.

Blogs you may find useful:

Taking Responsibility For Your Co-Creative Abilities

Letting Go For Your Own Good — Detaching out of Love

6 Techniques to Stop Worrying

Is Your Past Tripping Up Your Future?

12 Things Successful People Do To Excel

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Letting Go For Your Own Good — Detaching Out Of Love

Posted on April 12, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

1. Gift yourself some time for space and clarity

2. Assess yourself and think gratitude

3. Go for a walk or do some yoga

4. Breathe properly

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1. Draw up a Plan

2. Don’t Overload

3. Map it with Fun

4. Feel It to Manifest It

5. Release the Inner Child

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The Here and Now

Self-Love or Bust!

The Secret Revealed

Hippy Thinking or Revolutionary Insight?

Whether You or the Animal is Lunch

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2. Assess yourself

3. Go for a walk or do some yoga

4. Breathe properly

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We’ve all feared, at some point in our lives, what other people think of us but here are 9 reasons to let go of the opinions of others for our own good:

1. Smoke and Mirrors

2. Self-Realization and Repair Kits

3. Inherent Beauty and Perfection

4. Dissecting Agreements

5. Piecing Together Your Puzzle

6. That Tricky Enigma Called Universal Appeal

7. Acknowledge the Good