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Adrift

Adrift in a Sea of Bad News?

“I just don’t deal with the negativity. I can’t get involved in that side of it. I don’t understand it, and you can’t let it take away from your life and what you are trying to do.”  Rick Pitino 

I read an article that stated ‘negativity sells’.  How sad.  Yes it does, we are all aware of that but we don’t necessarily like it.

Don’t you sometimes feel alone or like you are farting against thunder, trying to keep your spirits high or encouraging the positivity in others only to have the media and various other sources spit negativity out at you at an alarming rate?

I sure do.

Buried Under the Rubble

StrollThe influx of devastating news from the media to the sick pictures being posted recently on Facebook showcasing animal cruelty and the likes are but a few of what we’ve been bombarded with lately.

If you don’t have these social networking sites then lucky you!  You’ve just saved yourself some deep trauma.

Yes, negativity does seem to sell but we can change that by focusing our attention on solving the problems not feeding them.

The one mistake most people make is perpetuating the negativity by spreading it, thinking that they are doing good but what they are really doing is helping the offenders to spread their base filth even faster.

I know the kind of people who share this type of bad news/pictures are only trying to spread awareness, their hearts are in the right place but there are other ways of helping out that I will address below.

But before I go into that, I want to bring up another hot issue.

Teenage Dreams Turning into Teenage Nightmares

Sharing these gruesome pictures on Facebook is perpetuating the problem by offering these perpetrators notoriety for their acts (which is one of the reasons why I believe they do it).

The growing need that a select few teenagers have to become ‘famous’ is resulting in them trying anything for their 15 minutes of glory — seemingly, no matter how heinous that publicity might be.

So, what should be done about it?

What can be done is:

  • report it directly to the police (put up the photo on a bulletin board at the police station rather than on innocent bystanders cyber walls),
  • report it to your local activist group (pertaining to the content),
  • send the perpetrators love (yes, it is difficult but you will not solve anything with your hatred — look at the last few thousand years of earth history to see where that gets you.  Try something different),
  • send the victims love,
  • if you can, donate your time or money to a cause near you (if it is a crime against animals — donate to your local shelter, if it is a crime against women/children — donate to your local care center)

These are practical ways to make a stand.

I agree that awareness will change problems but we must be discerning in how that awareness is carried out.

Are You Helping or Hindering?

“Negativity doesn’t help me.”
— David Ortiz

If you can answer yes to these questions, you may be doing more harm than good.  Are you:

  • working yourself up into a frenzy or state of anger over the issue?
  • causing anyone distress with what you are doing?
  • telling yourself that it is necessary for people to see violent images to get them to stand up and take notice?

Rather ask yourself what you could do in a calm, dignified manner to help the situation.

Let’s take a quick look at the possible causes behind these actions.

Where the Trail Leads

FameTV reality shows pump out mindless garbage like ‘The Kardashians’ and ‘Jerseylicious’ (to name but a few) and the youth lap it up thinking that this is the key to success.  That through debaucherous actions they will get the attention they crave.

  • Get your own reality show.
  • Do something outrageous and get noticed.

It’s up to us to help educate and steer these youngsters in the right direction.  Coming up against it in sheer fury will fuel the fire causing an inferno, we need to address the misinformation they are being fed.

Okay, I’ve veered off the topic a tad here.  This was meant to be shining a light on how to keep your head held high when you are being suffocated by lower vibration twaddle.

Anchors Aweigh!

What can you do to keep your head above water?

SailingNavigation.

All hands on deck, Captain!  Navigate your way out of it.

How?  By doing what you can in a positive and uplifting manner.  If there is nothing you can do, pray and send love and compassion.

We’ve just celebrated St. Valentines Day last week, a day for expressing love.  Let’s not stop the day after — let’s keep that love-ball rolling and spread it far and wide.

Keep love alive and you will be able to more easily slip out of the stream of negativity when it arises.

Here are some articles to help you to stay positive:  

How to Get and Maintain that Positive Attitude
7 Proven Tactics to Spread Joy Around the World
A Practical Guide to Feeling Good

If you feel this has resonated with you and have someone in mind whilst you were reading, please do feel free to share. 🙂

This world will change but the seeds need to be sown first — be that seed planter!

On that note, here is a free computer wallpaper quote to encourage those positive vibes:

Negativity Quote

To download, click on picture — right-click and ‘save as’ to your computer. Use as desktop wallpaper or mini printable posters for around your home or office. You may share this on social networks as long as it is not altered in any way, thank you.

The above picture is taken from my painting ‘Early Morning Fishermen’ and is available as prints/posters/cards HERE.

4 Things to Ask Yourself When Searching for Purpose

When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous. ~Wayne Dyer

The Burning Question

African BeautyWhat is my purpose?  The one sweltering question we try so hard to answer and fulfill in our lives but often leaves us cold, feeling confused or frustrated.

