What Can Roses Teach Us About Boundaries?

Natures True Beauty

The roses in my garden 🙂

We have the most gorgeous roses in my little Karoo garden. We have red rose topiaries that flank our driveway. These roses (see pic to your right and below) are so red that they actually hurt your eyes when you stare at them too long.

I set out to sketch these roses for a design idea I had for my store.

What stood out for me was that these beautiful roses had massive, massive thorns.

Big ones and little ones — so you can’t even think of touching them. And to pick them, you’d have to don some serious gloves!

Beauty and Boundaries

It got me thinking.

Such fragile and glorious flowers but you can’t touch them…lol. Nature has a great sense of humour!

Or maybe, just maybe, it’s natures way of protecting this grand creation.

After all, if roses weren’t so thwart with sharp sticky outy bits, we’d probably desecrate rose bushes instead of letting them be and leaving the admiration to pure sight — look, don’t touch.

Roses have some pretty strong boundaries.

Our Own Thorns

This is the design I came up with 🙂 For a limited time only, you can get these cushions for $20.83 when you buy 2 or more.

We, as human beings, can be pretty prickly too sometimes.

Occasionally, it takes the care of someone handling us with gloves and taking the time to have proper pruning sheers before they can get to us 😉

Through whatever experience we’ve gone through in our lives, we can sprout thorns on demand when we feel in danger of being torn down or stomped on. Perhaps even when we feel threatened by our own beauty (inner or outer) that can shine out and attract unwanted energy or attention.

It’s a thorny issue (corny, I know).

Some people may call us bitches or bastards for this inherent trait but, upon reflection, I think it could be nature’s very own way of helping us to set boundaries when our innate is telling us someone or something is not serving us. Or, possibly, we could be in very real danger, whether it is emotional or physical.

Sometimes thorns are needed.

My roses seem to be telling me to trust my innate sense of wisdom, it’s there for a reason. Or maybe they’re telling me I’m a prick.

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3 Unusual Steps to Mapping Your Way Through Life

Free Spirit by Cherie Roe Dirksen

“Sci-fi has never really been my bag. But I do believe in a lot of weird things these days, such as synchronicity. Quantum physics suggests it’s possible, so why not?” — John Cleese

We all hit junctions — those dreaded forks in the road — at certain epochs of our lives.  The thing that frightens us the most is ‘are we making the right choice?’ when we embark on any new venture or life altering choice.

I’m going to discuss how to navigate confidently and without doubt (and without a map — just using your internal GPS) those important life decisions in 3 easy steps.  But first let’s look at why we don’t need maps, books, guru’s or anything else outside ourselves to soldier on in this blossoming age of Aquarius.

What is Heart-Centered Living Really About?

The pivotal ethos to living in this new era or paradigm is to be focused on heart-guidance.

What is heart-guidance?

It’s not some wishy-washy glitter banter that requires you to don a floral bandana, fish out the bell bottoms and dance around a campfire singing ‘Kumbaya’ — it’s a serious new way of approaching our inner strength, power and ability to tap into the essence of all that is.

In a nutshell, it’s the vital self empowerment tool.

Think of heart-centered living as trusting your intuition — the superconscious universal mind.  It’s the Divine Soup that makes up existence and simmers with creative potential.

External Crutches Be Gone!

When we follow our thinking alone, we tend to seek external help.  We labour under the delusion that we are not good enough and that there must be someone out there who knows more than we do, so we seek the knowledge for progress outside of ourselves.

Fat lot of good that’s done us so far, right?

It’s not that some people or information can’t help us, it’s the principle that any external help is merely an aid not a solution.  Going inside is inevitably the only way.  We are creatures of ingrained habit and following a path that we can only see a foot ahead is no easy feat — that is one of the reasons why we slip back into old ways of doing things that feel safe.

However, there is no real safety in repetitive behavior that doesn’t lead to necessary growth.

When we trust our instincts, no matter how ‘unplannned’ (meaning that we have no step-by-step plan on how to get there), we embark on a journey that is intuitive and that is why your synchronicity feelers need to be out there tracking the waves of the universe (I’ll discuss more about synchronicity below).

When you first approach the heart (what you feel is right) and marry that with the head (the course of action to take) you are using heart-centered guidance.

So, it’s not so hippy after all, eh?  It’s about bringing the two into balance.

You’re going to be out of whack if you use only your head or only your heart.  It’s the old Yin and Yang aspect of self again.  You can’t lean too heavy on either side — you need to find that Goldilocks zone to get the balance right.

Let’s get to the 3 steps of using that inner GPS system:

  1. Intuition — This is going with your gut instinct or listening to your heart.  You know what makes you happy and what doesn’t.  Most of us run on auto-pilot and let the subconscious mind take over which usually leads us to repetitive behavior and not expansive creation.  Using the intuition or heart center will help you to tap into the superconscious mind (read more about the superconscious and subconscious mind HERE).
  2. Synchronicity — Trust in those meaningful encounters and situations, they are not mere ‘coincidences’ , they are actually pointers from spirit that guide us to the right path.  If you have no idea what synchronicity is, then I strongly urge you to read more about it HERE — it could change your life and way of thinking.  We are made of energy and exude a certain frequency or vibration with our emotions — especially the highly charged variety.  When we send out a vibration into the universe it is matched and then certain markers are sent back to us as precursors to the frequency we are trying to manifest.  If we ignore those markers, we could end up ignoring the trail that is lighting up for us to follow. This is why synchronicity is vital to take note of.
  3. Flow — We’ve got to keep making sure that we are surrendering to the universal flow.  If we struggle against what is and try to paddle furiously against the stream of the present moment, life becomes a floundering fight.  If we give in and stop resisting, we let the current take us with grace and ease to our destination.  How do you slip into this flow?  Be at peace with yourself and your NOW moment.  Trust that you are heading in the direction of your greater good and keep aligning your self to joy and being in touch with spirit.  Get plenty of rest, meditate and try to feel that everything is in Divine Order.  What you inject (through feeling and intent) into the present is what you will reap in your future NOW moment.

