Stewing in Your Juices
I’m normally quite a chilled person. Nothing phases me. Until…
- I take on too much work
- I get into my ‘yes’ mode and make arrangements and dates that clog my diary
- I volunteer my services willy-nilly
- My housework starts to mount
- My ‘to do’ list grows around the garden (especially as I’m trying to do the whole sustainability thing)
- I have awesome ideas but have to implement them (adding to the head clutter and time/schedule disaster)
I’m sure you can probably relate to most of the above. Then what happens is that chilled out person who thought they could take on the world in a heart beat starts to panic.
The Signs of a Meltdown
The walls of my diary close in and anxiety starts to rear its ugly head.
- Panic attacks
- Sweaty palms
- Emotional outbursts (usually involving tears)
- Temper whirlwinds
- Feeling defeated and impotent
- Losing it over the smallest things
We can experience the above on a smaller or larger scale, depending on the level of anxiety and what looms ahead.
Okay, so what can be done?
Anxiety Be Gone!
Well, I’m trying to give myself a well-deserved pep talk here ’cause I suddenly realized the other day that I was slipping off the cliff of the ‘work’ I had piled up.
Amid my darkest moment, I came to the conclusion that it was going to be done whether I fretted about it or not. And what couldn’t be done was just not going to be done. It’s really quite simple.
So, on a practical level, try to:
- Get what’s in your head down onto paper (this works a treat!)
- Now you can make a priority list
- Schedule your time wisely and you’ll find you can fit a lot into your day
- Don’t stress about how much you’ve got to do by getting tangled up in the future tasks — concentrate on the task at hand
- Read no. 4 again.
- Yip…read no. 4 and 5 again!
- As Yoda said, ‘Do or do not’ — in this context, do what you must do and stop whinging about it. Have you ever stopped to think how much time we waste worrying or bitching about what we have to do instead of doing it?
Example: I have a mountain of clothes to pack away. Every morning I get up and look at this mountain and feel despair. It affects me greatly. I don’t like a messy bedroom — that’s where I’m supposed to go to relax, not stare at a heap of rags.
What not to do: Whine about the job. Look at the heap in deflated impotence. Complain about how much other stuff you have to do. Sit and have a cup of coffee and catch up on your Facebook feed. Or, in my case, write a blog about it, whilst — out of the corner of my eye — I can see into my bedroom and the washing pile is staring happily back at me.
Solution: Do it. A 5 minute rant could have you half way done by now. You can have that cuppa AND pack the washing away (what a novel idea!).
There is actually plenty of time in a day when you use it wisely. The above example is small fish compared to some of the whoppers we have to face in life and prepare for. However, inevitably, we are remarkable creatures with an ability to squeeze a lot into our lives when our minds are prepared well enough.
Let’s go back to no. 4, 5 and 6 of the tips list. This tip has helped me exponentially over the past few days. I’m a Virgo and a control freak. When my schedule starts mounting up and I feel like I’m losing control — it’s a blood bath! I have the tendency of looking ahead at what I have to do tomorrow, the next day and so on into infinity. This makes matters worse.
All we have to concentrate on is what lays before us today. You can deal with tomorrow, well, tomorrow! If it’s really a pickle, then set aside 10-15 minutes of today to work out a game-plan for tomorrow so you can at least get some sleep.
If there is ever something to remember about anxiety it’s this: one step at a time! You’re amazing and you’ll do it all, only if you tackle what’s in front of you now. As my dear mother used to say, ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’.
And now for something completely different…a little humour to liven up your stress monster:
Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author and multi-media artist from South Africa. To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com.
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No More Unconscious Creating
In the absence of love we are left with fear.
When we no longer trust our instincts we give in to fear. You can see fear as an illusion and only becomes a perceived reality when you let it become manifest.
Illusion versus Perceived Reality
To illustrate this point, lets take the illusory nature of assumption (for more about assumption, CLICK HERE).
When you assume something you do not possess all the facts or truth of the matter at hand. When you form an idea of what is happening you are assuming (which is an illusory concept).
Then when your assumption has rooted itself in your psyche as the truth, you give it form and this can lead either to the creation of your assumption or the suffering of your ego based on the assumption. And all this was made possible through an illusion.
“When you worry about something you are future-projecting a negative outcome. “
Fear works in much the same way. Worry is a form of fear that most of us are altogether too familiar with. When you worry about something you are future-projecting a negative outcome.
