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Don’t Let Control Issues Ruin Your Life

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If you hold onto how things have to happen you are being manipulated by the ‘negative’ aspect of the ego.

The ego has its place in your life. It is responsible for making your experience — in the physical plane — real. However, when the ego thinks it can control how your life pans out — you’re about to be steered to rocky waters.

Your ego is essentially rudderless and clueless.

Controlling your circumstances will always lead you straight into a brick wall.

‘You’re Blocking Me, Again’

I am an expert at control issues. It’s been the predominant program running in my life. Just when I think I’ve shut the program down for good, it pops up in some cunning new disguise to fool me into thinking I’m ‘in the flow, dude’ when it actually has a hidden agenda of control and manipulation.

SUBSCRIBE icon 1I recently recognized that my ego was in control again in a completely different arena of my life — it had completely blind-sided me. When I saw it for what it was and what was playing out in my life as an effect, it was face-palm time.

My control issues had flared up in a silent, transparent blaze.

I was running on autopilot (the subconscious programming — read more about that HERE). It had me jumping through hoops and trying to manipulate my circumstances instead of just being.

It’s the part of you that wants you to continuously do and not simply be.

Human Doing vs Human Being

I was stuck in the loop of controlling my life through doing more. Maybe you can relate?

When you’re aware that you are the creator of your reality and you step into the role of conceiving an idea (which is sent from HQ or the higher mind and never the ‘ego’ mind), taking action to set the idea into motion and then exercising patience and trust that the universe is working on the quickest plan, you’re truly in ‘the flow’.

The negative controlling ego is that part that insists that you should do more to make it happen. It may take the form of more marketing, more pushing, more action, more visualizations of how something must take place, etc.

Swimming Upstream

What I’ve learned is that you take inspired action and no more (well, unless you are inspired to take another step). Follow the synchronicity (those bread crumbs the universe lays out for you). That’s inspired action.

Uninspired egoic action is pushing and trying to manipulate your circumstance that feels unnatural, tough or ‘hard’. That’s when you are most likely to hit a wall. Don’t hate the wall, just recognize it as a sign from HQ saying, ‘You’re not in the flow, cupcake. Relax and be patient’.

High vibes attract high vibe connections (read more about that HERE). Let go of your incessant control over things and let the universe guide you to your highest excitement or your next inspired step.

Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author/columnist, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She has an official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates). You can also check out her Facebook band page at Templeton Universe.

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (Don’t Let Control Issues Ruin Your Life) was originally written for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons.

Other articles you may enjoy:

2 Damn Good Reasons Why You Need to Love Yourself!

5 Super Easy Exercises to Creating a Positive Life!

5 Golden Nuggets I Would’ve Wanted to Know as a Youth

The Scary Truth About Our Subconscious Programming

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In last week’s article, I wrote about asking for something only once when you are manifesting your reality — you can recap HERE.

Today I’d like to dive into the murky waters of the subconscious and bring to the surface the programs we run in the recesses of our psyche.

Are You on Autopilot?

Dr Bruce Lipton says that our subconscious runs 95% of the time, allowing our conscious mind to run at around 5%. What’s the problem here?

The challenge with this situation is that although our subconscious is a great existential tool as it is responsible for downloading certain repetitive programs like driving, working, washing, walking, riding — you get the picture — it also picks up negative beliefs and programming that doesn’t always align with what we want to experience.

Those whacked out programs like, ‘I don’t deserve this’, ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’, ‘I’m useless’, ‘I’m unlovable’ or ‘I’m the sole bearer of the only truth and this is the way it is’ — you can fill in the rest.

It is responsible for assimilating the behaviours and beliefs of those we were surrounded by from age 0 until about 7 (when we start putting the program together and start testing out our own personality).

This means that you take on the beliefs and conducts of parents, teachers, siblings and other role models (or even acquaintances you were exposed to) — the good, the bad and the chillingly ugly.

The 5% of the conscious mind is where you’ll find your dream, goals, desires centre. It’s the part that gets lost in a thought when you’re driving to the supermarket and the next thing you’ve parked your car and couldn’t remember even manoeuvring into the parking lot (that’s because the subconscious program took over the driver’s seat and got you there while the conscious mind played with an idea).

Downloading a New App and Clearing Those Cookies!

Here’s the tricky bit: It’s up to you to weed out the bad programs and beliefs by becoming aware of them.

