Don’t Let the World Get You Down!

Posted on April 5, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

How to be in the world but not of it

As things stand now, you are most likely reading this blog from a computer somewhere on planet earth. My marvelous skills of deduction are quite remarkable, I know.

We seem to all be in the same boat, paddling around in circles, paddling against the current or drifting out to sea. How can we be in this beautiful world but not let it get us down?

Let’s face it, there is a lot of stuff that can, and does, lower our spirits and dampen our whetted desire to be on this planet. But then, when we look around, we see that this planet is an exquisite paradise, filled with beauty, intrigue and adventure.

Why is it that life can be so damn tough when there is also so much fun to be had?

Heaven on Earth?

There is a simple truth to life. We can create heaven on earth but we can also create our own personal form of hell.

Our very thoughts and actions will determine which destination we end up in.

Are you living in fear? Meet Jack Soap…

When you live in fear you are perpetuating fear.

Let me give you an example. If Jack Soap listens to the news constantly on the radio (which primarily reports bad news and how terrible the world out there is, along with all there is to be fearful of), he will be in a conscious or even unconscious negative frame of mind. His preset to life will be tainted with a neuro-linguistic programming of doubt and fear.

You may even find that Jack has a preconceived idea that he should trust no-one. He may even not like to venture outside his own home, let alone comfort zone, for fear of being attacked. He may even cringe at the thought of an overseas holiday, he’ll think you mad if you were to suggest such nonsense, what with all the potential terrorists on-board planes these days!

Poor Jack may not even realize that there is a sunny and bright side to life. It is as if he could be living on a different planet to John.

Are you living in love? Meet John Doe…

Meet John Doe (yes, alright! I know my pseudonyms leave something to be desired). He enjoys listening to uplifting music rather than put on the news. He enjoys walks in the park and getting in touch with nature.

He sees the beauty that the world has to offer. He smiles at people as he walks along his path and they smile back. He is certain that there is goodness in everybody because that is his experience.

John is living in the world and enjoying it. He is not letting the world dictate his experience, he is dictating his own experience. He is detaching from potential drama because he knows he has the choice to only focus on the positive aspects of life.

When John does this he is in control, he is mapping out his destiny according to what he wants to manifest.

He is not a victim of circumstance and he is certainly not an unconscious creator.

Jack vs John

Jack, on the other hand, is in the world and of the world. He is getting trapped in the lower vibrational frequency of negativity and he is letting the world dictate his experience.

He is unconsciously creating an undesirable life. He may not even be aware that he can change this at any time if he so wishes.

Jack was blessed with freewill, just like John. Jack, however, can’t seem to see it. He can’t take responsibility for his life choices because he feels he hasn’t made them.

But he has.

Whether he chooses to accept that or not, he has made his bed and he is tossing and turning in it.

Can you see the message behind the metaphor? Be in the world not of it.

Freewill and Choice

Choose your experiences. Choose what you expose yourself to. Choose to engage in drama, or choose to love from afar and lend your support whilst creating strong, effective boundaries.

You do not have to get involved and bogged down in drama if you don’t want to. You can always help those in need but you can do it with detachment. This means that you can still help in this world but you are fully aware that it is not required that you get involved with a problem — most certainly not to the extent that it encapsulates you in drama.

Detachment

Detachment is not a word that describes the state of not caring. Quite the opposite. You care enough to help and you care enough about yourself to remain neutral.

Think of detachment like Switzerland — the neutral zone. You can lend a hand but you are not getting hooked into anything.

You can live in this world, enjoy it and be mindful of the ‘drama’ and/or the negative aspect of life. This will give you the freedom to pick and choose your experiences and know when to help and when to say no.

Do you feel that life is taking you for a ride? Or are you in the drivers seat of your experience? Share your stories…

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Butterflies and Hurricanes — 2012 is Here!

Posted on January 3, 2012 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

So, 2012 is here and we are about to enter one of the most anticipated years in history!

Are you feeling it? This year has a certain air of mystery, intrigue, excitement, anxiety, angst and nervous anticipation. What do we do? What can we do? Is there anything TO do?

The answer is an emphatic YES! You can take time out this year for yourself.

The Search to Reconnect with Your Inner Being

Inner reflection is the key to unlocking the authentic you. The you that is your core essence, buried deep down inside — past all the various layers you have accumulated over time and experience.

“If you make yourself a top priority, you will be strong enough to help others on their path.”

Take time out to meditate, get in touch with the silence. Learn to be comfortable in silence.
Take a fresh look at your diet and make sure to add lots of pure water, fruit and vegetables to it. Remember that you are what you eat. Do you feel heavy? Are you eating heavy starchy foods? Or too much meat? Get real about what you are putting into your unique temple.
Treat your body to regular exercise. Do something that you enjoy. It is useless to commit to an exercise regime when you hate it. Play to your strengths. Do you like to take a walk in a forest or along a beach? Do you enjoy dancing? Find out what you like to do and fit it into a fitness routine. Cater to your needs and preferences.
Take time out to be in nature — go to the beach, climb mountains, hike in fields or simply sit under a tree. Reconnect with the Earth — this is your home. Find the beauty that is on your doorstep.
Get creative. Take time out to muck about. Get a hobby, rekindle your interest for photography or art. Give yourself time to explore a creative avenue.
Play. Connect with the inner child every once in a while (preferably as much as you can). Play in sand, dance in the rain, laugh your head off — let your hair down and stop caring about what anyone thinks. What do you think? That’s all that matters.
Eat lots of dark chocolate. I don’t know how important this step is but I thought it might round this list off nicely. However, it has been proven to release happy endorphins in your body, so a little shouldn’t hurt! Click here for an article on the positive effects of eating chocolate.