Happy Trail Blazing!

Original article written by Cherie Roe Dirksen for Conscious Life News — click HERE to see why nearly 400 000 readers follow them daily

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Is Fear or Love Winning in Your Life?

No More Unconscious Creating

We are now firmly rooted in the dawning of a new age and new consciousness on Earth. However, there is one major topic we need to address – fear.

In the absence of love we are left with fear.

When we no longer trust our instincts we give in to fear.  You can see fear as an illusion and only becomes a perceived reality when you let it become manifest.

Illusion versus Perceived Reality  

To illustrate this point, lets take the illusory nature of assumption (for more about assumption, CLICK HERE).

When you assume something  you do not possess all the facts or truth of the matter at hand.  When you form an idea of what is happening you are assuming (which is an illusory concept).

Then when your assumption has rooted itself in your psyche as the truth, you give it form and this can lead either to the creation of your assumption or the suffering of your ego based on the assumption.  And all this was made possible through an illusion.

“When you worry about something you are future-projecting a negative outcome. “

Fear works in much the same way.  Worry is a form of fear that most of us are altogether too familiar with.  When you worry about something you are future-projecting a negative outcome.

Sometimes the situations we worry about never come to pass.  Worry is an illusion.

When we talk about the NOW or present moment awareness, we are referring to the point of acceptance that one arrives at when there is an absence of fear.  There are many roads that take you to fear such as worry, anxiety, stress, panic, anger, resentment, revenge, etc but they all are rooted in fear.

So, succinctly, fear is the root on the scale of negativity.  The opposite of fear would be love.

Good Ol’ Gushy Love

The emotions that lead you to love are joy, happiness, elation, bliss, mirth, laughter, etc and these are all rooted in love.  The ultimate root on the scale of positivity.  The light and dark aspects of existence.

Without either of these perspectives we would live a very dull life.  We need a basis of comparison, in other words, how would you know not to put your hand in the fire if you had never been burnt.

How would you know just how perfect your body felt if you hadn’t had that painful Thai massage?

“If you choose to let fear take a back seat you will see the world open up to you in ways you never imagined.”

We need comparisons to ascertain what we do want.

Fear is generally not wanted but it certainly gains momentum.  It is a tricky little blighter.  The thing is, and always is, are you aware?  When you can become aware of your fears you can deal with them.  If you are playing the victim role, then perhaps you are quite content to be in a cocoon of misery – the choice will always remain yours.

Do you want this?  Is there a better way?  There is always choice and we are always co-creating our lives.  If you choose to let fear take a back seat you will see the world open up to you in ways you never imagined.

When you can master how you spend your energy and who you spend it on, you will not be sucked into the various dramas that people create.  When you no longer fear living, you will begin to truly live in a way that embraces every moment and does not fear death.

The Dirty ‘D’ word — Death

Death is probably the biggest fear of all.  Death is a gateway to another experience.  Experience is the key to existence.

So instead of thinking of death as a finality, think of it as the ultimate experience and see how you can drop the illusion of fear that is crusted around death.

As I once said to an atheist science teacher, what have you got to lose?  If there is nothing after death, then you would never know and would just be snuffed out, with no after thoughts.  No problem there.

“True freedom can only be found on the path that leads to the root of love — the knowing that all is well and the trusting that the universe is organized and you are a part of that.”

However, if there was an ecstatic afterlife with a soul group orientation, my God – what a bonus!  Now I say that very tongue-in-cheek but in all seriousness – we are energy, ask any scientist.  Energy cannot be destroyed, only transmuted.  F

ear around death is truly scary as it acts like a net that traps you.

Have you ever noticed how some people transcend this life with a smile on their face and how some leave truly terrified?  Which one do you want to be?

Be Free

True freedom can only be found on the path that leads to the root of love — the knowing that all is well and the trusting that the universe is organized and you are a part of that.

“We all need to have our eyes wide open to what we are manifesting and creating on a day-to-day, if not minute-to-minute, basis. “

Look out into the universe.  Can you see how there is structure in everything out there?  There is the cycle of life, death and even a bit of chaos thrown in-between but there always seems to be an order and organization to the universe itself.

Planets aren’t shaped like bananas or cubes, they are round (or at least they were when I wrote this).  Most of them are in orbit around a sun.

There are, of course, some free-for-alls that do not have a sun to orbit and drift through space but what a wonderful metaphor for how some of us feel!  You know, the macrocosm reflecting the microcosm and vice versa.

Bashing Fear on the Nose

Fear is something that we all deal with daily.  No matter what label you put on the emotion – if it is negative or coming from a lower vibration, it boils down to fear.  We now need to march straight up to it and bash it on the nose.

“Everything you experience is a manifestation of your thought.”

There is no more time for unconscious creating in this world (for more about consciously co-creating your life, CLICK HERE).  We all need to have our eyes wide open to what we are manifesting and creating on a day-to-day, if not minute-to-minute, basis.

Everything you experience is a manifestation of your thought.  Everything from the bird in the tree that is singing to the cup of coffee that sits next to you.

Most people just think about manifestations as being on the bigger scale.  ‘Oh, I know I manifested that really needy relationship’ or ‘Yes, I acknowledge that I my anger could have caused the accident’ but do we really consider even the smallest of creations.  If not, you should – because there is no chance in our world – everything is co-created and manifested through collective or individual consciousness.

Hard pill to swallow?  Good!  Nothing worth knowing comes to you on a silver platter.

Fear not, all is well.

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