When you can become aware of the beliefs that don’t serve you or the life you want to lead, you can start to change the way your subconscious works.

The subconscious works on autopilot and can sabotage the conscious desires in the blink of an eye. Why? Because it runs 95% of the time and the conscious only 5%.

So, in context, if you want to manifest a new car and you’ve done everything that the Law of Attraction experts have told you to do, and you feel like you’ve affirmed your butt off but you’re only manifesting more car problems — your subconscious programming actually has the joystick (or in this case, misery-stick).

Don’t fret! It’s actually a good sign that your bull-sh*t programs are coming up for a cache clearing.

How Do I Clean Up My Disk?

Firstly, being aware that your disk (subconscious) needs clearing is a huge plus — congratulations! Then you can get to work.

This is where the ‘fake it to make it’ adage comes in handy.

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Repetition is what got you there in the first place, so now you can start building a new program even if it feels foreign at first. Affirm the new program when you wake up in the morning and just as you dose off at night.

Keep yourself in check if the old program rears its head. You can even go for hypnosis if that feels right for you.

Read related articles: A Hindu Priest Explains How Your Subconscious Mind Can Be Reprogrammed and How to Re-Program Your Subconscious Mind to Get What You Want (Video)

Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author/columnist, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She has an official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates). You can also check out her Facebook band page at Templeton Universe.

Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.

This article (The Scary Truth About Our Subconscious Programming) was originally written for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons.

Other articles you may enjoy:

2 Damn Good Reasons Why You Need to Love Yourself!

5 Super Easy Exercises to Creating a Positive Life!

5 Golden Nuggets I Would’ve Wanted to Know as a Youth

Save the Date! My Solo Exhibition ’42’ is Happening This October!

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Come join me and the Magpie Collective for the launch of my exhibition ’42’. It promises to be an evening of reflection, intrigue, deep thought and conversation.

Welcome drinks and nibbles will be available and all art lovers are invited.

The exhibition runs from the 6th October until the 9th November 2018.

 

Why You Should Ask Only Once

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During a daily ‘quickie’ meditation me and my hubby do, Mike turns to me and asks, ‘Why do we keep on asking for the same thing — surely that shows you don’t trust the process?’

I tried to defend the situation by saying that repetition and affirmation anchor a desire. Then I thought about what my wise partner had said. He was, of course, right.

Esther Hicks (who channels ‘Abraham’) even said that when you ask it is always given — a cache exists in the ether of things waiting to match your vibration so you can claim them.

We have now changed how we do things and ask only once and then, in our daily meditation, give thanks for having it and feel into that timeline.

What does that mean though?

It simply means that you only need to ask once and it is given. It is then your job to raise your vibration and sort out those limiting beliefs that keep you from your desire so that you can meet that dream/goal.

That sounds like a right trough of gobbledygook, doesn’t it? We hear about limiting beliefs and raising your vibration but how exactly do you do that?

The Easiest Solution to Life and the Universe

You, in the revolutionary words of Bashar, follow your highest excitement — which means that you live every second of every day in joy and following a path of least resistance to what is. Read related article: Making Peace With the Chaos in Your Life

Ergo, if you need to go to the toilet — enjoy that experience. Be grateful for the toilet and the toilet tissue that you can gently caress your derriere with afterwards. If you feel you need to take a nap — do so with gratitude for your nice, warm bed and relish in the peace that comes with sleep. If you need to make a sandwich — make the best sarnie you can and give thanks for the food in your pantry.

Gratitude is a fierce force for raising your vibration. Following your passion and joy boosts your happiness levels. Do both and you’ll be whiz-banging all the way.

Read related article: Simply BE in Gratitude (Take a Bold Step In Your Conscious Evolution!)

What about the moments that aren’t so pleasant? Say for instance: Paying the bills, going to work, cleaning the soap scum in the shower type-stuff?

Why do you believe that these things can be anything but pleasant?

  • If you can pay your bills then you are lucky! Give gratitude for the money you have and the service you are paying for. If you don’t have money, trust that everything will come to you as it should —not a moment too soon or too late. I’ve been doing this lately and it works a treat. At first, it’s harrowing but as you see the fluidity of how the universe works, you’ll start to Trust more.
  • If you don’t like your job, put out an intention to work somewhere more pleasant and then do your job to the best of SUBSCRIBE icon 1your ability — see if you can pick out the positive traits in the work you do. It might be a pleasant colleague or a great coffee machine. Start small and build it up even if the only positive thing you can glean is that you get paid for your services — then be grateful for that.
  • Make cleaning a game, put on some music and scrub to the beat. Be grateful that you have a shower. There are people out there who have to wash from a bucket.