New Years Resolutions…

So, this new year make your resolutions about you and reconnecting to your divine self. Explore your inner depths and uncover your I AM presence. If you make yourself a top priority, you will be strong enough to help others on their path.

Be kind and compassionate towards yourself and you will then be able to find it easier to relate to others and to see the connection we all have with each other.

Separation is the Illusion, unity is our reality.

Butterflies and Hurricanes

This year may feel chaotic and turbulent but you can always transmute any energy to your advantage.

You can choose to be the butterfly, free and beautiful or you can get stuck in the hurricane of chaos and drama.

Choices map out our future. Make sure you choose from your heart. It is easy to get caught up in drama if you don’t remain grounded and coherent in your thinking patterns.

Detach from drama and be the still presence. Be compassionate and loving whilst remaining firm and grounded.

Happy New Year everybody!

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How to Get and Maintain that Positive Attitude

Posted on October 20, 2011 by Cherie Roe Dirksen

Turning a Negative into a Positive

We all know about positive thinking and the Law of Attraction but do we really put it into practice?

I have so many friends who say they completely understand the Law of Attraction but I find these very same people asking me to join groups on Facebook with very negative connotations, such as ‘Stop Child Abuse’ or ‘Fight Cancer’ . They still don’t quite get it.

So how do you phrase with positivity then?

It does take some getting used to and it can be thought-provoking but it is possible. Mother Theresa said something very profound to demonstrate this premise, it went along the lines of: You’ll never see her at an Anti-War Rally but you will find her at a Pro-Peace Demonstration.

“When we harp on negative words or phrasing we are actually calling them into existence or perpetuating their existence…”

Let’s take the ‘Stop Child Abuse’ campaign, this can be rephrased as the ‘Love and Respect our Children’ or ‘Joyous Childhood’ campaign. ‘Fight Cancer’ can equate positively to ’Complete Physical Well-being”.

What Happens When we Focus on Negativity?

When we harp on negative words or phrasing we are actually calling them into existence or perpetuating their existence. Feeding the problem, making it recur over and over until we change our mindset.

Let’s try to think a little differently and see what a world of difference we make.

When I talk to most people about this they nearly always tell me that it is far to difficult to alter ones thoughts. It is not — it just takes time, awareness and patience.

How to Stop Negativity

The first step is to put your awareness on your thoughts and try to stop the negative ones in their tracks.

At first, some of these thoughts will slip through the cracks and you’ll find yourself in a fear induced state of panic of what might be or what has been and might happen again (isn’t this conducive to how most of us think?).

This is actually quite a normal state of mind in our society – one could even say a collective state of mind. Don’t give up on it though, with repetition things will change and you will find it easier and easier to stop your train of thought when you want to.

One by one you will slowly begin to eradicate these unproductive thought processes from you mind.

Patience is a Strong Virtue

Everything takes time and a bit of getting used to so the best is to be patient with yourself and gently usher in the new positive thought process.

Do not judge yourself if you fall of the track every now and again – you just pick yourself up and get back on track. Before you know it, you will be identifying negative thought patterns more and more easily and you will be able to alter the pattern to positivity.

“Just remember the ‘what if’s’ usually never ever happen anyway – how much time have we wasted on this?”

I know this for sure because I practice this and find it to be very effective. It has taken me almost a year to be at a point where I can change negative thoughts midstream and reverse it to a more positive scenario.

What if I Lapse?

Believe me, I also have my lapses but more often than not it can be stopped before one gets carried away in the stream of ‘what if’ scenarios.

I was very good at the ‘what if’ scenario – I’m sure we could all win Oscars for that but how about changing the ‘what if’ into a ‘what is’ because only what is happening now is of true importance. Just remember the ‘what if’s’ usually never ever happen anyway – how much time have we wasted on this? Read more about how to stop worrisome thoughts HERE.

Easier said than done? Most definitely, but anything of great importance is worth the persistence. Persist with this and, I promise you, you will reap the rewards of a clear and positive state of mind.

Positive thoughts can pull you out of the darkness.
Positive thoughts can heal a sick body.
Positive thoughts can help eliminate our biggest obstacle, fear.

You are in Control

Positivity will alter your perception of the world you live in – the choice is, and always will remain, with you.

You create your life experience, you are in control. What you see reflected in your life circumstance is what you have projected, consciously – or most of the time unconsciously. Be clear about this and move on to filtering your wants and don’t wants.

Live your best life – you can only do this when you take responsibility for your actions and thoughts. Take control of your life and truly live!

Have Your Say…

Are you a positive person or do you feel yourself slipping into the negative realms before you can stop it? Share your thoughts and experiences…I’d love to hear from you.

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