Sometimes the situations we worry about never come to pass. Worry is an illusion.
When we talk about the NOW or present moment awareness, we are referring to the point of acceptance that one arrives at when there is an absence of fear. There are many roads that take you to fear such as worry, anxiety, stress, panic, anger, resentment, revenge, etc but they all are rooted in fear.
So, succinctly, fear is the root on the scale of negativity. The opposite of fear would be love.
Good Ol’ Gushy Love
The emotions that lead you to love are joy, happiness, elation, bliss, mirth, laughter, etc and these are all rooted in love. The ultimate root on the scale of positivity. The light and dark aspects of existence.
Without either of these perspectives we would live a very dull life. We need a basis of comparison, in other words, how would you know not to put your hand in the fire if you had never been burnt.
How would you know just how perfect your body felt if you hadn’t had that painful Thai massage?
“If you choose to let fear take a back seat you will see the world open up to you in ways you never imagined.”
We need comparisons to ascertain what we do want.
Fear is generally not wanted but it certainly gains momentum. It is a tricky little blighter. The thing is, and always is, are you aware? When you can become aware of your fears you can deal with them. If you are playing the victim role, then perhaps you are quite content to be in a cocoon of misery – the choice will always remain yours.
Do you want this? Is there a better way? There is always choice and we are always co-creating our lives. If you choose to let fear take a back seat you will see the world open up to you in ways you never imagined.
When you can master how you spend your energy and who you spend it on, you will not be sucked into the various dramas that people create. When you no longer fear living, you will begin to truly live in a way that embraces every moment and does not fear death.
The Dirty ‘D’ word — Death
Death is probably the biggest fear of all. Death is a gateway to another experience. Experience is the key to existence.
So instead of thinking of death as a finality, think of it as the ultimate experience and see how you can drop the illusion of fear that is crusted around death.
As I once said to an atheist science teacher, what have you got to lose? If there is nothing after death, then you would never know and would just be snuffed out, with no after thoughts. No problem there.
“True freedom can only be found on the path that leads to the root of love — the knowing that all is well and the trusting that the universe is organized and you are a part of that.”
However, if there was an ecstatic afterlife with a soul group orientation, my God – what a bonus! Now I say that very tongue-in-cheek but in all seriousness – we are energy, ask any scientist. Energy cannot be destroyed, only transmuted. F
ear around death is truly scary as it acts like a net that traps you.
Have you ever noticed how some people transcend this life with a smile on their face and how some leave truly terrified? Which one do you want to be?
True freedom can only be found on the path that leads to the root of love — the knowing that all is well and the trusting that the universe is organized and you are a part of that.
“We all need to have our eyes wide open to what we are manifesting and creating on a day-to-day, if not minute-to-minute, basis. “
Look out into the universe. Can you see how there is structure in everything out there? There is the cycle of life, death and even a bit of chaos thrown in-between but there always seems to be an order and organization to the universe itself.
Planets aren’t shaped like bananas or cubes, they are round (or at least they were when I wrote this). Most of them are in orbit around a sun.
There are, of course, some free-for-alls that do not have a sun to orbit and drift through space but what a wonderful metaphor for how some of us feel! You know, the macrocosm reflecting the microcosm and vice versa.
Bashing Fear on the Nose
Fear is something that we all deal with daily. No matter what label you put on the emotion – if it is negative or coming from a lower vibration, it boils down to fear. We now need to march straight up to it and bash it on the nose.
“Everything you experience is a manifestation of your thought.”
There is no more time for unconscious creating in this world (for more about consciously co-creating your life, CLICK HERE). We all need to have our eyes wide open to what we are manifesting and creating on a day-to-day, if not minute-to-minute, basis.
Everything you experience is a manifestation of your thought. Everything from the bird in the tree that is singing to the cup of coffee that sits next to you.
Most people just think about manifestations as being on the bigger scale. ‘Oh, I know I manifested that really needy relationship’ or ‘Yes, I acknowledge that I my anger could have caused the accident’ but do we really consider even the smallest of creations. If not, you should – because there is no chance in our world – everything is co-created and manifested through collective or individual consciousness.
Hard pill to swallow? Good! Nothing worth knowing comes to you on a silver platter.
Fear not, all is well.