These small things like giving thanks for food and having a warm bed, etc are stepping stones to raising your vibration.

If you liked this article, you may consider starting a gratitude journal. Every day write something you are grateful for, no matter how big or small. You’ll see your life start to change when you focus on the positive!

Get your gratitude journal today (click on this link or the picture below) for yourself or for someone you know who’s starting out on a self-empowerment path and could use a bit of motivation!

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These gratitude journals can be purchased lined or blank (depending on whether you prefer drawing what you’re grateful for or writing it). They are 13.2cm x 18.6cm – a handy pocket-sized journal!

Other articles you may enjoy:

2 Damn Good Reasons Why You Need to Love Yourself!

5 Super Easy Exercises to Creating a Positive Life!

5 Golden Nuggets I Would’ve Wanted to Know as a Youth

2 Damn Good Reasons Why You Need to Love Yourself!

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What’s the Deal with Self Love?

“Self-love is the source of all our other loves.” — Pierre Corneille

Healthy self love is not narcissistic or egotistical — let’s just get that out the way first off.  Some people immediately associate self love with selfishness or egotism — it is neither.

To love yourself is as important as breathing — without it your cup is empty and you can’t truly love or give of yourself if you’re an empty vessel, now can you?

Related Article: What You Need to Throw Out When You Decide to Choose Fulfillment

Meet Jane…

Jane is a vibrant and gifted woman. Jane is also a people pleaser. She spent over 10  years in a dead end relationship with John because she didn’t want to leave him.

Why?

She didn’t want to hurt his feelings.

Wow.

When I questioned Jane about why she hadn’t thought of her own happiness in this equation, she said that she ‘didn’t matter’. She went on to say that she has tried to placate all the people in her life because she wants to ‘keep the peace’ and not ‘rock the boat’.

Jane also divulged that when she was younger she was taught to be selfless and giving and that if she didn’t adhere to these principles she wouldn’t go to heaven.

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?” — Shailene Woodley

So as we started unraveling the complicated tapestry of Jane’s self worth and self love issues, we started getting towards the crux: Jane believed that God wanted her to be self-sacrificing otherwise she wasn’t worthy of His/Her love.

What complete and utter balderdash!

Thing is, a lot of people still believe this to be true and I think it’s the complete opposite. You are a worthy and lovable creation of the creator and deserve as much love and respect as every other beautiful being.

You’ve got to get with the divine program and start turning that love dial to full tilt on the inside!

Related Article: Self Love: The Importance of Consciously Valuing You

Unscrambling the Concept of Self-Sacrifice

Here’s why I don’t think it’s healthy to be self-sacrificing:

  • SUBSCRIBE icon 1When you have regard for other peoples feelings that is great — it’s called empathy/compassion/tact/kindness — nothing wrong with those traits. But when you do this with no regard for yourself you are, in fact, going against your own principles. Why? Because you are a person too…duh! Did you ever stop to think that you — a shard of the divine in carnation — are doing an injustice to a human being (your very own self!)?
  • When you decide to be in ‘service to others’ instead of ‘service to self’ (this is where egotism and narcissism reign supreme) it is a most noble and amazing thing but you need to be included in that service. It is completely contradictory to abuse your own rights and feelings in order to help others. In fact, you cannot truly give of yourself if you have no self love or sense of self worth.

If you need a bit of help with getting over societal conditioning and not giving a damn about what other people think of you so you can clear a path to self love, give this article a once over: 8 Tips on How to Stop Caring What Other People Think of You

Conclusion: if we all learned to love ourselves more we’d have world peace. Give it a shot.

If you liked this article, you may consider starting a gratitude journal. Every day write something you are grateful for, no matter how big or small. You’ll see your life start to change when you focus on the positive!

Get your gratitude journal today (click on this link or the picture below) for yourself or for someone you know who’s starting out on a self-empowerment path and could use a bit of motivation!

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These gratitude journals can be purchased lined or blank (depending on whether you prefer drawing what you’re grateful for or writing it). They are 13.2cm x 18.6cm – a handy pocket-sized journal!

Other articles you may find interesting:

Simply BE in Gratitude

Remember: You Can Alchemize Anything!