There could be so many possible answers.  More pressing is the fact that sometimes we don’t just have one singular purpose, or, that purpose could change from day to day, year to year or decade to decade. We need to get comfortable with the idea of going with the flow and trusting our innate instinct.

Job Conundrums

We could be happily (or unhappily) plodding along in a job for many years when one day you wake up and being a (blank) no longer seems to ‘fit’ into your life anymore.

You scratch your head thinking what could I possibly want out of life now?  I thought I was a (blank)?’ 

Never label yourself as one thing or another — you will restrict the flow of your life.  The answer could be that you are a quantum, multi-dimensional, layered being.  This means that you could be causing change in many numerous ways, even on a subconscious level.  We have in built indicators that start beeping when your contract is about to reconfigure or needs to change.  This is why I will put emphasis on the fact that we need to learn to trust ourselves and our intuition. You may want to dig your feet into the ground in resistance but you need to entertain the prospect that it is time to move on.

You may either need to professionally pick up and move into another arena or to physically move yourself to another location to shine your light where it is needed more.

Change is the Only Constant

tree of life - serpentWe, as human beings, do not relish change.  In fact, for some, it is a frightening prospect.  The uncomfortable truth is that the only constant in this life is change.  The sooner you can make your peace with that, the better you will be able to adapt to any given situation.

The reasons for change can be countless and I like to refer to these seemingly non-linear events as ‘quantum’.  We are navigating in a world of quantum soup, where there are many probabilities layering themselves upon each other.  There are so many levels to our lives and the majority of these are unseen or subconsciously being carried out.  So if you have a niggling feeling that your life needs an overhaul, it is probably time to start making that happen.

The Universe, Source, Higher Self or God — whichever you prefer — has layered these events to unfold in divine timing and you will be gracefully cushioned to your next phase with ease — that is, of course, if you don’t resist.  If you insist on resisting the process, you will probably still get there in the end but it will be the long and bumpy cart-ride instead of the smooth bullet train.

From the Horses Mouth

Who Am II speak from personal experience as I have done a lot of job hopping and career labeling in my time. I started my young life out being very artistic and decided to become an Interior Designer.  Then I hit my early twenties and joined a band.  In between remedial jobs I decided to go back to art and became a full-time painter.  This was going well until I got my ‘spiritual nudge’ to write a book.  This confused the living daylights out of me because I had labeled myself as an ‘artist’.  I was not a ‘writer’!  However, I decided not to fight what was coming out and wrote my first book.

I realized that I loved writing — who would have thought?  I decided to write and paint but this became very taxing.  I got my final nudge to trim back on the art and concentrate on the writing, which is where I am at now. What this whole process has taught me is to surrender to the now and to not fear change because that is where your excitement lies.

Try asking yourself these 4 questions:

  • What do you feel like doing now? 
  • What is it you would do if money wasn’t an issue?
  • What is your gut/instinct telling you? 
  • Where do the synchronicities or signposts point you?

If you are having some challenges identifying your purpose, a good place to start is in meditation.  The wonders that quiet reflection can do is innumerable.  When you are in this state of centered awareness ask yourself ‘what is my purpose?’ and just see what comes up for you.

The answer could be immediate or it could take a couple of hours, days or weeks to come through.

Follow those Synchronous Markers

Rabbit prints The key is to be patient and follow the signs and synchronicities.  They will be there to guide you.  You will have your light-bulb moment if you are dedicated to looking for these pointers.

Just remember they can come to you in many ways— through dreams, meditation, the TV/internet/radio, through people or conversation and pretty much any other precursor that is relevant to your particular question or purpose.

But I Need to Make Money

Yeah, tell me about it!  We all need the green stuff to pay our bills at the end of the month, right?  This is a difficult one because during the transition you may not make the money you need to and this can often put people off pursuing their dreams.

The answer is that if you trust the process, the gates will open for you but you need to exercise patience and faith.  I know faith doesn’t pay the bills (unless you have a wealthy and generous Aunty Faith), but you can make a start at your dreams without giving up you day job for now.  Baby steps will eventually lead to you changing tracks permanently and having a solid foundation to do so in the future.

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Purpose Fairy

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The End of the Mayan Calendar but a New Beginning for Us!

Today is the last date on that infamous Mayan calendar.  For me, this is a symbolic ‘reboot’ day.  I feel it is the start of a new way of thinking and life as we know it, on this beautiful planet.  How?  Why?  What the hell?  Who knows!

All I can tell you is that change starts one person at a time.  With that in mind, make sure your attitude is positive and life will blossom all around you.

In keeping with the spirit of new beginnings, I conjured up this laptop/computer wallpaper for you this fabulous Friday:

Happy Friday!

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